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Why do friends disappear when they get in a relationship?
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Posted 12/4/12
They start a new relationship and basically vanish from their friendships, the people who were there for them when they didn't have one. They complained when friends abandoned them for a relationship, and then turn around and do the same thing they didn't like done to them.
Why can't people do both? Have a relationship and keep friends? Why dump friends?
Posted 12/4/12
You know i've wondered this for a long LONG Time myself. not sure. Think they just want to focus on their sig other at the expense of everything around them. Marriage makes them worse and the ultimate friend killer: WHEN THEY HAVE KIDS.
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Do the math damn it.

There is only 24 hours in a single day.
About 9 hours are spent on work and earning money, at least 6 hours should be spent on sleep.
Take away the time it takes to get to work and get home, lets say 1 hour and that leaves 8 hours of free time at best.
Now in those 8 hours you have to do a WHOLE load of things including managing to relax and spent some time with the person you love.

E-mail or facebook is both great ways to keep in touch with friends and such.
Posted 12/4/12

ZingFreelancer wrote:

Do the math damn it.

There is only 24 hours in a single day.
About 9 hours are spent on work and earning money, at least 6 hours should be spent on sleep.
Take away the time it takes to get to work and get home, lets say 1 hour and that leaves 8 hours of free time at best.
Now in those 8 hours you have to do a WHOLE load of things including managing to relax and spent some time with the person you love.

E-mail or facebook is both great ways to keep in touch with friends and such.


Yeah but then there's 16-17 hours awake and free on the WEEKENDS. or do they not have that where you work?
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Posted 12/4/12

DangerousYams wrote:


ZingFreelancer wrote:

Do the math damn it.

There is only 24 hours in a single day.
About 9 hours are spent on work and earning money, at least 6 hours should be spent on sleep.
Take away the time it takes to get to work and get home, lets say 1 hour and that leaves 8 hours of free time at best.
Now in those 8 hours you have to do a WHOLE load of things including managing to relax and spent some time with the person you love.

E-mail or facebook is both great ways to keep in touch with friends and such.


Yeah but then there's 16-17 hours awake and free on the WEEKENDS. or do they not have that where you work?


Plus some people don't work...
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DangerousYams wrote:



Yeah but then there's 16-17 hours awake and free on the WEEKENDS. or do they not have that where you work?

Weekends?
What is that?
This semester I only had 1 weekend each week, that one day is ME time.



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Plus some people don't work...


They don't work, they don't study, they don't hang out with people? Why even bother with people like that?
Especially in a world with at least 6 billion.
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Posted 12/4/12
I mean you love your friends too, right? Or is sex the deciding factor? It's more important and the priority? It's like if you're in the middle of telling your friend something important, and needing advice or in a crisis, and they suddenly need to cut you off...because they are being told to stop hanging or talking with friends anymore? Are having friends threatening to a relationship??
Posted 12/4/12
3 options -

double date

choose love over friends (many would say " i would give up anything just to be with you")

or join a swingers club
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Any relationship that takes you away from your friends is not worth having, in my opinion. True, you may spend more time with your new partner than you spend with your friends, but you should never completely ditch your friends for your relationship. I think, if your partner doesn't want to hang out with your friends or they don't want you to hang out with your friends, then they don't really care about you. A healthy relationship involves spending time with your loved one AND having personal time with your friends. You need both, if you want to be truly happy.
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Posted 12/4/12
im working on the weekends
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Why even bother with people like them?
I mean, people who would tell you not to hang out with you friends or refuse to hang out with you and your friends for whatever reason.

There is still plan B.
Find new friends, better ones.



A friendship can weather most things and thrive in thin soil; but it needs a little mulch of letters and phone calls and small, silly presents every so often - just to save it from drying out completely. ~ Pam Brown


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Posted 12/4/12
I've seen the same thing happen with my close buddy, all of my other friends are very angry at the fact that we don't see him at all anymore. Not to say that I'm blaming his girlfriend in any way, I'm working very hard to explain to the other friends that even thought we don't see "Patrick" anymore doesn't mean he hates us. Patrick is just caught up with school and work, I try to explain that to everyone else but they don't see it that way. What I'm trying to get at is that we are all still friends no matter what, people should know that things change and we all go through that. We should be happy that our friend has found someone they love.
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Posted 12/4/12
Well its probably because they feel that they need to spend as much time as possible with their partner, in order to not lose him/her. The feeling of love is stronger than friendship, so they might pick that as a first choice.
Posted 12/4/12
the way i see it is, you'll always have friends, real friends will be there no matter what. Its the complications of new relationships figuring out and spending time with each other knowing if they're worth it and if they're "The One"
Posted 12/4/12
Its not that difficult.

Their ''love'' got stronger by the other person.
they choose their Relationships love instead of a friendships.
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