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Post Reply Do you find it harder to make friends as an adult?
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First day in highschool I came to realize how much I hate people.
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Considering most of my friends are from high school(what few I had), and I've seen few of them since then, combined with the fact that I've become somewhat of a recluse, yes it is harder to make friends now. Plus I suck horribly at basic socializing, so it's not like I could make many friends to begin with.

Sigh...I'm gonna hate class reunions.

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as an adult i think the places you meet new people in does get narrow-er, however, belong to a group or club often times help ... but your meeting places primarily consist of your job, your church if you are affiliated with one, and connections through mutual friends.

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Hrm. For me I'd have to say yes it's more difficult, but it's mostly my own fault. I've grown to hate most of the people around where I live and I avoid them if possible. It's hard to find somebody that I'd rather not bash their head in with a hammer.

I'm happy and at peace when I'm alone, so it works out. ( ´ ▽ ` )ノ
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I find it hard to make friends on CR
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Making friends is easy, finding friends who are actually reliable and trustworthy, now thats the hard part.

Your question confuses me though..
What defines an adult? Age? Having children? Being done with school/college/grad? Lower insurance rates!?

Nitpicking aside, the only thing socially harder as an 'adult' is the lack of exposure towards people with similar interest.

For example :: I enjoy anime. but its hardly a topic I would ever talk about at a bar. Then again its because of this superficial way of thinking that I can't seem to form those 'special' bonds with newer acquaintances LOL. The irony of being socially jaded.
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hi everyone

well i think its all in the mind altho i dont have meny friends or people i trust etc ,
i feel its because as children we dont think about danger and mean people or about embarrassment and rejection until it happen (if you get what i mean) are minds are so cautious and wary and even paranoid about people and or what around us that it get in the way of us making new friends
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Coz i can make small talk if i'm in a mood or feeling friendly, but maintaining aquiantances is hard for me....so they don't turn out to be a real friend where i can really open up to and feel comfortable with. I can make easy aquiantances, but i don't consider a person i know a "friend" until i can really show my true self to that person. i don't like a lot of close personal friends, i like to have friends that i hang out with like 1 a week or something but a real friend to me is someone i call my sister, or brother even if we look nothing alike.. i only have 3 of those and the rest are just pals, so for just pals 10
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seckspanther wrote:

I find it hard to make friends on CR


You and me both.
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squirrel3d wrote:


seckspanther wrote:

I find it hard to make friends on CR


You and me both.


They reserve a special place in Hell for people like me if I make friends on here.

The hazards of being old on a forum mainly devoted to the young I guess.
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yes and no, adults are odd and not in the fun way adolecence was it just seems you have to be more careful than you ever did before.

in the same breath people arent my thing so...
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I have enough trouble making friends now. I don't even want to think about the eternal loneliness that awaits me after college. My only hope is that my current friends don't get bored with me at some point.

I've found that it's a bit harder to make friends in college than high school. There's less socialization and more of a focus on individual activity instead of groups. But then again, I go to a school that was only recently opened up to undergrads, and nearly half of those undergrads are working adults (not your average 20-something college kids). They don't seem to have time to socialize, as most of them have a lot of responsibilities on their plate between work, school, and family. Maybe I just set myself up for social failure by attending here.
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As I've gotten older, there is a difference between friends and acquaintances. Friends are people that I can tell anything to and they confide in me in many things. Acquaintances are people that I know but I'm not close to them, we only really talk when needed. I have a few friends, but many acquaintances. My friends are people that I have known for a while and they know my background and why I act the way I do, my acquaintances are just people who know me from either working with me or having a class with me.

It's hard for my to make a new friend, but acquaintances are whatever really. I consider my coworkers acquaintances, and we only talk about work and random topics, not really about our personal lives. As my boss said, our personal life is our deal. Don't talk about it unless it's affecting your work habits. That is all part of growing up sadly.
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wow, I have been trying to make friends since the start of highschool
now I'm about to graduate.
I still have none.

WTF is going on?
Posted 10/25/13

laviriot13 wrote:

As I've gotten older, there is a difference between friends and acquaintances. Friends are people that I can tell anything to and they confide in me in many things. Acquaintances are people that I know but I'm not close to them, we only really talk when needed. I have a few friends, but many acquaintances. My friends are people that I have known for a while and they know my background and why I act the way I do, my acquaintances are just people who know me from either working with me or having a class with me.

It's hard for my to make a new friend, but acquaintances are whatever really. I consider my coworkers acquaintances, and we only talk about work and random topics, not really about our personal lives. As my boss said, our personal life is our deal. Don't talk about it unless it's affecting your work habits. That is all part of growing up sadly.


So many truths in this post, dang. ^ Basically summed up the thread for me.
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