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Is there a deeper meaning when a guy tells a girl that he used to like her?
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Posted 12/2/12
Why don't you ask him what it means? Nobody on here knows him or you, so they are not going to have enough info to give you an educated opinion. They are just gonna rely on past experience and use people from their lives as a basis in order to judge this situation. These things are very situational so their advice may be on point, or it may not even be close. The only way your gonna know for sure is to ask this guy yourself.
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Posted 12/2/12 , edited 12/2/12
Nope. As far as I can think of, it just means what the words apparently mean.


Minialbum wrote:

Just curious : P


...But, I can only speak for myself. And since your curiosity is enough to motivate you make a post about this then it could be you really want to make sense of it. In addition, I really respect people who are willing to ask questions based on simple curiosity. So, here are situations in which a guy would tell a girl that "he used to like her."

Situation 1 - The girl used to have characteristics that the made the guy like her (friendly or sexually), but the girl has changed and therefore he no longer likes her.

Situation 2 - The guy used to have feelings for the girl but things around him have changed and thus he has changed and therefore he's no longer attracted to her.
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Posted 12/2/12 , edited 12/2/12
I've told girls this before. Just to tease them. And its always backfired. Because they always wanted to start dating right after. Even though I no longer liked them.
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yes there is ...means he once had strong lustful sites on you but now hes moved on to loftyer goals
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It can mean alot of different things depending on context. It could mean he gave up going after you and is pursuing someone else. It might mean he still likes you but doesn't want to admit it because you have a boyfriend. He might say it because he's jealous or want to get at a guy that really likes you ..... the line is too vague without a knowing the situation, your relationship or his personality. Not all guys are the same.
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I've done this with a girl And it was kinda one of the best decisions of my life ^^'

I had feeling for this girl and all but i was somewhat afraid of her, then i started talking to her, and she started hanging out with me and my friends so far so good ^^

But then i realised that she was much more worth as a friend to me, and that the feelings had sorta gone away with time

I told her one day when we were hanging out and she was quite surprised by it, and she went all nervous and shiz, and i told her that i didnt have any feeling for her anymore and would rather have her as a friend After that she weirdly enough started dating my brother for a cpl of years xD I didnt mind and she hung around our place all the time with the rest of our friends so iiin the end it all worked out for the better

Even though we rarely talk anymore since she decided to move cuz of education etc, i've never regretted doing it :P

But in the end saying something like that sounds just stupid to me if he still has feelings fr the girl Maybe im just a simpleton when it comes to social interractions but so far its worked out better then other people i've talked to.

But i guess this could be a subtle hint trying to check for any sings of mutual feelings from the girl, maybe like a "last call before i give up on this"
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Posted 12/2/12 , edited 12/2/12
From the information given I can not speculate as to motive or the reasoning behind it. However I can posit a my own thoughts based on my own exp.

The only reason I can think of for stating somthing of that nature is such an oblique way would be for two reasons.

1. He's never had the courage to come right out and ask her out, or to tell her how he feels so now he sees that she might be available and is now testing the waters so to speak to see if she might be interested albiet in a round a bout way.

2. He is being honest and thought to bring it up with out realizing that thier might be unforseen conquences like the girl thinking there might be more to it than a simple sentence. (this is were we guys get in trouble we say things in an arbitrarey way that begs questions and awnsers or directs thoughts down a path we didn't intend)

So what ever happens good luck my advise would be to be as honest as is possible. Not as easliy done as said I know but give it a shot. Take it from me Its always better to know than to be unsure I missed mine and I wont again if I am ever given the oppertunity.
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Depends. If he is telling you this while he is dating someone else, look at the state of that relationship. If it is getting rocky, they aren't holding hands in public as much, or are less demonstrative than they used to be, or if he has more free time than he did when he first started dating her, it may mean that he isn't sure if his current girlfriend is going to last and wants to test the waters to see your reaction to his telling you this.

If you respond favorably, with something like: "Really? Wow! I wish you would have told me then. I know you have a girlfriend and all, but if you had told me, who knows what would have happened. I probably would have gone out with you." He might take that as: "I know you and your girlfriend are going through a rough patch, and don't want to but in, but if it falls apart, I will definitely go out with you!"

If you treat it like a joke and say something like: "Yeah, right! Like that would ever happen. In your dreams buddy!" He would probably take that as: "No way! you're not my type! I like single guys and don't want to be your rebound girl!"

Or it could just mean that he used to have a crush on you....

Or that once he got to know you, the attraction went away... Which would be a bummer.
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