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Post Reply Do you find it harder to make friends as an adult?
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westnyorai wrote:
I've decided long as I don't get to the point of taking in cats. I'll be fine.


Nothing wrong with having cats. Just don't become a crazy cat guy, and you'll be fine.
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westnyorai wrote:
I've decided long as I don't get to the point of taking in cats. I'll be fine.


Nothing wrong with having cats. Just don't become a crazy cat guy, and you'll be fine.


Why cats? Why not something badass, like a cuddlefish?
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Spazticus wrote:


westnyorai wrote:
I've decided long as I don't get to the point of taking in cats. I'll be fine.


Nothing wrong with having cats. Just don't become a crazy cat guy, and you'll be fine.


Why cats? Why not something badass, like a cuddlefish?


Are cuttlefish really considered badass? lol Wouldn't a panther or a wolf be more badass?
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Spazticus wrote:


westnyorai wrote:
I've decided long as I don't get to the point of taking in cats. I'll be fine.


Nothing wrong with having cats. Just don't become a crazy cat guy, and you'll be fine.


Why cats? Why not something badass, like a cuddlefish?


Or honey badgers, for that matter. I'm not sure if I'd want to be known as a "crazy honey badger guy", but if I was one, I wouldn't give a fuck.
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Shrapnel893 wrote:


Spazticus wrote:


westnyorai wrote:
I've decided long as I don't get to the point of taking in cats. I'll be fine.


Nothing wrong with having cats. Just don't become a crazy cat guy, and you'll be fine.


Why cats? Why not something badass, like a cuddlefish?


Maybe I should be the crazy hamster guy and name them all after hamtaro characters.
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Shrapnel893 wrote:


Spazticus wrote:


westnyorai wrote:
I've decided long as I don't get to the point of taking in cats. I'll be fine.


Nothing wrong with having cats. Just don't become a crazy cat guy, and you'll be fine.


Why cats? Why not something badass, like a cuddlefish?


Are cuttlefish really considered badass? lol Wouldn't a panther or a wolf be more badass?


Nah, nah, I think that owning cuddlefish just screams 'Stud-Muffin' when you see a guy walking down the street holding a fish tank full of cuddlefish and swagger.

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Shrapnel893 wrote:


AmayaTsuki wrote:


Shrapnel893 wrote:


Spazticus wrote:


westnyorai wrote:
I've decided long as I don't get to the point of taking in cats. I'll be fine.


Nothing wrong with having cats. Just don't become a crazy cat guy, and you'll be fine.


Why cats? Why not something badass, like a cuddlefish?


Are cuttlefish really considered badass? lol Wouldn't a panther or a wolf be more badass?


Nah, nah, I think that owning cuddlefish just screams 'Stud-Muffin' when you see a guy walking down the street holding a fish tank full of cuddlefish and swagger.



Cuttlefish = stud-muffin. Got it. I'll be sure to add that to my list of what to look for in a guy lol
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Muffins are strange. For a guy muffins are awesome, yet mention to a girl she has a muffin top and you'll get slapped.
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Its just as easy now as it was when I was in school. The same rules for making friends then apply to life now...you have to get involved.

Between work, the gym, church and all the other stuff I do throughout the week, there are plenty of opportunities to meet people.
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I think it depends on where you live as well. When I lived in an urban area where human contact was constant I found that I discovered new friendships more frequently and easily. Something was always going on and a lot of people were on the streets walking. However, I moved back to my suburban hometown where everyone drives and I meet people less.

Overall, I think the biggest obstacle to finding new friendships at this age is definitely school or work. I always have something going on, which makes it hard to keep in touch. But I am a bit of a workaholic so I think that has contributed as well.

I really do think that finding a social group that shares a common interest or hobby is a great start though! Some of the most fun I had was being part of a cooking club.
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No because I still have a childish mentality when it comes to making friends o_o
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So, I have a few really good friends, but I've known them since high school. I've noticed that meeting people as an adult is really difficult and I wonder if a lot of other people struggle with this too or am I just doing it wrong I've thought about it a lot and I guess since, as an adult, pretty much all you do is go to work, it's pretty hard to meet people you can make a real connection with.

How do you guys meet people? Or do you struggle like I do?


Actually it's quite the opposite for me. Naturally, I only keep a few real close friends, but in high school I only kickd it with a small group of friends and didn't really socialize as much with others or tried to make new ones. Now as an adult I find it easier to make friends pretty much anywhere; school, work, coffee shops, super markets, shows/concerts, parties/clubs/bars/lounges, gasoline stations etc...Although, keep in mind I do not have the expectation of making friends at theses places, it just happens spontaneously.
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It seems a lot harder for me. I know someone already suggested that we get involved-- I'm assuming involved in different groups and whatnot-- but I can't quite find the time to do that if I have to balance it with a significant amount of work/homework from college. The only time I can maybe try to talk to people would be during the classes I go to. But then again, other than the fact that we, the people in the same room, have nothing in common besides the same class, I personally find it difficult to have that as a starting point of a conversation..? You can only talk so much about classes.

Sometimes, I get the feeling that a lot of the people I meet are pretty serious about where their life is heading and I find that a little difficult to relate. Even though I care about my future, I still do want to enjoy my days however I can. Eh.
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It seems a lot harder for me. I know someone already suggested that we get involved-- I'm assuming involved in different groups and whatnot-- but I can't quite find the time to do that if I have to balance it with a significant amount of work/homework from college. The only time I can maybe try to talk to people would be during the classes I go to. But then again, other than the fact that we, the people in the same room, have nothing in common besides the same class, I personally find it difficult to have that as a starting point of a conversation..? You can only talk so much about classes.

Sometimes, I get the feeling that a lot of the people I meet are pretty serious about where their life is heading and I find that a little difficult to relate. Even though I care about my future, I still do want to enjoy my days however I can. Eh.


Exactly. I work a lot and, although I like my co-workers, pretty much all we talk about is work. When I go to class, I really don't have time to talk to anyone either, unless it's classwork related. I just go to class then go to work, then I go home lol Pretty boring. And yeah, a lot of people our age are really focused on their future, but it makes it hard to start a casual conversation. That's what the internet is for, I suppose lol You can meet a lot of people with the same interests as you, it's just a shame they don't all live in your town.
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AmayaTsuki wrote:

So, I have a few really good friends, but I've known them since high school. I've noticed that meeting people as an adult is really difficult and I wonder if a lot of other people struggle with this too or am I just doing it wrong I've thought about it a lot and I guess since, as an adult, pretty much all you do is go to work, it's pretty hard to meet people you can make a real connection with.

How do you guys meet people? Or do you struggle like I do?


Actually it's quite the opposite for me. Naturally, I only keep a few real close friends, but in high school I only kickd it with a small group of friends and didn't really socialize as much with others or tried to make new ones. Now as an adult I find it easier to make friends pretty much anywhere; school, work, coffee shops, super markets, shows/concerts, parties/clubs/bars/lounges, gasoline stations etc...Although, keep in mind I do not have the expectation of making friends at theses places, it just happens spontaneously.


You must find it really easy to go up and talk to people. I like to talk to people and, if I'm at a party or something, I have no issues going up to a person and starting a conversation, but I can't imagine going up to a stranger at a super market or a gas station and initiating a conversation lol I think being a girl has a lot to do with that though. We have to play it safe
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