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Posted 11/25/12

CarboKill wrote:


Custard7A wrote:

Nice grammar is a good start, for online socializing.


Online socialising doesn't mean shit to be honest. It's a good way for socially awkward people to pretend they're talkative.


People who present their opinions in the format of a fact are among my top designates for social unpleasantness. I'm not a socially awkward person in reality (from other people's perceptions), and I don't pretend to be a socialite online. I do find the internet to be a good medium of discussing things I otherwise wouldn't with the company I keep in person. Over the years I have been quite interested in things I've discussed and people I've met online, and I resent your statement. Also, I find your critique rather ironic, since you are participating in — and, by your own opinion completely wasting your time — in this forum.
Posted 11/25/12

CarboKill wrote:

Jesus Christ, I was't even trying to offend you. Good to know how important your internet reputation is rofl.


You make me out as a fool, then call me a fool for defending myself. I'm not particularly effected — and I don't even think I have an online reputation to be honest — I'd just like to say how stupid that is.
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Posted 11/25/12
Social grace on the inturdnet = None

Social grace in reality = Alcohol, Recreational Activities/Drugs, Money, etc., etc.

Most of the people I know are either jaded, conceited or disingenuous and over the years they rubbed off on me pretty good.


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Posted 11/25/12

KiteCross wrote:

Social grace on the inturdnet = None

Social grace in reality = Alcohol, Recreational Activities/Drugs, Money, etc., etc.

Most of the people I know are either jaded, conceited or disingenuous and over the years they rubbed off on me pretty good.




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Posted 11/25/12
The more comfortable you are with yourself, the easier it is to make friends. If you try to act your way into getting more friends people are going to notice on some level. People are going to sense the uneasiness or outright fear of the situation in you. They are going to know on some level that you are not comfortable around them. People who can make new friends without even trying are those who are completely comfortable in their own skin. They emanate happiness because they are happy people. If you love yourself its easy to connect with and love others.
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Posted 11/25/12 , edited 11/25/12
I think a big part of having social grace is knowing when to draw the line with unpleasantness. For example, when someone asks 'how are you?" not following it with a diatribe about a cold coffee or a backache or something that's unpleasant but not really life-altering. No one flocks to the Debbie downer. It is a lesson I have had to learn myself! I also find that even if I have a bad start to the day if I act like it wasn't so bad it quickly fades into a good day. A simple smile goes a long way too. You don't have to be super friendly or jumping for attention for people to look forward to seeing you again.
Posted 11/26/12
For one thing, you need to be cleanly and fashionably dressed. it gives off a good impression to other. Some self-confidence and good conversation skills also help. I usually have to work on the latter. It is good to know a little about everything, or be able to learn and understand what is being told to you in a conversation. Be curious about what the other person is interested in and try to find similar interests. Try to be elegant in everything you do, from the way you carry yourself to the way you speak.
Posted 11/26/12
unfortunately in my world, it has a lot to do with looks
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Posted 11/26/12

KiteCross wrote:

Social grace on the inturdnet = None

Social grace in reality = Alcohol, Recreational Activities/Drugs, Money, etc., etc.

Most of the people I know are either jaded, conceited or disingenuous and over the years they rubbed off on me pretty good.




I should've taken this advice before I came to college
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Spring forum cleaning! Since it's a new month I'm closing all the old threads in room for the new ones. We close old threads from 6 months past with no activity. Please recreate if you wish to do so!
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