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Posted 6/27/14 , edited 6/27/14

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GabrielBinda wrote:

Life didn't give you a break did it? I've suffer some discrimination, but never to that point.

Most recent would be when I've grown out my bread and everyone thought it'd be so funny to call me Al-Qaeda or Osama. In my lifetime I've notice that if people think you're one race or you have a certain origin, that people tend to think you wouldn't get offended if they made fun of another race or origin which always leads to uncomfortable and stressful situations.
Remember Virginia Tech massacre with the Korean gunmen? Everyone thought I looked depressed because I was quiet, plus I was asian. That was enough for people to start making jokes like how I would shoot up a school in a future. Like uh... you just told me I would be a homicidal sociopath in the future. When I showed them how offended I was they would say I'm too sensitive then proceeded to repeat the joke even louder.

Examples of unfunny racists who don't think they are racist is what some people have to deal with their whole lives


Ugh how rude, feel for ya buddy.
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One common comment I often get is "why are you so pale?" (regardless of my olive skin, I'm quite pale) because I'm Eastern European, born and raised, but I moved to Australia when I was younger. People always make a big deal out of it simply because I'm not tanned.
Posted 6/28/14
I never had anyone call me any slurs, thankfully, but when I got my hair relaxed in the 6th grade everyone (and this includes non-black people of color) was looking at me weird. "Like what happened to your hair? It looks weird!" "Is it real?" And one boy even had the audacity to ask, "Is that a weave?"

Oh, I'm sorry. Can't black girls have not only long, but straight hair and it's still their own? Who are you to question the "realness" of my hair? If anyone of them had dyed their hair I could guarantee that they'd all get compliments. If they permed it, they'd probably say it looks cute and wished their hair looked like that.

But me? No. We had to play the "Is it real?" game. I was so pissed at the boy you have no idea.

Oh, also in middle school, my speech teacher kept calling me the only other black girl in the class's name. She'd be looking right at me too and then say a quick apology and say my name. Then when we got another black girl in the class she got all our names confused.

But really, though? We look NOTHING and I mean NOTHING alike. I had longer hair and wore glasses. I didn't talk or participate. I was also in a lower grade. The first other black girl had shorter hair and was much bigger than me. She was bubbly and talked a lot. She was also in a higher grade. The last black girl also had shorter hair but she darker than both the other more light-skinned girl and me (I'm more medium brown). She occasionally wore glasses, and since she was new it took her a while to talk and participate.

It should never be confusing to tell PoC from one another especially because we NEVER look alike. Like, what is so hard about keeping track of THREE black girls versus 20-something white kids? Like really? The teacher was a nice person as was that boy who asked if my hair was weave but they both piss me off. There's no reason to be anti-black even if it was an "accident" that somehow occurred everyday until I graduated from that class. There's no excuses.

And don't get me started on those projects where we (and by "we" I mean it's always a white group) learn about slurs and everyone (i.e. all the white kids) have to all turn and stare at you when the group presents, or when we're studying the one and only novel written by a black person for the year who details how awful their lives were in the past and I happen to speak up and correct others or offer insight and they (again the white kids; I'm usually in honors and AP classes which seem to have a 2 black people max cutoff) look at me in surprise. The kind of look that says, "Oh, you understand because you're black and they're (the author) black too. We should listen to you more."

I just want to smack them. Microaggressions are really annoying and it's hard being a person with a low tolerance but high impulse-control and small voice to not get angry and stressed out.
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Posted 6/28/14 , edited 6/28/14

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not really, i have a lot of black tendencies becuz most of my freinds are black so im often called a wigger (mostly by those same black friends) so i dont feel that as insulting. but at the same time, i get a lot of other weird looks for some of the things i do because i sorta have a split personality and different parts show up around different people, sometimes im black, sometimes im the whitest kid you kno, and sometimes im that extremely smart asian kid (im really smart and I randomly speak Japanese, start singing Psy, fairly accurately i might add, and sometimes i bring chopsticks to school (when i do this its usually accompanied by "Itadakimasu!") ) Its really weird for me tho because i live in a rural part of the South (Beech Island, South Carolina to be exact)...but i dont have an accent despite livin here my whole life/


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I basically embody all the stereotypes associated with Asians. I look extremely nerdy and I participate in "Asian" activities such as playing piano and cello. I don't do these activities simply because my parents made me. but because I genuinely enjoy them so it grinds my gears when others ask me if my parents are really strict. My pet peeve is when Asian parents come up to me and ask if my parents yell at me. No, my parents do not verbally abuse; I'm just a motivated student.

So yes, I deal with stereotypes all the time. I know I'm reinforcing Asian stereotypes, but I'm trying to be me. To a certain extent, we all judge each other based on our appearance. Identity plays a key role in distinguishing between friend and foe. However, this judging plays a detrimental role in society today. We get so caught up in our preconceptions of each other that we immediately assign a person qualities of a group. This generalization seldom is true (though it is true in my case), which leads to more misunderstanding and offending.
Posted 6/29/14

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I just have to say that just because you fit a stereotype doesn't mean that you're reinforcing it. People who believe stereotypes often look for and set up racial and ethnic self-fulling prophecies, meaning that:


4 Steps to Self-Fulfilling Prophecy

1. Perceiver has expectations about how target will behave

2. Perceiver then behaves in a way that is likely to elicit the expected target behavior

3. Target indeed behaves in a way that confirms perceiver's expectations

4. Perceiver (Objective Perceiver) sees predicted behavior

http://www.umich.edu/~psychol/380sek/Week3.html


This isn't your fault so don't blame yourself. Also, don't believe that you have to somehow fight stereotypes and expect other people of your race/ethncity to do so also.

But I don't see you having any of these problems, and all I wanted to do was comment on your post if that's all right.

Yet I have a question. What do you mean that "Stereotypes are therefore a mechanism of protection developed by humans. Though it's definitely annoying to use stereotypes, it's innate human nature."?

I can understand generalizing and how group think can come in and stuff, but why do you believe (racial and ethnic) stereotyping is inherit in our DNA?
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cinnamonbunsareyummy wrote:



I just have to say that just because you fit a stereotype doesn't mean that you're reinforcing it. People who believe stereotypes often look for and set up racial and ethnic self-fulling prophecies, meaning that:


4 Steps to Self-Fulfilling Prophecy

1. Perceiver has expectations about how target will behave

2. Perceiver then behaves in a way that is likely to elicit the expected target behavior

3. Target indeed behaves in a way that confirms perceiver's expectations

4. Perceiver (Objective Perceiver) sees predicted behavior

http://www.umich.edu/~psychol/380sek/Week3.html


This isn't your fault so don't blame yourself. Also, don't believe that you have to somehow fight stereotypes and expect other people of your race/ethncity to do so also.

But I don't see you having any of these problems, and all I wanted to do was comment on your post if that's all right.

Yet I have a question. What do you mean that "Stereotypes are therefore a mechanism of protection developed by humans. Though it's definitely annoying to use stereotypes, it's innate human nature."?

I can understand generalizing and how group think can come in and stuff, but why do you believe (racial and ethnic) stereotyping is inherit in our DNA?


haha I don't even know what I'm saying. I'm a bit tired so I got a little bit side-tracked. What I meant to say is that identity, not necessarily stereotypes, is useful in distinguishing between friend and foe and thus serves as a protective mechanism. I'll edit my post. Silly me.

I was typing fast so I probably wasn't thinking clearly. What I meant by innate was that a sense of identity is not unique to humans. All animals protect themselves. To do so, they have to be able to distinguish between members of their own species and “outsiders.” They know, in some sense, to what group they belong and who their enemies are. So our need for identity probably has deep roots in our biology. In the animal world, identity can be a matter of life and death. An antelope that cannot distinguish between hungry lions and other antelopes will not last long. Much the same is true in the human world. Among your own family and friends, you will generally find protection. Among aliens, you will often find indifference, sometimes even hostility. So, knowing your identity is like knowing where your home base is. All humans need to know to which groups they belong.

And thanks for the kind words! I appreciate it ^____________^

Posted 6/29/14

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haha I don't even know what I'm saying. I'm a bit tired so I got a little bit side-tracked. What I meant to say is that identity, not necessarily stereotypes, is useful in distinguishing between friend and foe and thus serves as a protective mechanism. I'll edit my post. Silly me.

I was typing fast so I probably wasn't thinking clearly. What I meant by innate was that a sense of identity is not unique to humans. All animals protect themselves. To do so, they have to be able to distinguish between members of their own species and “outsiders.” They know, in some sense, to what group they belong and who their enemies are. So our need for identity probably has deep roots in our biology. In the animal world, identity can be a matter of life and death. An antelope that cannot distinguish between hungry lions and other antelopes will not last long. Much the same is true in the human world. Among your own family and friends, you will generally find protection. Among aliens, you will often find indifference, sometimes even hostility. So, knowing your identity is like knowing where your home base is. All humans need to know to which groups they belong.

And thanks for the kind words! I appreciate it ^____________^



Oh, okay. I got you. I was just a little confused but you've cleared it up. And I'm glad you appreciate my words. Being a person of color is already hard and then when you actually "prove" someone's prejudices it's a whole new level.

I hope you continue to be strong and not get buckled down by another person's ignorance! You seem like a positive person but some words of encouragement from someone who gets it is always good, right?
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Yes, I am stereotyped a lot because I am Caucasian. I am often told that I have a lot of privileges in life due to my skin color, but Caucasians also experience racist... and as much as other races, too. I just wish racism was a thing that didn't exist.

A lot of people say that racism does not include other races being racist to Caucasians. So when people bash Caucasians, it's not "racism," it's reverse-racism? I just... I don't get it. I have friends who are constantly putting down Caucasians and I see it and don't know how to feel. A lot of these friends are Caucasian as well.
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