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Posted 11/29/12 , edited 11/29/12

Tekrelious wrote:


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Tekrelious wrote:

I remember looking around one day and realizing that all my friends were girls. I had almost no male friends. I spent all my time with girls when one day one of them sat me down and said, 'who do you like?' I was taken by surprise and said, 'well, nobody'. And she said, 'you're hurting us all. Pick one because we can't take this anymore'

That sucked so very very bad because after that I couldn't be friends with my friends anymore.



O___O, well, that's epic


Yeah, Tammy, Merideth, Jenn, Cat, Jessie, Erin, Rachel, I found out later that the only one that didn't have a crush on me was Jenn. Although I didn't find out Meri had a crush on me till 2 years after the fact. They called me 'Mr Clueless' because I couldn't catch a hint but it wasn't that, I didn't want to be in love with them, they were my girls. I didn't want to hurt any of them, I ended up hurting them all

I felt like the lead in a harem anime only there was no good end. I was so confused what to do. Plus I made the worst mistake I could possibly have made . . . I went after Jenn.

le sigh


wow, well, did you date with one of them to the day?
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Posted 11/29/12

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From my experience you only get friend zoned if you act "wimpy/less dominant" about the relationship. If you meet a girl you should go up to her letting her know you're interested in her in a sexual way rather than leading her on by being nice. Don't be gross and overly flirty but you do need to flirt, you do need to be the kindof lead in the situation and be the one to ask her out if you like her. Smile at her, if she's into talking with you and you get along, put your hand on her shoulder while talking to her. They teach that in business as well- it's the entire point of a handshake. To "connect".

I think that's the problem a lot of guys have. They don't go for it early on and try to "get in good" with the girl before trying to get with her. It doesn't work that way most of the time. If you find her attractive- go for it! Don't mope around as her friend for months. If you don't get a date the first few days, she's obviously not interested. You should just give up and chat up someone else. The more women you hit on- the more women you'll meet that enjoy your company. It's basic math. Don't get too hung up on 1 girl if she's not into you- someone else will be


100% agree master Yoda you are.
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Some girls like it when you ignore them.
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That video made me crack up.

Personally if a girl i really liked friendzoned me, i might start loving her.
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Man, I don't even care if the girl does not love me back.
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Posted 11/29/12
I been in the friend zone before and its not fun but as time passes by I learn to deal with it
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Posted 11/29/12
Hmm....never been in the friend zone because I repel women.
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Posted 11/29/12
Boy-/Girlfriends come and go... but true friendship is for eternity
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Posted 11/29/12
Sample size is too small for results to be statistically significant. The sample is also biased towards young men and women in their early 20's.

What this is really saying is that newly free from restriction adults raging with hormones can't possibly be just friends, as either one would totally do the other given the opportunity.

There is a difference between maturity and a 'friend zone'.
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Posted 3/13/13
i am always in the friendzone.
they think i am one of the boys perhaps T_T
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Posted 3/13/13 , edited 3/13/13
This is something my grandfather said to me It is an advice and he meant it quite literal.

You cannot love someone and spend too much time with that person(Ex: living together) resentment will build up from minor things that you will never notice until too much time is spend with the person. We are Chinese folks and when my grandfather was young he was loaded. His family had maids that were brought into the family(literally brought).

My grandfather decided to marry one of the maids(My grandma) instead of what he calls the love of his life(she still comes over to play mahjong often)


Basically in other words, what he is trying to tell me is the people who are so called friendzoned to you might actually be the people you love most in life.



Edit: it's like loving your car say you have a summer car, and a for business/work car. If you drive the summer car too much you will just think your summer car is your work car. If you really love your summer car, you gotta let it go and leave it in the garage.
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Posted 3/13/13
^ That's a quite a nice story. It's like how relationships are temporary, but friendship is forever.

And as for my thoughts on the friend-zone, I've heard way too much "She doesn't wanna date me, so I've been friendzoned!" by Nice Guys to really sympathize with the term anymore. Now, props to you if you handle it maturely, but I've just seen way too much immaturity on this subject.
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Posted 3/13/13
Oh come on! They must have asked at least one guy who said "yes!!!!" Funny video though, still quite insightful.

Has anyone else had a girl come on to them quite a lot, then when you just say "I like you back" pretty much ... friend-zoned? Girls love to play!
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Posted 3/13/13 , edited 3/13/13

KikuTengu wrote:

^ That's a quite a nice story. It's like how relationships are temporary, but friendship is forever.

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It's a true story, I'm pretty sure my grandmother was a maid.

And that is in many ways correct, what my grandfather wanted to tell me is that the person that is most dear to you is better remained as a friend. Better to happily see her/him go off and marry some random person you know nothing of, then to live with her/him everyday and then complaining how their shit smells funny.


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I watched that whole stupid video and it was just boring and stupid. Freaking Utah.

This is the thing about sex, love, and friendship: they are neither mutually exclusive nor mutually inclusive. You can have sex with people you don't like, be in love with someone you refuse to even talk to, and have friends that you sometimes have sex with, just because.

Being willing to have sex with someone doesn't mean that they can't be your friend, and being friends with a person doesn't mean you won't have sex with them. Actually, women are more likely to have sex with their friends by default - friends hang out with them more and are more likely to catch them when they feel like fooling around.
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