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This news is about 3 months old I remember reading this story on yahoo news about 3 months ago when it first came out
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As long as they're not having sex I don't see anything wrong with it. If 20yo guys can date 40yo women, then why should this be wrong?
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as long as he does not do anything funny until she is of legal age I don't see the issue. Its not my personal taste though so I'm trying not to judge.
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I'm surprised people think that it's ok because girls used to get married very young back in the day. Yes it was common back then but it also meant many children and young girls were left vulnerable to all kinds of abuse without anyone speaking out for them. The reality is that this guy in showing romantic interest towards a girl he has known and mentored since the age of 8, and she is still a child which makes it an abuse of power and trust. An adult has power over a child and most children are taught to respect an obey adults and as a mentor he is in a position of trust. The fact that he's been in her life means he was in a position of great influence to her around the times she was still vulnerable. This means she's at high risk of being manipulated into going along with what he wants because she trusts him and he holds an important position in her life. My question is why couldn't they maintain a friendship until she is at least old enough? Why this need to qualify their relationship as something more? And the countdown is nothing but creepy, almost like he has not considered she might ever grow up, change and want to end the relationship.


I could not say it better myself. For it may be true that we all mature at different rates and stages in life, how many of you can say for a fact that a twelve year old is mentally and physically prepared for what a twenty-four year old has to deal with? Although we cannot judge on how one may choose to love another, this guy is a total (Censored) for exposing her to the public like this. How many of you believe that a twelve year old is able to handle the public comments and discussions about her personal life? Many teenagers today, can't even handle the comments from peers (including hazing/bullying/harassment/etc), what makes you (those who believe it is okay for this relationship to exist) think it is okay for this relationship to exist?

The relationship, I can understand, but will not accept.
The media coverage and openness about the relationship is a selfish act, and his career deserves to crash and burn for that, especially if he's trying to use this to boost his popularity.
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Hmmm Interesting. Reminds me of America.
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What could she possibly have to offer him? She is a CHILD. Shame on her parents & shame on him. This is disgusting. I don't understand some people...
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I really dont know what to say at this moment but that you couldnt really judge them based off the fact that she young. My mom was 16 when she got married to my dad ad guess what, he was 36
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wow pedo
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My personal opinion she is too young at age 12, not matured enough to make that decision.
The age difference in (12 year difference) by itself doesn't bother me.

Note: She's 2 years away from legal age of consent in china.
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Well, if that guy really is a pedophile, then I don't think the relationship is going to last too long. I'd say she's probably got a year at best before puberty runs its course.
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I really dont know what to say at this moment but that you couldnt really judge them based off the fact that she young. My mom was 16 when she got married to my dad ad guess what, he was 36


It's not the age difference that concerns me. If she were 16 and he were 28 it wouldn't be an issue. My issue with it is that she's 12, he's 24, and he's in a position of power as her mentor.

Unbalanced relationships are seldom healthy to begin with, throw in the fact that she almost certainly hasn't developed enough mentally yet to have a romantic relationship with an adult, and the fact that they're evidently counting down to the age he can bang her and the whole thing comes across as extremely creepy to me. Young minds are very malleable, he's in a position to basically mold her into what he wants her to be.
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I don't really care. People's reactions here are funny though You've got kids in Africa cutting up eachother up with machetes and 2 celebs dating is what shocks you.
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I don't really care. People's reactions here are funny though You've got kids in Africa cutting up each other up with machetes and 2 celebs dating is what shocks you.


I can be disgusted about multiple things at once. Child soldiers and child sex slavery is obviously a more widespread issue than this, you'd be hard pressed to find someone who disputes that.
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Jdaimond wrote:

I really dont know what to say at this moment but that you couldnt really judge them based off the fact that she young. My mom was 16 when she got married to my dad ad guess what, he was 36


It's not the age difference that concerns me. If she were 16 and he were 28 it wouldn't be an issue. My issue with it is that she's 12, he's 24, and he's in a position of power as her mentor.

Unbalanced relationships are seldom healthy to begin with, throw in the fact that she almost certainly hasn't developed enough mentally yet to have a romantic relationship with an adult, and the fact that they're evidently counting down to the age he can bang her and the whole thing comes across as extremely creepy to me. Young minds are very malleable, he's in a position to basically mold her into what he wants her to be.


That completely depends on how mature she is. When I was 12, i was doing work that would probably be frowned upon for my age but it didnt change a thing i stil did it. If she is as mature as an 18 year old, thinks like a 18 year old and acts like a 18 year old than its cool.

Still. i understand that if he would do anything wrong to her it could devistate the life of someone that young.

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Jdaimond wrote:

That completely depends on how mature she is. When I was 12, i was doing work that would probably be frowned upon for my age but it didnt change a thing i stil did it. If she is as mature as an 18 year old, thinks like a 18 year old and acts like a 18 year old than its cool.

Still. i understand that if he would do anything wrong to her it could devistate the life of someone that young.


I'm going to quote LosingOrbit because she said it better than I could have.



My situation forced me to grow up fast too, I understood things no 12 year old should understand. Emotionally though I was still a 12 year old girl who didn't know nearly as much as I thought I did.
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