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What makes you feel lonely?
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Posted 12/1/12 , edited 12/1/12
Personally I feel the loneliest when I feel like I can't relate to other people or when I feel like they're unwilling to relate to me. Two of the most common cases:

One: Whenever I'm trying to have a friendly discussion and I realize that no matter what I say or how phrase it, whoever I'm talking to won't try to understand where I'm coming from or why(let alone agree with my viewpoint) without trying to make me out to be Hitler. It's like "Dude, saying people like me are responsible for deforestation around the world because I don't like to eat raw veggies is a bit of a stretch."

Two: When someone gives me the whole "what planet are you from?" treatment for saying or doing something pretty normal (to me at least). Again I just feel like "Dude I said I like the beach! Who doesn't like the beach?! Salt Life is a very successful company that exist entirely for people who like the beach! The planet is like two thirds water and you just called me crazy cause I said I like the beach?!"

Any way just curious about what makes everyone else feel totally cut off from the rest of humanity, hopefully I can avoid doing it to anyone else right. Ps: I love emoticons.
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Obligatory troll comment: WHAT PLANET ARE YOU FROM??!!!!
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I know that feel.
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When nobody listens to me. Oh, and when you're in a room with a bunch of people you don't know, but they all know each other.
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Not having a meaningful life.
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Hmm... I wouldn't say I ever feel lonely really, I usually have someone I can chat with that understands me well. I would say that the only time I do feel lonely is when I am going through some new huge drama in my life. I hate the drama... drives me nuts, so why would I ever want to put someone else through my own by talking about it? To be fair, there are people that I'll talk to about some things... but most I tend to keep to myself as I'll work through it eventually on my own.

Usually earlier on in life it was my interests that set me apart and made me lonely... I'm just thankful I don't have that problem anymore. lol
Posted 12/1/12
Not so much lonely, just bored. It's easy to mistake boredom for loneliness or even depression.
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I feel lonely when I am not able to connect with others.
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When you're hanging out with someone and just feel like you're a really boring person and things along those lines....Then you see that person hanging with someone else having a much better time...Basically the lack of presence.
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Midnalink24 wrote:

When you're hanging out with someone and just feel like you're a really boring person and things along those lines....Then you see that person hanging with someone else having a much better time...Basically the lack of presence.


This is an accurate description of all my social experiences, and the most likely reason why I do not have any friends.
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When I'm home alone is one. >:P
When I feel no connection to a person I've been communicating with. Even when if I'm hanging out a number of people, I've still felt lonely.
When I feel unfulfilled and lacking drive.
When I get left out to partake in an activity with someone I want to hang out with.
Posted 12/1/12
hmm i guess when im ignored after being talked to. as a (self proclaimed)hikikomori im really used to being alone, but then if someone goes and decides to talk to me and then not too long after stop then i guess i feel a little lonely then.
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lordseth23 wrote:


Midnalink24 wrote:

When you're hanging out with someone and just feel like you're a really boring person and things along those lines....Then you see that person hanging with someone else having a much better time...Basically the lack of presence.


This is an accurate description of all my social experiences, and the most likely reason why I do not have any friends.


It's probably more likely because you're a self-loathing person. If you don't even like yourself, why should anyone else? Then again, most people don't want to watch their friends spiral into a self-destructive cycle of self-loathing, and many will eventually give up on those who are quite determined to crash and burn. No sense in dragging others down with them, really...it's just purely selfish behavior.

The person you quoted is speaking of a lack of presence, which is a mostly neutral mindset, and can often be attributed to just feeling shy/socially awkward. That is also fairly common, and can be worked through with trust and time. Your presence on the other hand, is effectively a negative one for others; and only you have the power to change that.
Posted 12/1/12
this thread Q_Q
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Not wanting to go into too many details about my personal life on here, but a pretty traumatic experience happened to me a few years ago. I feel loneliest when I think about that because no one I know can relate

But I usually always have a friend I can go to or I can talk to my parents, so I know I'm never really alone.
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