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Once a heart is lost, can you ever get it back?
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2012 is almost out, and in with a new year 2013 soon (Who really believes in that december 21st stuff anyways? heh).

Over the past 3 years ive been in too many relationships to count, some lasted awhile, others.. not so much. Touched some hearts, broke a few, and lost my own in the process. I learned, retried, failed, and now I lay here in my bed, looking at my call log, all the missed calls, texts ive ignored, facebook messages I Don't respond too, Letters. Gifts. Nothing gives me that emotion anymore. Im completely numb now. Its weird. I would never think I would become this way thinking back to 2010. I had a big heart, that beat steady. Now it just beats slow. Maybe im just over thinking things, being overcritical. But it scares me more than anything.

Can a heart thats lost, ever be regained? If so.. its all I want for christmas.
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Only in part, sadly. But love can heal what remains broken and restore what has been lost. That is to say, once you've given your heart, only another heart can make yours whole again. . .Good luck and stay strong!
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moonhawk81 wrote:

Only in part, sadly. But love can heal what remains broken and restore what has been lost. That is to say, once you've given your heart, only another heart can make yours whole again. . .Good luck and stay strong!


I really hope so man, cause feeling numb like this isn't the best thing in the world. Now I really know the meaning of emotionally drained.
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I'd like to say it gets easier, but I don't think that's the case. Time and introspection will help, and yes, even time not looking for relationships can be useful, instead of jumping from rebound to rebound before you've even had a chance to figure out what went wrong, much less how to fix it. Sometimes you need to figure out how to be happy without someone, before you can figure out how to be happy with someone again. Whatever doesn't kill you makes you stranger, I always say. But stranger can be a good thing; since it's a sign of experiences gained, and lessons (hopefully) learned.
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you're cute
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No if you lose your heart then I don't think you can get it back, I mean really, how the .. do you lose your heart?

Seriously, it's all in the head;) But I don't know-.- It depends on the person.
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If you find it.
You can do it man! Don't be a hopeless person.
And about the December thingy, its fake because nothing "magical" happens when people put a specific date. It's happens when it happens. :p people are just Goodnessess
Posted 12/16/12
If you lost your heart, I suggest you go to Kansas, get sucked in by a tornado, and get transported to the Land of Oz. You'll probably find it there. xD
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ChaseTheCase wrote:

2012 is almost out, and in with a new year 2013 soon (Who really believes in that december 21st stuff anyways? heh).

Over the past 3 years ive been in too many relationships to count, some lasted awhile, others.. not so much. Touched some hearts, broke a few, and lost my own in the process. I learned, retried, failed, and now I lay here in my bed, looking at my call log, all the missed calls, texts ive ignored, facebook messages I Don't respond too, Letters. Gifts. Nothing gives me that emotion anymore. Im completely numb now. Its weird. I would never think I would become this way thinking back to 2010. I had a big heart, that beat steady. Now it just beats slow. Maybe im just over thinking things, being overcritical. But it scares me more than anything.

Can a heart thats lost, ever be regained? If so.. its all I want for christmas.


Dude, you're a heartbeat away from sounding like a stalker. Shake off your feelings for a bit and consider things rationally. If you are an emotion junkie then it's just a matter of time before you get involved with someone who will f*ck with your head, f*ck your sister, and then leave you scarred for life. If you are lucky you will only have emotional scars, but you could end up with someone's name tattooed on your neck, or branded into your ass, or worse.


Image pulled from the MOT thread.
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Posted 12/16/12
Time.
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Only if the heart was in a cooler.

Sounds like a job for the Get Backers...
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mhibicke wrote:


ChaseTheCase wrote:

2012 is almost out, and in with a new year 2013 soon (Who really believes in that december 21st stuff anyways? heh).

Over the past 3 years ive been in too many relationships to count, some lasted awhile, others.. not so much. Touched some hearts, broke a few, and lost my own in the process. I learned, retried, failed, and now I lay here in my bed, looking at my call log, all the missed calls, texts ive ignored, facebook messages I Don't respond too, Letters. Gifts. Nothing gives me that emotion anymore. Im completely numb now. Its weird. I would never think I would become this way thinking back to 2010. I had a big heart, that beat steady. Now it just beats slow. Maybe im just over thinking things, being overcritical. But it scares me more than anything.

Can a heart thats lost, ever be regained? If so.. its all I want for christmas.


Dude, you're a heartbeat away from sounding like a stalker. Shake off your feelings for a bit and consider things rationally. If you are an emotion junkie then it's just a matter of time before you get involved with someone who will f*ck with your head, f*ck your sister, and then leave you scarred for life. If you are lucky you will only have emotional scars, but you could end up with someone's name tattooed on your neck, or branded into your ass, or worse.


Image pulled from the MOT thread.


Unless I've been misinformed my entire life, isn't a stalker someone that pursues? I've never actively pursued any woman, other than my ex from way back, she actually meant something to me, but after it became "fck you, I hate you." I stopped cause it was a waste of energy, she called me randomly not too long ago trying to rekindle our relationship..but it made me sick to my stomach. 6 months too late, I suppose. a'll I've ever been seeing myself do is get into relationships then just fade away, not the opposite. For example, I met someone a few weeks ago, we were alright for awhile then I just ran out of feelings for them. I stopped responding to the texts, rarely pick up my phone, and I stay offline on Facebook to avoid confrontation.I'll probably bump into them eventually though.the bad part about that is, I can move on to someone new within a day..making me seem like a emotionless a hole..but the feelings don't last for me anymore I'm not one to get attached. Usually the only thing that keeps me from completely fading is the irrational fear of letting anyone down, but I have a bad habit of lifting up hopes.

As far as a emotional junkie goes, thars the essential part of the meaning to this thread. I'm not saying I'm over r emotional. I'm saying I've become numb over the years. I just want my feelings back. Wasn't always like this though, at one point I just started caring less and less. Which is the roots of my problems.

Be rational when reading, don't skim.
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I know what it means to be in your position, Because the same thing happened to me.
So I will give you Knowledge because that is the only thing I can offer that might help beside encouragements.(please read it thoroughly)


First and foremost every human is born with an emotion Circuit of reward.
doing an act that makes a person happy, will trigger this circuit. making it a habit, that the person can't stop by his own. (Ex: Smoking)

that is why you went on a series of relationships in a row, seeking every time to get this reward.

Thing is, as all chemical interactions within the body of a human. this chemical circuit too become less and less effective from overuse, and it burns (like when you overload a wire with electricity). rendering a human without the joy he once had.


This creates a state people call it numbness, your body stops reacting to the chemicals that made you happy.
A chemical phenomena called "sensitization", which means no matter what is the stimulus there is no response.


The good news is if a person withdraws from the act, giving time for the chemicals to start working again. Will return the person to the state he was in before and even better.

So Yes, the heart you have is still there, It is just like a wounded solider after a heated battle, Needs time to rest and recover. : )
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Yes, it can, man.
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See, I'm not the only one who thinks you're an emotion junkie. Stop chasing the feelings while you still can, and work on accomplishing something tangible.

You've been warned, so try to avoid an ass brand.
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