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Posted 12/2/12
my friends have always thought it was weird that I watch anime...
it seems that if I say I was watching anime they look at me like im an alien.. but if I say that I was watching cartoons they are indifferent.

I'm getting older, and my GF and I have a 7yr old son, so him and I watch anime together, which is fun, but he doesnt know whats going on alot of the time because the subs move fast at times.

the truth is.. ppl will accept you for who you are if you arent so insecure about it.

my GF calls anime "your stories" kinda like how women watch soap operas and call them "my stories"..
its not so far from the truth, anime has alot of characteristics such as comedy, drama, action..etc.

basically... who cares what ppl think.. if you love anime, then do what you love.

Posted 12/2/12
you feel lonely because you don't understand and/or know yourself better? Spend some time asking yourself what you want in life, or what's the rational of you doing something and what are your cans and cannots to occupy your time. Then you ask yourself if you need new friends not?
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Cheer up bro. Most of us are in the same situation.

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This is a really great question, Sharb8.

I don't think it is an anime culture thing or anything like that. Something that is especially true is that there are defined periods when people outgrow their friends because their friends fail to grow with them or people grow at different rates. This is especially true in teen years when there are very common times to see someone feel alienated from prior friends. This happens a lot between 6th grade and middle school and usually happens after 9th grade too. It can happen later also.

I remember some of my high school friends. We would all pile into cars and drive around - maybe meet up at the Little Caesar's parking lot and see if there was a party going on or something. I met up with these same friends again after a year or two of college and you know what, they were still hanging out at the Little Caesar's lot. It was like they were stuck in a time warp or something and I felt like an alien. My life moved on and theirs didn't. I never hung out with them again.

It sounds like your situation. Sounds like your friends are doing the extended adolescence thing. You are making something of your life and the fact that you are advancing has changed your perspective. By having to pay their way to the anime expo, you changed the relationship with them from a peer to a caregiver/guardian - so of course you feel awkward around them.

My advice. Keep moving forward. Try to find new friends that share your interests and are in the same situation you are. Even better, pick someone up and have some dates!
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Fuck what people think especially what the trolls and sheep think.
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-Vega- wrote:

Fuck what people think especially what the trolls and sheep think.


That's it Vega, reject the status quo!
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evenstar95 wrote:


-Vega- wrote:

Fuck what people think especially what the trolls and sheep think.


That's it Vega, reject the status quo!


Yeah! High five!

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Well, I feel especially lonely, because most of friends don't take my advice, and I watch their lives fall apart right before my eyes. I know I can't be the "hero," but it's happened multiple times. My grandma has told me that I'm "wise beyond my years." I don't mean ta brag... But... Face it guys. I'm intelligent with experience from past problems. You should listen to my advice for once. Because I care about you.
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Bunch of my friends are crazier and outgoing which is totally different with my personality. We don't share common interest but we had a lot to talk about. Weird isn't it? I don't even feel lonely or alienated when I'm with them.

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I would love to have your work hours. I usually don't go out until 11pm.
If you don't like that idea. Just make your friends have your same interests. That's what I did.
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Oh yes, I understand that not everyone enjoys being alone. I just don't get the whole "rather feel pain than nothing at all" mentality. But in your case, your friends aren't bestowing any negative emotions upon you. Perhaps you should find more interesting friends. It's a lot easier than you may think it is.


Not when you're a boring fuck like me
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No friends is perfect, if it's too good to be true, it probably ain't. I mean I have friends that don't share any interest, but yet I'm friends with them, the thing is to only accept what their interest is, and hopefully they will do the same, if they don't, then they aren't worth to be friends with.
There's always something that you don't like about a person, it might be a small factor or a big one, just try to accept it as a part of them, or just not think about it, they might have the same problem with you, but have accepted it.

Or that's how I see a relationship with any person out there, I'm probably wrong, but that's my opinion as of yet:p
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I guess the reason why I feel like this is also because I have no time to do anything. Ever since August, I started working 6 days a week. Monday - Friday my hours are from 2:30pm to 11pm. Usually I stay anywhere from 15-60 miins after. I end up getting home around 12-12:40am.
Before these hours I was working night shift for a couple months and that was from 11pm - 7:30am. I was loving those hours because after work I would go play basketball with a few friends at the park. If not, I would go out and have breakfast right after work. If I didn't do either of those, I would come home, sleep for a few hours, wake up around 10 or 11 and go on xbox and talk to my friends while playing some games or watching something on netfix. After a couple hours of doing that I would go back to sleep and wake up around 8, and go back on my xbox and start talking to them again until I ha to start getting ready for work. I was only working 4 or 5 days a week and it would allow me to go out and I would every weekend.

After that I was switched to the afternoon shift I haven't really done anything, Doesn't give me anytime for anything. I have a habit of sleeping really late, and by the time I'm home from work, its too late to do anything or everyone is already sleeping. So I'm up till 3 or 4am browsing the internet having no one to talk to.
When it comes to the weekend, most of the time I don't feel like doing anything. Just feel tired from work, especially on my day off. All I end up doing is watching anime foreign movies or just play xbox.
There have been time where I have gone to a few concerts, but I try not to do that often because I end up spending a couple hundred every time. My friends don't have jobs and the only way they will be able to go to any events by paying for them.

The last show I went to was on Tuesday to go watch The Black Daliah Murder, All That Remains and Dethklok, not sure if anyone is familiar with any of those bands, but I ended up spending $230 for the tickets, I bought 5 of them and around $200 on just booze.

I guess its not loneliness I feel, I'm just upset or depressed. I have no idea whats wrong. But talking about anime or any of my interests (mostly anime though) helps a lot to deal with this crap. Maybe I just need someone to talk to ?
It also doesn't help that I ended up breaking up with my GF in October -__-

That and I been stressing out on what the heck I am going to do. I haven't started college and its been 3 years since high school. I really been wanting to go but I can't quit my job. If I was working just for me, I would quit and go to school but I am also working to help my grandma out. She raised me, so she is practically my mother and ll that she has done for me, I need to pay her back which ever way I can. She does need money, because she doesn't work. She lives of disability and you all know, thats not enough for anything. Barely for rent.
Most of you would say to go to school in the morning but the other problem is transportation. After taxes in February I am going to try hard to do both things, that way I can stay busy and get to meet new people. Hopefully it helps.
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not really
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Posted 12/2/12

Hachikobubble wrote:

Well, I feel especially lonely, because most of friends don't take my advice, and I watch their lives fall apart right before my eyes. I know I can't be the "hero," but it's happened multiple times. My grandma has told me that I'm "wise beyond my years." I don't mean ta brag... But... Face it guys. I'm intelligent with experience from past problems. You should listen to my advice for once. Because I care about you.


I know what you mean.
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