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Is there a deeper meaning when a guy tells a girl that he used to like her?
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Posted 11/30/12 , edited 11/30/12

alvase wrote:


yellowmangoes wrote:

I dunno, guys can be pretty dumb sometimes... lol, i'm bashing on my species right here...

Well, it could be that he might be CASUALLY/secretly looking for signs if the girl might be interested in him. He might not want to say it directly because that might/would put some pressure on him and maybe on the girl, as well. Lol... this is kind of hard to explain...


it's actually self consciousness. He thinks he has something to lose, that is his perception but reality says that there is nothing to lose. Emotions and feelings are strong and people sometimes are their own saboteurs, we could actually succeed in something but we sabotage ourselves along the way because of our own perception that is flawed. Wouldn't really say flawed because we are who we are because of how we perceive ourselves and things.
Well guys are not dumb, it is because i believed that they are sensitive and more caring when it comes to girls. I know that because many have told me that they are shy and do not dare to approach me as i seem harmless and small hahha well for girls. We don't really care because we have many suitors and the way we perceive love is simple and with if have little agendas or even at all.

I would say you wouldn't know if you don't try. If you don't, you will lose the opportunity and what makes people regret is the things they yet do or silly enough to avoid. But if you try, chances are you might succeed. And learning through failures makes you stronger..so basically if "you try, you have nothing to lose". Rather than you might lose her or that if you tried. Change the way you boys think, i'm not a fan of psychology but i always have a little of philosophy of my own which i share. I think really alot and i'm not a clever person , so please do pardon me if i offended anyone here . At least those will when they read my post.


You hit the nail on the head. Obviously he still has feelings for you, why would he bring it up? If you have feelings for him give it a go.

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Posted 11/30/12
that means he doesnt like 'insert' anymore, because he's annoyed by 'insert'
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Posted 11/30/12 , edited 11/30/12
Depends. Honestly what is the reason for telling a girl you "used" like to her? Unless you just want to confess and be honest wit the girl. Heck maybe they still deep down like you; its hard to say
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Posted 11/30/12
I did this once. I said it because I liked her.

Most guys are just as fragile as ladies emotionally. Both men and women use signals to try and indicate personal affection (or "liking" someone). This is pretty blatantly a signal, and you should respond how you really feel about it so that he knows if you're open to the idea or not. You can't expect everyone to be forward about their emotions. We all just want to love and be loved, so rejection is the worst.
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Honestly, I used this line back in high school. I wasn't good at confessing my own feelings unless I felt they'd be reciprocated. So while talking about past relationships I let that slip. In my mind I thought the convo would continue with her saying "oh ya? I did too." or something along those lines, which would be my hint to go for it.
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I remember one girl in HS that I liked a lot, but the situation was complex. She was dating some other guy, and she was always hanging with her friends, which made it difficult to talk to her. I remember trying to ask her out to several dances for a couple of years before I finally gave up, and didn't ask her to prom. (later someone told me she was surprised I hadn't asked, to which I told them, if she hadn't been interested to go with me to one of the other 'lesser' dances, why would she have changed her mind.) I also remember telling one of her friends some time later that I had a huge crush on her back then. It was funny she had no idea what I was talking about, so I said, well it was true, I really had an interest in her, but due to a lot of factors never could get her attention.

It's not the end of the world btw.
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alvase wrote:

I would say you wouldn't know if you don't try. If you don't, you will lose the opportunity and what makes people regret is the things they yet do or silly enough to avoid. But if you try, chances are you might succeed. And learning through failures makes you stronger..so basically if "you try, you have nothing to lose". Rather than you might lose her or that if you tried. Change the way you boys think, i'm not a fan of psychology but i always have a little of philosophy of my own which i share. I think really alot and i'm not a clever person , so please do pardon me if i offended anyone here . At least those will when they read my post.



Haha It would be a lot easier if we can just all take a chance! But then, I know we can't all do it all the time. I find myself lacking motivation here and there just because I don't see an immediate gain :| But I do agree with your "you try because you have nothing to lose" ! :D

I think some boys find it harder to admit that they like someone is because they might have already been rejected before.. but that shouldn't really matter because the past is the past. But memories can a very strong thing O:
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Posted 12/1/12
Sometimes that's the case.

If a boy tells a girl he likes her, it's actually cuter. Because it's normal to see girls going around and confessing to every guy, but then if a guy confesses it's like. You have to say yes. LOL.
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Posted 12/1/12 , edited 12/1/12
Two things come to mind. One is he is just being honest, or two he is possibly showing disinterest to see if you're interested. But as people have said, there's more factors, and I'm also curious how it got brought up.
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Posted 12/1/12
Well if I said it, I would have it meaning that I did use to have feelings for her but due to the time we've been apart and how I've grown from that it would just be me burying the hatchet. Tying up the loose end I had emotionally so that I may reassure my moving forward. Like the games I play, namely those that require you to do something and have some side quests simultaneously, if I didn't do a perfect job the first time through I'd be really unmotivated to go back through something I already feel sure of what would become of it. I let the end results stay as they are and just mentally correct myself for any wrongs I've done to ensure that the next segment of my love life is better enjoyed. Well that's just me.
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Posted 12/1/12

Minialbum wrote:

Just curious : P


Yes there is. It means that he used to, but something happened to the girl to make her extremely unattractive. Either she became hideous, or her personality became terrible.

If this has happened to you, it would be weird if you didn't start crying uncontrollably.
Posted 12/1/12
It's the penis talking.
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Posted 12/1/12
^Bingo!
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Posted 12/1/12
No. It means exactly what it means. Men don't like complicating things.
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Posted 12/2/12
It means that he's a passive-aggressive puss.
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