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Why do friends disappear when they get in a relationship?
Posted 12/4/12
People move on, live with it. When it's stabalised then they will return.
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Posted 12/4/12
On average most people have about 4 friends that they spend time with regularly. A healthy relationship should have at least 2 or 3 times as much time devoted to it as a regular friendship. That leaves only about half as much time to spend with your regular friends.
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Posted 12/4/12

ZingFreelancer wrote:


Shrapnel893 wrote:



Plus some people don't work...


They don't work, they don't study, they don't hang out with people? Why even bother with people like that?
Especially in a world with at least 6 billion.


I only said they didn't work. Meaning they could also not be able to find work, physically impaired, etc. Why even bother? They're your friend? I think your up-tight student is showing.
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Posted 12/4/12
I've went through that a few times with acquaintances. They want to spend more time with their boyfriend/girlfriend and get to know them. That is fine, nothing wrong with that, but if you truly care about your friends, family etc. you can take a little time to make sure you haven't forgotten about them. This is how I personally feel though.
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Posted 12/4/12

mystic17 wrote:

I've went through that a few times with acquaintances. They want to spend more time with their boyfriend/girlfriend and get to know them. That is fine, nothing wrong with that, but if you truly care about your friends, family etc. you can take a little time to make sure you haven't forgotten about them. This is how I personally feel though.


^ This.
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Posted 12/4/12
I call it "tunnel vision." The people that do this really don't know what it means to be in a friendship.
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19 / F / Oslo
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Posted 12/4/12
I keep my friends when I'm in a relationship, but that's just because I think friends should be valued more just because they've been through so much shit with you.

I hate it when my friends completely disappear when they find that special someone, but it's always amusing to watch them come crawling back after they broke up or had a fight >:D
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Posted 12/4/12
"Why do friends disappear when they get in a relationship?"

I think they call it taking the skin boat to tuna town.
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Posted 12/4/12
It's someone new in their life they are excited about and vice versa. At first they want to spend a lot of time together. But I think it's healthy for the relationship and themselves to make sure to still see their good friends.
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Posted 12/4/12
Maybe online friendships are just more for convenience sake, and not treated with the same value as offline friendships, and considered dispensable.
I mean is it so hard to send an email, and say how you doing? What's new?
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Posted 12/4/12
I am currently dealing with this. My best friend just ended a horrible relationship. He sucked and I was pushed to the side while she worshiped the ground he walked on. Not even a few days later she is madly in love with another guy and looking to follow the previous pattern. Not sure our friendship will last another dude.

All I can say is talk to your friend. I will be. If you care about them and want to stay friends, let them know. Then the ball is in their court. I just really hate breaking in new best friends, so I hope she comes around. xP
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Posted 12/4/12
It's not always the case of moving on as much as giving more of their time to their love interest and whatever surrounds them, which may or may not include you in the picture, unfortunately. :\
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Posted 12/4/12
Lost 2 best friends cause they started going out now i dont even hangout with him , just say hi here and there
Posted 12/4/12
Not all friends disappear.
But those that do have made their choice.
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Posted 12/4/12
Sucks to just be a "convenient" friend , like when they have time for you because the one they are in a relationship with isn't around, and they wanna use you as filler until they show back up, or having a fight. I had a friend recently email me after many many months and say "are you alright?" "noticed you weren't around"

I'm like Wow , really? I'm surprised you noticed. Then once they found out I was alive I guess, they resumed back to not really caring.
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