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Posted 12/2/12

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One of my classes last semester was a night class and, yeah, I didn't talk to anyone lol I was exhausted after a day of school and work and the last thing I wanted to do was talk to people lol

You're hilarious! :p


ke ke ke! well i'm not sure if that was sarcasm or not, but i'll take the compliment! a friend of mine doesn't appreciate puns at all, it makes my soul cry...

ah! I took a business class last sem, from 7-10pm. One of the worser (is that a word?!) decisions of my life... Tried so hard each class to stay awake >____<

Oh, here's another one: "Have you heard of the man who's left arm and left leg have been cut off? O:
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No not at all it far simpler for me. life will teach you who will be good friends and pass on the ones that will drag you down. but you have to get out there to find out. If your rejecting yourself you will make it difficult to make friend and the ones you make tend to be users if not just crummy people.
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AmayaTsuki wrote:

One of my classes last semester was a night class and, yeah, I didn't talk to anyone lol I was exhausted after a day of school and work and the last thing I wanted to do was talk to people lol

You're hilarious! :p


ke ke ke! well i'm not sure if that was sarcasm or not, but i'll take the compliment! a friend of mine doesn't appreciate puns at all, it makes my soul cry...

ah! I took a business class last sem, from 7-10pm. One of the worser (is that a word?!) decisions of my life... Tried so hard each class to stay awake >____<

Oh, here's another one: "Have you heard of the man who's left arm and left leg have been cut off? O:


A friend of mine only jokes in puns, so I'm use to it lol.

The word you're looking for is worst. "One of the worst decisions of my life."

I haven't heard that one. What about him?
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It really is hard, and when you start in a big company or go to college as an older person it makes you feel lonely. It seems like very few people stay friends after high school as well. I guess most people just get into a group and never leave. It sucks because I like to have a lot of people to hang with but most of my friends have moved out of NYC because it is too hard to live here if you are not super rich or super poor.
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Yes. The older someone gets, the more interactions they will have had. They start associating certain characteristics with certain traits. In essence, you get more judgmental as you age and it becomes more difficult to be as open as you were when you were a naive kid.
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I found it hard enough as a child.

I only imagine it gets harder as an adult when you have less time for socialising and hobbies, and most people would have settled with friends from before and reluctant to make anymore. Then you have your friends emigrating and whatever else.

Then when you hit old age, your friends start dying off..


I never had a lot of friends when I was younger, I always found it hard to make friends for lots of reasons, still do. As an 'adult' though I find that its a lot easier. People tend to act more mature (even if they aren't really...keypoint me Life's too serious y'know!) and give you a reasonable chance to be yourself and to accept you and I find myself having more time for people that in years gone by I wouldn't have passed the time of day with. In the end I guess you start to realise that whilst everyone is different in their opinions and hobbies and whatnot, everyone is fundamentally a human being (at least that's how I see it). The petty differences that created divides back in school days just don't seem to matter any more. Life's difficult enough as it is and doesn't need to be made more difficult with having bad feeling for no reason.
Even people who were pretty unpleasant to me back at school now act like decent people and whilst I'm still wary (old habits dying hard I guess) we can all be civil and get along and what not. Don't get me wrong, I don't like them but I won't go out of my way to be an awkward dick (which I can when they're trying to buy booze of smokes in my shop) just because they were a bit mean when I was a kid.
I guess you've just got to put yourself out there a bit and eventually you'll find folks who'll do the same for you - even if you have little in common something as simple as working together often helps. As sad as it sounds the people I work with (some in particular) are some of the best mates I've got - my boss alone is worth ten of my old school mates - how many managers of supermarket chains do you know who'll sit in your front room drinking a beer and smoking a pipe with you after a shitty week!?
Just don't think about it and it does eventually fall into place - open mind and whatnot.
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AmayaTsuki wrote:

A friend of mine only jokes in puns, so I'm use to it lol.

The word you're looking for is worst. "One of the worst decisions of my life."

I haven't heard that one. What about him?


Mmm well that was what I was originally going for, but it wasn't really one of the worst... just more worse than not-as-worse decisions... so I decided to go for the middle!

The answer is: Oh don't worry about him, he's "all right" now! ke ke ke
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don't worry ppl even though its hard to make friends now as adults I offer you all my friendship! so if you need a friend just let me know!
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AmayaTsuki wrote:

A friend of mine only jokes in puns, so I'm use to it lol.

The word you're looking for is worst. "One of the worst decisions of my life."

I haven't heard that one. What about him?


Mmm well that was what I was originally going for, but it wasn't really one of the worst... just more worse than not-as-worse decisions... so I decided to go for the middle!

The answer is: Oh don't worry about him, he's "all right" now! ke ke ke


Lol I don't think there is anything in the middle. Either it's the worst or it's not the worst. They should definitely event a word for in the middle :p

I have heard that one, now that I think about it. A long time ago. Lucky for you, I got hit in the head last year and got a concussion, so every joke is a new joke to me :p

Also, your laugh wouldn't happen to be the same laugh as Kululu in Sgt. Frog would it? If it is, then you're awesome
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AmayaTsuki wrote:


yellowmangoes wrote:


AmayaTsuki wrote:

A friend of mine only jokes in puns, so I'm use to it lol.

The word you're looking for is worst. "One of the worst decisions of my life."

I haven't heard that one. What about him?


Mmm well that was what I was originally going for, but it wasn't really one of the worst... just more worse than not-as-worse decisions... so I decided to go for the middle!

The answer is: Oh don't worry about him, he's "all right" now! ke ke ke


Lol I don't think there is anything in the middle. Either it's the worst or it's not the worst. They should definitely event a word for in the middle :p

I have heard that one, now that I think about it. A long time ago. Lucky for you, I got hit in the head last year and got a concussion, so every joke is a new joke to me :p

Also, your laugh wouldn't happen to be the same laugh as Kululu in Sgt. Frog would it? If it is, then you're awesome :D


"Worse" can also work, if it's on a sliding scale... "It's not the worst decision I've made, but it's one of the worse ones." (That particular usage is less common, though.)
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AmayaTsuki wrote:

So, I have a few really good friends, but I've known them since high school. I've noticed that meeting people as an adult is really difficult and I wonder if a lot of other people struggle with this too or am I just doing it wrong I've thought about it a lot and I guess since, as an adult, pretty much all you do is go to work, it's pretty hard to meet people you can make a real connection with.

How do you guys meet people? Or do you struggle like I do?


1) Start hosting or going to game night parties.
2) Invite people you know are chill but maybe aren't friends.
3) Encourage people to invite guests every time.

And then it is all gravy from there. You'll know which people you'll become friends with by the way they act at the party.
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I just don't get out. I work all afternoon and evening, which makes getting together with my high school friends difficult. That and they are pretty well spread out in college. I only talk to the people at work, or take my siblings with me when I have a little spare time (My sister's are 7 and 10 years younger than me)
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kursed10 wrote:

I just don't get out. I work all afternoon and evening, which makes getting together with my high school friends difficult. That and they are pretty well spread out in college. I only talk to the people at work, or take my siblings with me when I have a little spare time (My sister's are 7 and 10 years younger than me)


It is difficult when you don't have free time during the later part of the day. I work second and third shift, which eats up my nights and afternoons. I went out for the first time in about a year last night. I ended up running into a bunch of my old friends. A lot happens when you don't see people for a couple years. If you have a chance to go out you should take it. Even if it's by yourself because you might end up seeing old friends or making some new ones.
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I wish I could contribute more to this thread, but I'm only 19 and I still meet the majority of the people I know in classes. I don't go to bars or places like that.
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DetectiveAlex wrote:

I wish I could contribute more to this thread, but I'm only 19 and I still meet the majority of the people I know in classes. I don't go to bars or places like that.


Dont worry about it i am 26 and i never go to the bar. I normaly drink with diner, or at home lol. I met some great people at school, and work. but so far not many friendships have stuck.
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