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How do you handle breakups?
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Thought i was friends with an ex, but as soon as she gets a boyfriend i dont hear from her, then right when they break up....i get a text, so i guess im the distraction between boyfriends, which doesnt bother me to much cause i have my own life, i just think its kinda funny how this has happened the same way for the past 5ish years
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wwe wrote: I wonder if anyone has ever stayed friends with there ex after a breakup. would it be to hard to see them again only as friends or could you handle it? I think it depends and if you could handle him/her being with someone else once they moved on. I also wander how many of you ever got back with your ex and made it work out again. I've tried, and I've only been successful with one. And even then, I haven't been the best of friends for her, probably because I haven't tried that hard. My longest gf completely ignores me, one went out and screwed one of my best friends, and the others just are there and I'm acquaintances with now. I've never gotten back with any of them, probably because I'm a loner anyway and I'm not that great of a friend to my best friends, let alone ex's. |
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I've only dated once. She broke up with me and went back to her ex.
Well... She didn't really breakup with me. One day, she just up and went off and disappeared. I dont remember how long but later I hear from her. Saying that she's sorry she's not coming back because she wants to stay with her ex. Lol. no hard feelings though. Honestly, I knew she would do that. |
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Oh gosh...
I get really sad, and kinda depressed for a few weeks. And possibly try to rebound with someone without realizing it. And then eventually I move on, and the next girlfriend I have will have that much harder of a time earning my trust. |
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Maemi disappeared -.- < you care about me ? omg c: - maemi ( sky-fall )
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Quite frankly, after getting my heart broken in college by a girl I really cared for, I've ran out of "fucks given" currency.
All out. Broke. Not a single one to give. |
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Winter Is Coming.
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Winterfells wrote: Quite frankly, after getting my heart broken in college by a girl I really cared for, I've ran out of "fucks given" currency. All out. Broke. Not a single one to give. Oww, you're so adorable. |
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wwe wrote: I wonder if anyone has ever stayed friends with there ex after a breakup. would it be to hard to see them again only as friends or could you handle it? I think it depends and if you could handle him/her being with someone else once they moved on. I also wander how many of you ever got back with your ex and made it work out again. I did the "on again, off again" dance with my first girlfriend. It went on for a year and a half, and neither of us were happier or better off for it. Harsh though it may be, I swore after that to just cut ties with my exes, once things were over. No "breaks", and no second chances. If we got to the point where we called it quits, we'd have as clean a break as possible, and there would be no going back, because that trust was already broken once. (Or in a few cases, multiple times, before we broke up.) I made a single exception to try to stay friends with my ex wife, and she took the opportunity to not-so-subtly thrust the knife in deeper every chance she got. I know others can pull that off with grace, but not any longer for me. Life's too short to allow people that can't be trusted, to remain in my life. |
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"Sometimes it comes with a shove, when you fall in love."
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Watching anime or talking to a friend , finding some one new
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" hi there " ツ
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wwe wrote: I wonder if anyone has ever stayed friends with there ex after a breakup. would it be to hard to see them again only as friends or could you handle it? I think it depends and if you could handle him/her being with someone else once they moved on. I also wander how many of you ever got back with your ex and made it work out again. actually I'm friends with my previous Ex......it was decided that we were better friends than a couple..... I just recently went to Vegas with her. and it didn't seem weird at all sharing a hotel room with her either.... I had a moment where I thought it was going to feel weird when the lights were off and both of us was in the hotel bed... but I remember being way to exhausted to do anything and on top of that I didn't feel obligated to do anything with her either. but yeah we went to a friends wedding out their and my friend invited us both... and we were like alright a vacation....its alright... but I'm trying not to hang around too much to her.. because I have another G/F now... and I don't want to complicate things anymore than it already is lol...;) |
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some of y'all should consider becoming fiction authors
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A good friend
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I accept random friend requests
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wwe wrote: Spoiler Alert! Click to show or hide I do agree with you on how dumb it is, even i think he being to picky with it I even try to talk to him about it and even told him we are only human and we all have our flaws but nothing I said or did, did not help at all guess he just could not handle someone as different as me it seems like he wants someone to match him thats the same as him. I dont get why, I mean everything we been though I thought by now he could look past my flaws but guess he could not. I even try to tell him how I looked past his flaws and even if they might bother me I would never breakup with you just like that I would keep going to work on it. I not really sure on all why he broke up with me there might be more to his reason on why and he just not saying why. The only thing I dont get is all the time we was dating he never said anything to me about any of this any of my flaws and how I am, that bother him. If he did I could of work more on them and help make it work. He just kept it all to him self until now, until he could not handle it no more. He said he did that b/c he wanted to see if he could make it work but at the end he could not. Right now I just need time to heal before I can move on. All this time I thought we where happy and had something I really thought he did care a lot for me, I am still confused on what really happen and what could of made him think like this and just give up on me like that. Idk something still dont feel right like there more to this story. Like you said this is a dumb reason to breakup and I never seen anyone breakup with someone over small stuff like this. He never seem to be the picky person before so why now?. Sup? How is it going? People lie all the time, from my personal experience, I say that he might have lied, because the truth is probably very embarrassing. I once told a similar lie, because I thought I could not give the girl I loved what she needed. I had no money, no job, no future and it drove me nuts. So I decided to break up instead of pushing this relationship until someone get hurt really bad. I was a bit too immature at that time and felt ashamed to admit to this things, so I made it look like it was her fault. Not a particular found feeling to carry around for the rest of your life, for either of us. Just to wrap the story up, after about 5 years my situation changed and I could get my life going again, immigration policies suck big time sometimes. I don't know if this could be the case for him, but if he is unable to be self fulfilling he might become afraid that he wont be able to fulfil the relationship. Because it is his internal conflict he could feel ashamed to admit to it. I don't know, am just throwing rocks into the well and see if something will come up. |
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Something important have been forgotten
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Banned
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I'll just go "meh".
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I can already control reality with my mind, banning me is pointless.
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Well, usually when I go through a breakup I just kind of, try to keep moving on. And if I don't want them to leave me, I don't do anything. I just respect their wishes and just, leave them alone. I'm possessive and all that, so, I know I'm a lot to handle. The worst breakup for me was when my ex broke up with me because I supposedly forced them to tell me why they loved me or whatever. I tend to flirt, and try to meet other people when I'm trying to get over a breakup. I obviously don't handle breakups very well xD.
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New account. Adding everyone on my friends list.
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~ o,..,o ~ I am going through that right now and i am not handling it too well. Can't stop crying. I know i ended it, but only because he ended it in his heart first. When someone changes, they have already left you. So what is the point in staying with someone that is cold and indifferent. I lost my Goddy a bit over 2 weeks ago, and what i see in him now is just a stranger with no feelings or warmth. *cries*
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~ o,..,o ~
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