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Post Reply Do you find it harder to make friends as an adult?
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31 / M / Canada
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Posted 5/22/13
its really not difficult making friends as an adult, but the opportunities that arise just happen a lot less frequently.
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well I hadn't thought about it much but I guess yea it is more difficult since social interaction is a choice now.
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22 / F / Johnstown, PA, USA
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Posted 5/22/13
It's the opposite for me, though I am and will always be a rather unsocial hermit. I have less friends now, but that's only because I moved cross-country last year, and I lost touch with my few school friends. I've greatly mellowed out since high school, so my increase in friendliness is helping me interact better with people.
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It's harder, especially after you've graduated college and you're working. Unlike classmates in school, people working professionally usually try to keep an emotional distance from their co-workers, because it can be unpleasant to have a tiff with someone you work with everyday. Adults have usually already developed their circle of close friends, and are less open to making new ones, since they don't really need to. Adults that are married with kids are a lot less likely to have free time after work, since they have to spend that time with their family, so they're probably not getting to spend much time with their friends either. And work often has a way of forcing friends to move away, so that's even less socialization than you had before.

When you're a kid in school, it's easier to make good friends because you meet them everyday in school, there's time after school to meet up, and there's summer vacation for doing things. There's just more time, proximity and willingness to get to know someone that isn't as much there once you've grown up.
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28 / M / Kentucky
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Posted 5/22/13
Its a little harder. It's not the same as when your a kid and just end up casually playing together and becoming friends.
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In my adult years, I've found that most people you meet have an agenda. I'm not saying all do, but a lot. I've walked away from so many "friendships" because the other person was only looking to get something out of me like money or the like.

As a kid, it's kind of the same way in some cases, but it doesn't happen as often. As kids, most of us just want to play and have fun. As adults, money rules most of what we do so that plays into a lot of the "friendships."
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26 / M / Sydney, Australia
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Posted 5/23/13
I haven't made a single friend since adulthood...


I've only ever had friends in high school, and that's only because they were in my class for 4 years straight... I mean it's hard to avoid someone for 4 years straight without interacting with them.
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39 / M / Where my mind is.
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Yes, because it is much easier to see through another person's lies and deceit now than when you were younger. When you are a child, children can make up anything and get other children to believe it most of the time due to everyone being at that innocent stage. You haven't lived enough, yet to say, "I really don't think that's true." As you get older and have lived a little (for the general populace, mind you), you should be able to pick up on when someone's words are contradicting their actions. Now if you want to look beyond that and you are able to be of like mind with said potential friend then that is okay. Overall, you tend to be generally more mindful of whom you choose to associate with.
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25 / F / Humping the Border
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Posted 6/6/13
It can be. A lot of people have things to do, kids to take care of, stuff like that and it can be difficult to make friends as an adult. A lot of my school friends have turned to drugs and generally became unpleasant people or moved for university so I don't really see them.

But apart from having responsibility that take up a lot of time, I have made a few friends as an adult. I only have one real friend now that I met when I was 19 (not really an adult but I had a full time job along with going to school full time and was, what I would like to think, a pretty responsible young adult..... regarding bills and responsibilities not personal safety) that I see regularly.

I have found that it is a lot easier to make friends as an adult when those 'friends' are party friends. I have a long list of party friends and now that I am married I find it's easier to make male friends as well. I have lost (what I thought) was a lot of good male friends because I didn't want to be more than friends.
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Posted 6/6/13
I love interacting with people. I especially like making conversation with people who seem down and I boost their mood every time we talk.Being Charismatic is one of my best traits.
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Posted 6/6/13
Start a Neighbor's Club...
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29 / M / Riding sound waves
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Nope....I find it just as easy when I was a kid and since my social group is much larger now that I am involved in more things as an adult, I have more friends than ever.
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Lately, not at all.
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31 / F / UK
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Posted 6/8/13 , edited 6/10/13
Exceedingly hard. Especially as: I am nowhere near where I grew up so can not meet people via long-term friends. I have nothing in common with my colleagues. I don't drink or party. All my interests are geeky and home-based.
Hopeless case tbh.
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Posted 6/8/13
It's hard making friends with adults....either adults are stuck up...or they are stuck up
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