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Posted 11/25/12
cuddle up with some ben and jerrys ice cream and watch my little monster or some other shoujo
Posted 11/25/12

glovemusic wrote:

WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF YOU GOT INTO A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE FOR ALMOST A YEAR AND FOUND OUT THAT THEY WERENT WHO THEY SAY THEY WERE?


I'd be bummed.

And this happens with offline dating, too.
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Posted 11/25/12
Simple:

1st: reply with 'alright, but...I am straight, meaning I like females. So, sorry, we are now broken up"

2nd: move on
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Why would you date someone over the internet first off. Go out and socialize with people around you!
Honestly if it were me I suppose I would be down for a bit, But a good walk would cheer me up.
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Posted 11/25/12

ZingFreelancer wrote:


glovemusic wrote:
HAHA JTFO well shes not that bad just not what i fell for not what im attacted too


You are in a difficult position, I know little of your circumstances or about your or hers feelings, or who came up with the idea of meeting one another. But consider yourself lucky, you got a chance to REDISCOVER something you already discovered. You have the opportunity to discover new things about a person you like and hopefully those things will make you like her even more. Try to make the best out of it and have fun, after all, she is probably the same person who you began liking in the first place.

When it comes to the looks, as long she does not look like someone hit by a brick in the face and then run over by a train... If she care, she will try everything she can to look her best for you, if you tease her a little about it now and then she will try even harder.

If it turns out she lied a whole load about her personality and stuff and she turns out to be a real bitch or compulsive lair, dump her.


The last and biggest issue, you have to find a way to deal with the dreaded "Can I trust her after what she did?" problem. This is a problem INSIDE OF YOU and you will have to deal with it or it will destroy you from inside.


ahhh thanks havent thought to look at it that way.. The can i even trust you part has crossed my mind alot though
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stargazers7 wrote:

Not really enough info about how they lied.Were they just out and out string along lies-white lies-lies of omission?Was it a lie because they didn't turn ou to be who you percieved them to be?After a year of pouring out my heart and soul to someone online I would be really pissed if after that time we couln't be truthful with each other even on a friendship level. If I was blatantly lied to I'd feel hurt, get over it and chalk it up to experience.Being lied to face to face and eye to eye hurts worse,and you will be lied to (even if you don't know it) and hurt many times over the course of your life.Not all women/people are liars,but the net is a pretty good place to find a bunch.Just don't close yourself off to everyone and future possiblities because of it.I personally have only known of 1 internet romance that ever worked out-but at least that's one!



Well basiclly she lied about who she was from the beginning looks whys a different person then to keep up that lied she had to make up things several times later to support the lie from the beginnning yea i know everyone lies but I was surprised i never lied to her and told her i hate to be lied to
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Posted 11/25/12
I would be sad for a while and move on.
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35 / M / OK, USA
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Posted 11/25/12
Break things off - relationships can't be based on lies like that.

After that, the best advice I've ever had in that kind of situation (really, it applies to any breakup) - take some time to sort out your feelings. You need time to mourn the relationship, in a lot of ways, and work through that. Don't swear off of online dating because of one bad result, but be more cautious in the future, at least at the start of each new relationship. I'm not a huge fan of online dating in general, because it is easier to lie online than in person, but with the right people, it can work.

I've had a fantastic relationship that was online-based before and after in-person dating (still great friends with the her), and a not-as-fantastic one where I haven't heard from her after we broke things off.
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Agreed. I'm assuming from the original post you never actually met this person IRL. I don't even think I'd even do that. I've met several people online (eventually meet in person) and form a relationship. Then again, you can know someone for years and do the exact same thing. People lie no matter how you meet them...
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