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Lonely since High School?
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23 / M / Cloud 9.
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Posted 12/14/12
After high school, the real me died.

I got a job right out of high school, and I actually still work for the same place. It's been 4 years and I have no friends anymore, I never go out, and when I get excited or nervous talking to someone I lose my breath which never used to happen. I can see a very large change in the way I act around people, socially inept, obvious panic attacks now, not being able to carry conversations, becoming more and more apathetic as each day goes on and countless other emotions on a daily basis. And it's all to blame on my job, which is working night shift and weekends, taking away any chance of socializing. To add, I don't even like socializing online anymore either because of certain events that have transpired.

All in all, I can generally say that you've just joined the ranks of what people might call "Real Life" where as high school is some bullshit bubble they trap you in to keep you brainwashed.

Leaving high school means finding the real friends in life. Those few guys or gals that would take a knife in the chest for you no matter the circumstance, no questions asked. It means, sacrifice, losing things you love, enjoy doing, eating, sleeping, and more. I wish you luck on your long journey ahead of you.
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Posted 12/14/12

Shrapnel893 wrote:


JoAnime3853 wrote:

For me it was the exact opposite! I had one friend in high school but now that I've escaped I meet new people all the time and I have a large group of friends that I can't imagine being without.


So, what happened to that one friend?


I'm still friends with her, but she's on the other side of the country now so we don't hang out. (Haha obviously)
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I am in the same boat. After high school, I have actually found it exceptionally harder to make friends and I lost all friends from high school. Separate paths. I think high school gives a environment where one can socialize easily. Now, I am very socially inept and I find myself debating what to say that often have big pauses ofter a comment or I am silent.
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Posted 12/14/12
I tried to find a balance. I maintained both friends and still watched anime. Sometimes it hard, but it's all about the effort you put in to something. Sometimes I blow off friends to watch anime, sometimes I hang out with friends instead of anime.
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22 / M / New York City
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Posted 12/14/12
lol basically the same as the op,but i have no job and still going to school, i had some good friends from high school, still hang out afterward but as time past we went out separate paths(didnt help they mostly a grade behind me). I'm actually trying to stop being friend w/ my best friend b/c he became a major a-hole since a few month ago(i still hang out with him a few time this year). Now i no friend to hang out so i alone most of my time, but im always been a little social withdrawn so i dont really mind it since i got use to it. Now have some problem with talking to people but it not as bad it can be.
most interaction come from family but since i value my close family i dont really care
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it's a quick but painless transition, I was the lady killer in high school, many connections with students and teachers, could get away with almost anything, good friend to many. Then College came, no one knew me except the few that transferred along. Back to square one...
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29 / M / Las Vegas
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Posted 12/14/12

Jaydizm wrote:

Idk bout everyone else but since high school ended, I only got a couple close friends left. Everything seems boring, and theres nothing exciting anymore. My routine consists of work, school, games, anime, and the occasional hangout. Maybe it's just me. Or anyone else out there?


High school should prepare you for the real world socially because the real world is pretty close to high school in social terms.

I was pretty socially inept in middle school and my first two years in high school but it was mostly because I couldnt find anyone that I could be comfortable being myself with. I always thought that I wasnt "cool" enough so it would be better if I kept my mouth shut. By the 11th grade I was sick of keeping my mouth shut and so I started talking to anyone and everyone. Once high school was over I was at least aquainted with 90% of my graduating class (only about 130 people) and I had broken out of my shell so it was much easier for me to talk to anyone just walking down the street or riding on the subway. Once I got sick of college (college drop-out ) I decided to move to Vegas and meet some more new people. Moral of the story: Its hard to be lonely when you actually make an effort to meet new people.

I would suggest a change of scenery to force yourself to meet new people. Once you get bored... Just move again, heh.
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20 / M / Sydney, Australia
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Posted 12/14/12
Kind of... but it ain't too bad. I keep myself busy
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Yeah... All I do is work and then go home
My friends decided to all leave the state for school while I stayed here.
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Posted 12/15/12
It happened to me i noticed it and shit is it boring i always want to go back in time fix problems and hang out more with friends so your not alone on that feel but that's life it sucks
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47 / F / Mid-Atlantic
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Posted 12/15/12
OH GOD NOOOO!!! Folks if your still living off of your school days, you REALLY need to expand your horizons.
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Posted 12/15/12
Everything got better after high school. Seriously.
College > High school. And I'm not even referring to parties/social life. Just college in general.
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24 / M / Australia
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Posted 12/15/12
I was probably more lonely in both primary and high school than I am now. Almost everyone I knew from school were all snobs, so I don't care as I got older. I feel like I have grown to meet new people and couldn't care less about the the people I grew up with school. They've either left and lost contact or they just acknowledge me and pretend I don't even exist.

I am more happy now than I was back in school. So I don't want to go back in time because I've met new people, built new relationships and feel more content with life.
Posted 12/15/12 , edited 12/15/12
Hahaha. There's one person I remember from school.

It was filled with disgusting personalities.


I remember most teachers, but if I could go back in time, I'd probably become a mass murderer.
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21 / M / Texas
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Posted 12/15/12
I feel closer to the friends I have made in college even though I have only known them for about 3 years than all the people I went to school with for 14 years!!!

There is no clique bs or popularity contests in college like in high school and everyone is much more mature and open minded.
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