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How do you handle breakups?
wwe
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What do you do when you go though a breakup? What do you do when you dont want to breakup and want to keep the relationship going but your bf/gf wants to breakup with you? What was the worse breakup for you? How do you handle the breakup?

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Put my headphones in play Symphony no.9, light a smoke, and walk away because honestly if they've given up on it whats the point of sticking around to cause yourself more heartache.
Posted 12/2/12
Swallow sadness, fuck a fish, carry the weight, and then move on.
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wwe wrote:

What do you do when you go though a breakup? What do you do when you dont want to breakup and want to keep the relationship going but your bf/gf wants to breakup with you? What was the worse breakup for you? How do you handle the breakup?




I've had that happen a few times. There was one instance where the guy still had a thing for his ex-girlfriend. Didn't end up finding out about it until three months into the relationship. I wanted to wait it out, see if I could get passed it. However his feelings for me started to noticeably vanish (the more I tried). I ended up breaking up with them, only to end up wanting to get back with them...

Dumb I know. Feelings are feelings.

If they don't feel the same, I'd take the hit and walk away. Things will get better eventually. It'll take you a month or two, but you'll eventually develop feelings for someone else and get over them. I've been through two people in the past year. Oddly enough, I think I've found someone who loves me as much as I love them. Possibly more.

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I haven't really had it happen to me, but if I were to go through a breakup, I would just let it go. I would try not to care, I would just forget it all. There's no point in remembering it if there wasn't any love. You can't say that there ever truly was any love, either, in such a case, because if there were, a break-up wouldn't exist. So, forgetting it's the best thing to do. No reason going on, continuing to love someone, knowing that through the break-up, there's no way that they'd ever feel the same way again.

And if they do, then they're just toying with you. That's not love, that's just pleasure on the spot for whenever the breaker-upper needs it.

I'm saying all of this assuming that you as yourself are not the one who makes the break-up.

If you ARE the one who makes the break-up, then there shouldn't be a problem.
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I'm not jesting when I say I haven't had that many break ups.My relationships tend to be long term.A couple of them we never lost feelings for each other but just couldn't get it together on priorities and circumstances kept happening. Repeatedly on againoff again until it just wears you down and you consign yourself to loving but not being in love anymore.You have alot of tears and frustration but move on.A couple I had to wait for good timing so not to hurt the other person too badly-I'd rather take the blame than have someone think they were inadequate or think that I felt that way.The break up that's the hardest is the one caused by death. You cry until you don't even have the strength to stand,and then you look at yourself and stand anyway.Time heals all wounds eventually,but you always carry the scars.Keeping yourself busy with things you enjoy doing,being with people who make you laugh,concentrating on others and not your problems,and not looking for a replacement for that person right away are the wisest things to do to get over a break up.Sometimes you just miss being in love and not actually the person.Even if the person was a jerk,you should still try to be the better person and be as kind and straightforward as possible.
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Be honest with yourself and deal with all of the negativity that comes with the breakup. Your gonna wanna feel better quicker than you actually will. Its important to deal with all the bad emotions as they come and not hold anything in or do something stupid because your tired of feeling a certain way. Talk to people you trust and spend more time with them, they can turn a bad day into a good day. Try to do the things you like to do everyday. Eventually you will bounce back and can continue looking for that special someone.
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well it depends on the situation what do you think the best way to break up with some one is?
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I'd go back to my room, and spend the rest of the day on my bed either drawing, writing, or listening to music while I lay down watching the clouds move across the sky, or I'd do all three. And by dinner time I'll feel a little bit better to go and eat a generous size dinner. And tomorrow will be like any other day. Only difference is the challenge to accept what had happened as well as the changes that follows; but life goes on and I too, will move on.
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Well one thing you shouldnt do : Go out drinking with your ex a week later That went horribly wrong and me ending up walking 20km in sadness :D

But overall i've always taken it fairly well, but most of my relationsships has been shortlived apart from one, although this was also the one that hit the hardest ^^' But in the end i didnt really love her as such anymore, i did love her, but everytime i was around her i just got annoyed with her and stupid shit like that, we talked about it but it all ended up in "meh -.-'"

In the end i broke up, even though i didnt want to, but i realised i just didnt have the same feelings for her anymore, and that i was generally tired with her, then she told me she'd felt the same way about me for a few weeks and had been thinking the same, so we left on good terms ^^ hence the first line LOL

But i guess i didnt really realise it was over till after the party

The way i handled it was actually quite simple in a way I went out got drunk like an idiot, tried to score etc, even succeeded lol (which didnt really make it much better dw didnt cry meanwhile or anything LOL) But it just prooved to me that she couldnt be replaced, and shouldnt. She was who she was and i am who i am Theres always others even though you had something special, but then again, when isnt there something special? :D

So in a way i just accepted my situation cried a bit and then looked forward to a new day
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Posted 12/2/12 , edited 12/2/12

wwe wrote:

What do you do when you go though a breakup? What do you do when you dont want to breakup and want to keep the relationship going but your bf/gf wants to breakup with you? What was the worse breakup for you? How do you handle the breakup?


The same way you handle dirty dishes after a distasteful dinner, you wash them up and let them dry or rinse them, then you make a better dinner next day. If you leave them be for too long they dry up and will be hard to deal with.
But really, the best way to handle it is to start going out and meet new people, fall in love or get a crush, just do not be alone.

Action is the antidote to despair. ~Joan Baez


From you own profile...

I Will Never give up and Never stop fighting I will Keep on going to the end of time.



There is not much you can do to hold on to the person that wish to breakup, because it is probably something that you have done (or did not do) that has caused him to break up in the first place. If you know what has caused it and you understand how attraction work for males, you will know how to fix it but I doubt you can fix how he feels right away. Try giving him some time, find something about yourself that you are not satisfied with and change it for the better. Perhaps next time you meet him, you will make him fall in love with you all over again.
Then again, waiting for the train that might never come and keeping your hopes up might take more energy than getting over a broken relationship.
http://www.lovepanky.com/love-couch/broken-heart/how-to-fall-out-of-love

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Posted 12/3/12
Break everyone's legs . This applies for when things are going well and bad.
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chocolate, ice cream, a good friend then move on..
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crazyquilt wrote:

chocolate, ice cream, a good friend then move on..


Chocolate works for non-break-up days too.
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Posted 12/3/12
I don't do much since it doesn't bother me much as I thought it would. I usually go to video games though to keep it off my mind completely.
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