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Do Asians (in the U.S.) only hangout with other Asians?
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I'm asian and I have only a few actual asian buddys
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im black and most of my friends are asian anyway.
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Hmm. Lezze. Well, in high school and before not so much due to the lack of diversity, really. In my college, it was prevalent to a degree. There was mixing to an extent, my best friend/roommate in college was black, I'm white. The asians at my college were mostly transfers from China and Korea, with a few Japanese. From what I could tell about the asian groups specifically, alot of them knew little english, or didn't speak it well, so they kinda seemed to avoid mixing alot for that reason, and really....just because they were in a different country. If you're in a strange place, you tend to stick with what you know. My last few semesters in Business school my work group consisted of 40+ mom of two, one white guy (other than myself), and two Korean transfer students. One of them couldn't speak english very well, the other was shy at first, then became pretty talkative to me.

One interesting note he mentioned was that while all the Koreans he knew (including himself) were very...expressive and open about feelings, but one of his best friends was a Japanese guy who it took ten years for that guy to tell him that he was his friend. Though I know that it's not a typical trait, I found it interesting. Most of the from-asia asian people I know tend to be more reserved than ones raised in the west, but obviously that's not an all-encompassing trait, and there are exceptions I'm sure.

To answer the mixing question, it greatly depends on the area, from what I've seen. Areas that mix kids at an early age with other groups tend to be more mixed when they get older. When you come from areas that are predominantly your ethnicity and then move to a mixed area, you tend to gravitate to your own group. That's not racism, its just that people are drawn to what they know, and have an innate fear (even if they're conscious of it or not) of things they don't know. That's just human nature. It's just the same way that we gravitate towards people with similar interests and beliefs to ourselves, same concept.

Personally I think it stems from the feeling of being alone when there's no one like you around. You seek people like yourself to fill that gap, to validate your own position on issues, and in life. We want to feel validated in our opinions and have others back us up when we get confronted with a differing opinion.

Another point is that some people consciously or unconsciously avoid conflict. When you're around people like yourself, you're at ease, because those people look and think like you do. (or if you're more mixed, they just think like you). "I am with *this* group, we think *this* way, and that's what I believe is right." --kind of mentality, if you will. There's nothing neccesarily wrong with that idea, but its close minded to seeking out ways to improve yourself, and thusly makes people become stagnant.

That's what I have to say on the topic.

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Haha interesting topic. I have a lot of Asian friends (Filipino, Chinese, Korean, Vietnamese, etc.), but they're not all the same ethnicity as me (Thai). I also have a lot of white friends as well since I live in a white neighborhood. Chicago's a huge place for diversity, so it's just a huge 'melting pot' really. My Asian friends are the ones who like pictures, so that's why it seems I mostly only hang out w/ the Asian crowd.

Also, I guess for some other parts of the US.. people hang out with their own race/ethnicity because there's still a lot of racism/prejudice. I wouldn't say it's clearly defined, but you just have a feeling it's there. So as a safety net, people feel the most comfortable around people who are the same as them.
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i dont think so..
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slowdanse wrote:
My Asian friends are the ones who like pictures

HAHA; that is SO true :]
my dance team likes to take pictures like every 5 seconds.
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omgoshh yea. asians sometimes take pictures like it's their job, lol!
i think other groups are starting to get caught in the camera frenzy these days though.. with myspace and facebook, etc. they basically encourage us to take pictures everytime we do anything.
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lokita wrote:

I'm not Asian, but I hang out with all white people simply for the fact that the city I live in isn't that diverse.

I can honestly say that I've never seen an Asian person in real life before.


you sure you live in pittsburgh?

Well I only see asians hang out with either other asians or white people, at my school there were a brother and sister that hung out with black ppl and "acted" black but there dad was black so thats prob only reason why...

but I think my city is pretty diverse

(not all but the majority id say)
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All my friends are white, hispanic, other, and I'm Chinese.
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I don't have much friends today..(im asian)...
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my cousins in virginia they where born here in US....
they hang out w/ black/asian/white/....
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In LA most asians stick together unless they're white washed. Not that we're all racist but say i meet another korean then we both already have so much in common and its easier to talk to them. I have white friends too
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i only have asian friends but it just turned out that way :x i don't know why but i can never seem to stay friends with white people for a long time. i get along with them fine and i like them a lot but i don't stay in touch with them like my asian friends
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I have white friends. But I kinda feel closer to asian friends >.<
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I hang out with other people of different races and ethnicities, I don't limit it to just asians or just [insert group here]. But there IS an all-asian group at my school, it's so uuuggghhh because they ONLY go out with the people in that group, and my school is a very diverse one with over 2400 students
Posted 6/17/07
I'm asian and i hang with an lot of white peopleO.o(only 1 or 2 of my friends are black)
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