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Post Reply Do you find it harder to make friends as an adult?
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It's weird but I made friends much easier as an adult. Everyone is more mature and more excepting of who you are! I made many more friends AFTER I graduated from high school
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Mostly it´s my old friends that make up the core of my circle of friends.
Co-workers tend to, atleast for me, stay just co-workers.
Then we have the rpg group, those guys I see top every other week since most have kids and/or other things in life that needs to get done.

Come to think of it, I tend to have easier socializing with people from other parts of the world... wonder why.
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One thing that makes it harder to make new friends as an adult is that you're not exposed to a large social setting like school/college. i found it much easier while i was still in school to meet new people (and in the case of college, much easier to hang out with them since i lived on campus.)
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Bedlam wrote:

One thing that makes it harder to make new friends as an adult is that you're not exposed to a large social setting like school/college. i found it much easier while i was still in school to meet new people (and in the case of college, much easier to hang out with them since i lived on campus.)


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College was easy to meet people, now that I work day in and day out I tend to only see the people I kept in touch with over the years. I talk to people at work but I wouldnt call them friends.

But making friends comes down to if you will venture out of your house at all. That and if your willing to talk to people.
Posted 12/3/12
For me, it is. I haven't really made any new friends. But then again, it's because I'm a loner
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Though I'm not at all an adult, I'm still aging like everyone else and I've noticed my change in how I find friends. When I was much younger, I would go, "HI MY NAME'S FLUFFY! BUT YOU CAN CALL ME FLUFF! WANNA BE FRIENDS?" And I soon had all the bro-hams I would ever need in elementary school. Only....5? Yeah only about 5 stuck up to now (Thank goodness) and I see that people want to be my friend-more than I want since I need to get my grades up, not my social status-and my personality has switched to If I don't know you, I'm gunna act shy around you. I will not talk unless you ask a question and I will not respond if I don't feel like I have to. I still stay the same LOUD ASS CRAZY KID ON CANDY but only with people I know and trust.
So...Guess your personal space 'friend wise' gets smaller as you get older. You start to see the more negative side of the world and not just cake and flying pigs. Trust can get in the way of new friendship, depending on how much you have. Wait...I might be wrong...
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Well, it's a lot easier to get along as an adult because people grow up and become more mature, or more humble.
In school everyone just wants to be cool and only hang out with those who are their own kind...
(exp. jocks, geeks, rockers, gangsters/wannabes)
Plus immaturity makes some kids treat others very badly, or even cruelly as they don't know what they do.
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I would hope not, I already have trouble incorporating myself into new friend groups just because everyone is so clicky and reserved.
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I personally don't think its harder to make friends as an adult. I notice that I choose my friends a lot wiser now than I did when I was in high school or younger. I still have some friends that I've known since elementary school or high school, but I've met a lot good friends through college.
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forever alone!
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Nope, i think it depends on the person, ^.^ i think as an adult other people find it harder to approach me, as an adult some are more selfconcious, some seem to judge me beforehand, or assume im quite cold or whatnot.

When i approach though i find it quite easy to go and talk to someone, i can be quite random but i dont make friends to 'make friends' i go and talk to someone when i feel i want to go speak to them or say something so it clicks quite naturally. Esp if u meet them at college/work or whatnot, just making friends to 'be friends' isnt my style, alot try that at college, id rather be alone if i dont feel anything towards u other than the need to greet u with 'mornin'.

Alot of people in response have told me the first things i mentioned though like 'oh u know what when i first spoke to u i thought u were like this... or ur funny haha, never thought that 'coming from u' n im like wat do u mean...
what did u expect? ... n there i get my explos... others say theyve warmed up to me through other people like theyve seen me with others and 'finally' got round to say hello or something. n then im like lol u shouldve done so sooner. if i noticed i wud of done the job.

With Guys tho Yes it seems more difficult.
Guys are the worst for judging me face to face. lol I used to have a lot of guy friends i used to joke about n hang with,
Fun times... @n@
Now though when i approach them in a 'friend' way, they always either assume something n have to have a wierd reaction till they get to know im just friendly and not interrogating u, or interested in u specifically.


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AmayaTsuki wrote:

Lol I don't think there is anything in the middle. Either it's the worst or it's not the worst. They should definitely event a word for in the middle :p

I have heard that one, now that I think about it. A long time ago. Lucky for you, I got hit in the head last year and got a concussion, so every joke is a new joke to me :p

Also, your laugh wouldn't happen to be the same laugh as Kululu in Sgt. Frog would it? If it is, then you're awesome :D


I'd want to say that it's the same laugh to look cool but the character doesn't ring a bell at all... maybe all awesome people share the same laugh?!

Whaat does that mean you have memory loss?! heh heh reminds me of that Adam Sandler movie, 50 first dates! :D

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AmayaTsuki wrote:

Lol I don't think there is anything in the middle. Either it's the worst or it's not the worst. They should definitely event a word for in the middle :p

I have heard that one, now that I think about it. A long time ago. Lucky for you, I got hit in the head last year and got a concussion, so every joke is a new joke to me :p

Also, your laugh wouldn't happen to be the same laugh as Kululu in Sgt. Frog would it? If it is, then you're awesome :D


I'd want to say that it's the same laugh to look cool but the character doesn't ring a bell at all... maybe all awesome people share the same laugh?!

Whaat does that mean you have memory loss?! heh heh reminds me of that Adam Sandler movie, 50 first dates! :D



If you haven't watched Sgt. Frog, then you're missing out! It's hilarious. One of the characters, named Kululu, laughs just like that. He's also kind of evil lol

Long story short, I went to a hockey game early last year and one of the pucks hit in me in the head. Since the concussion, I've had short term memory loss. It's not as bad as 50 First Dates lol I just have to write stuff down, if I want to remember it.
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DetectiveAlex wrote:

I wish I could contribute more to this thread, but I'm only 19 and I still meet the majority of the people I know in classes. I don't go to bars or places like that.


Dont worry about it i am 26 and i never go to the bar. I normaly drink with diner, or at home lol. I met some great people at school, and work. but so far not many friendships have stuck.


I know those feelings. It's easy for a friendship to end ephemerally , but to keep one up for a long time is challenging. Unless you're a natural fit for that person.
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