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itt: anime fans defend pedophilia and statutory rape
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We Americans have this beautiful way of forcing our beliefs and values on other country's.
Such as, being legal and mature enough for dating someone older starts at age 18(I understand the age difference from 12 to 18)
What if it was 19 or 29 i know it sounds stupid, but thats how we sound to people from those countrys. What about the immature 18 year olds who has been sheltered and has the maturity of a 10
year old? Our American, or other country's who have a close age limit to ours can't look down
and say...since your not doing what we believe in...your wrong. At the end of the day...she will wait
until she's old enough and then we will see how right our American ideals really are. I see reply's
saying " MOST girls at that age, or she can't possible understand what she's getting into and excedra"
basically speaking in her place. We shall wait and see then we will know if it was real.
As a female who was born into a family (of non-american origin) of females (and a dad) and raised around females (my dad was often deployed), had female friends, went to school with females and have tons of female relatives, I can tell you that no female I ever knew would be mature enough to date a guy that old. If I did that, my mom would come after him with a machete....and rightfully so. I often find that it is the males in a foreign society that encourage that sort of thing....if the females do, it is usually for economic/prestige/power reasons. I bet if they had a choice (women) they wouldn't allow/push their daughters to that sort of relationship.
So you basically saying that it is from your experience not normal...I agree, but we can't know if it is absolutely impossible to work out.
Would I date a 18I year old, hell no even if she is legal...it will be a sheer waste of my life force, but could it work if she was mature enough?
Maybe. What I'm saying is that they will go along with this no matter what we think or say, time is a beautiful thing in that it will reveal hidden truth's and POSSIBILITIES. we should follow this story to see if he waits for her and if their love is more than lust.
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EDIT// and for those of you guys claiming it's "normal" in other countries. c'mon guys, those are usually countries where children and females are second rate citizens. Don't use that as a legit comparison, you are not helping your case at all!
This is about china, the age of consent (sexual activity, not merely for marriage) there is 14, (16 in hong kong), so talking about how it is normal in other countries does hold sway. in canada it is 16. sure, 12 isn't 14, but the mental maturity doesnt increase exponentially between the two age. so if they do indeed wait until she is older (Which i for one hope they do, and judging from their laws it is most likely would be the cast (automatic life if he would do something now, and over 5 years if he waits for 14 before doing anything due to her being a canadian citizen rather then a chinese one)
still find it funny how if she was dating someone younger it would be alright, no matter how much she would be manipulated into doing stuff people would be fine with it, yet since he is over 20 there is such an outrage. is there really such a difference in love between a guy who is 16 and a guy who is 24 other then the fact that the guy at 24 would probably be more inclined to actually commit to a long term relationship?
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they look like a brother and sister
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karmacide wrote:
itt: anime fans defend pedophilia and statutory rape
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i love you for not being repulsive as hell
good job!!!
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go for it. age is a number, not a barrier.
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Disgusting! Just string him up and be done with it!
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The girl doesn't even look 12. She looks 8.
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It sickens me how close-minded some people can be and think they can judge someone else's relationship when it's none of their business.
So how should open minded people act? What's wrong with voicing concerns or having opinions when although we do not know this particular people, this kind of issue can affect anyone. Honestly I can't judge them because I don't know them but being aware of the risks I can still feel concerned.
There's no difference between this relationship... and another relationship where a 12-year-old-girl dates a boy of the same age. The girl could potentially get pregnant and ruin her life as well.
At least with this girl's relationship, the guy is old enough to know not to sleep with her. I'd rather she date this 24 year old than some horny 14-year-old boy who doesn't know how to put a condom on.
In addition, her parents consented to this, and it's her parents and her business, not anybody else in the world.
Firstly, how you can say there's no much difference between a 12-year-old-girl dating someone her own age and her dating a 24 year old adult is beyond me. Putting aside the fact that there are obvious mental and physical developmental differences, socially a 12-year-old is less likely to hold the same position as a 24 year old or even be allowed the same powers, same rights, same independence, equal responsibilities or equal opportunities. In this situation the power imbalance has been in place since the moment the guy became a mentor to her at age 8. As an adult you'd expect he is aware of the influence he has on her and how that might affect how she feels about him.
Secondly, why is a 14 year old boy considered too immature and incompetent in a relationship but a 12 year old girl is? If the girl can't be trusted to not sleep with a boy her own age, to not get pregnant and to not ruin her life then why then should we think she's prepared to handle an adult relationship? and 24 isn't a magic age where suddenly everyone is mature, responsible and knows exactly what to do and what not to do.
Finally not all parents know or even care about what's best for their children and some parents are perfectly happy to put their children in very risky situations.
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ADORABLEEEE, more power to you girl!
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Nozferi wrote:
Sex is an intregal part of any healthy relationship at the age of 24
Disregarding everything else in that post, no. That statement is completely and utterly wrong, and I can't just let it slide. There are plenty of people who have perfectly healthy relationships at age 24 without sex, and such relationships actually tend to be healthier than many of those that do involve sex. And the fact that so many people seem to be under the false impression that relationship = sex is what I think is the biggest problem in this topic.
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https://encyclopediadramatica.se/Winnar
A winnar is he. [ Don't follow the link if you're under 18. It's Encyclopedia Dramatica - a place where innocence goes to die.]
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maybe it's for publicity
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shotanime wrote:
Kay guys, let's look at this from a purely "scientific" perspective. and NOT a society-influenced value/opinions..
EVERYONE DO THEIR RESEARCH ABOUT THE BRAIN AND THE FRONTAL LOBE, which is responsible for long-term decision making. Adolescents do not, and cannot (even if they think they can) make decisions properly without parental/guardian guidance. I know that sounds like a big slap in the face for a lot of you who are adolescents, and i know for a FACT that if someone said this to me when I was 12, I would have called BS. And that's not a bad attitude to have. That head-strong attitude of yours will get you through some tough times in life, so it shouldn't be entirely discouraged.
However, the real FACT is, that the reason why we never understand these decisions when we are younger, is cause it does not affect us until we are older. Our decisions we make as children CAN affect us as adults. Meaning, there is a good chance she will grow up and look back, and think about this relationship in a different light.
I'm not angry or trying to pick a fight, but I would like to challenge you to an academic debate.
If you say from a "purely scientific perspective" without any societal opinion/values, then all mammalian organisms (which includes humans) are ready to begin sexual reproduction the moment they enter puberty/first menstrual cycle.
Yes, you are correct to say that teenagers are still developing decision-making part of the brain. But the fact that you bring this up means that you are involving society influence into your discussion.
However in a natural environment without any societal influence... people are ready to begin sexual reproduction since the start of puberty, and it doesn't matter how old their sexual partner is.
The reason why this case is such an uproar is because of the age difference -- which is a societal value.
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