Would you date someone who reminds you of an certain EX?
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Posted 11/16/12
I'm pretty most of you, or well, some of you have an "certain" ex who harbors feelings within you more so than the others. I have a lot of exes, but only really one I would take back in a heart beat; Cause when its that real, it just doesn't fade. I legitimately fell in love with her. But thats another story.

The new girl, reminds me of her way too much, likes the same things, same personality, everything.. its to the point where I accidentally called her by my exes name..lol. Its a first impression that feels like a second chance. Its been bothering me lately, cause im like.. am I with her cause of her, or cause of who she reminds me of? Bah relationships.

How about you?
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I reached a point a long time ago where I swore to never get back with an ex. I did that once, only once, and it was an on again off again relationship that dragged on for a year and a half after it first ended. I can't say I was happier or better off for the experience, but it's a lesson learned. That's why once the relationship ends, we part ways, and they're not in my life any longer. I don't hate them, per se, but it's as clean a break as possible, just to cut down on the drama and give each of us a fair chance to move on.

Given that, I don't think I'd want to date a woman who reminds me "too much" of an ex. I can easily accept common interests, since I tend to attract women with similar interests to my own. Other than that, I'd probably try to avoid it for the same reason you're asking this question now. I may not have the answer you're looking for, but there's my perspective. It might just be that you have a "type" you're particularly attracted to, and both of them just happened to have that particular combination of features/personalty. With this many people on the planet, it's bound to happen every now and then.

(Now that I think about it a bit more, Kokoro Connect had a situation somewhat reminiscent of this come up, and some soul searching was involved there, too.)
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No. My current boyfriend is pretty much the polar opposite of every person I have ever dated, which is why I think it's working out so well. I always dated people I thought my parents and friends would approve of and it never worked out because the relationships always had such a shallow foundation.

Every once in a while he will say something that reminds me of an ex though and it will seriously make my stomach turn.
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Posted 11/16/12
Yeah because both of the girls are different she might make me remember my ex but there still different it didn't work out with my ex but it might work out with her.
Posted 11/16/12
My only ex I really don't have feelings for besides as a friend, so it'd be okay if the guy was kinda iffeminate and likes Kingdom Hearts, but if he talked in the same way and was really similar it would probably be a little too weird and awkward~
Posted 11/16/12 , edited 11/16/12
Hell no!

I've met two guys like that who I found attractive. Than I remembered why I found them attractive in the first place is because they reminded me of my ex. I instantly avoided both of them.
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Posted 11/16/12
She even does her eye make up the same..lol.
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