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Once a heart is lost, can you ever get it back?
Posted 12/16/12
lol after reading the OP post carefully i can't believe the kind of replies this got. A heart getting lost is the most absurd thing i've ever heard. Go do something in you life like bungee jumping if the excitement is gone, you only need a change of scenery lol, more town and get rid of your phone
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Posted 12/16/12 , edited 12/16/12
Well honestly TS, that's the problem with relationships with another individual.
Learn to love a collective instead man,
not as easy, but something like loving your friends & family greater than some individual --
I'd guess there'd be less whiplash in the end as well.

'a heart's never lost, just misplaced.

Cheer up.
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Posted 12/16/12
No, if you lose your heart, you die. ._.
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Posted 12/16/12 , edited 12/16/12
it takes time to mend a broken heart but have your closest reliable friends help ^.^
but if you lost your heart, then go find it! try different things and you just might regain whats been lost
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StrikerGx wrote:

I know what it means to be in your position, Because the same thing happened to me.
So I will give you Knowledge because that is the only thing I can offer that might help beside encouragements.(please read it thoroughly)


First and foremost every human is born with an emotion Circuit of reward.
doing an act that makes a person happy, will trigger this circuit. making it a habit, that the person can't stop by his own. (Ex: Smoking)

that is why you went on a series of relationships in a row, seeking every time to get this reward.

Thing is, as all chemical interactions within the body of a human. this chemical circuit too become less and less effective from overuse, and it burns (like when you overload a wire with electricity). rendering a human without the joy he once had.


This creates a state people call it numbness, your body stops reacting to the chemicals that made you happy.
A chemical phenomena called "sensitization", which means no matter what is the stimulus there is no response.


The good news is if a person withdraws from the act, giving time for the chemicals to start working again. Will return the person to the state he was in before and even better.

So Yes, the heart you have is still there, It is just like a wounded solider after a heated battle, Needs time to rest and recover. : )


Possibly the most helpful post ever. I'd rep you if I could. Being numb is not a good feeling. I was going to mention that it seemed like the more people who came into my life, the more numb I became. I guess cause I used to be a shy, closed in individual, after junior year of h.s I started becoming more out going and sociable. Thanks again, I just need a break from everyone I know right now. And I need to stop giving chances while I'm in this kind of state I suppose to. Thanks again.
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Posted 12/16/12

mhibicke wrote:

See, I'm not the only one who thinks you're an emotion junkie. Stop chasing the feelings while you still can, and work on accomplishing something tangible.

You've been warned, so try to avoid an ass brand.


Too many girls in my life to worry about An tattoo. I'm not chasing the feelings. I'm just trying to avoid becoming what I don't want to become. A heartless individual.

Im just tempted to deactivate my account on Twitter, and fb, and get away from everyone for awhile.
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Posted 12/16/12

ChaseTheCase wrote:

Im just tempted to deactivate my account on Twitter, and fb, and get away from everyone for awhile.


Do it!
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Posted 12/16/12

mhibicke wrote:


ChaseTheCase wrote:

Im just tempted to deactivate my account on Twitter, and fb, and get away from everyone for awhile.


Do it!


Yeah, no snark here...I also say do it. Take a little time to yourself, but not too long - you don't necessarily want to lose any of the friends you have. I don't exactly like the term "finding yourself" for this process, however. If not done well, you may find yourself alone. (Alone for a little while is fine, and anyone who doesn't understand that might be someone you're better off without.)
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Posted 12/16/12 , edited 12/16/12

StrikerGx wrote:

I know what it means to be in your position, Because the same thing happened to me.
So I will give you Knowledge because that is the only thing I can offer that might help beside encouragements.(please read it thoroughly)


First and foremost every human is born with an emotion Circuit of reward.
doing an act that makes a person happy, will trigger this circuit. making it a habit, that the person can't stop by his own. (Ex: Smoking)

that is why you went on a series of relationships in a row, seeking every time to get this reward.

Thing is, as all chemical interactions within the body of a human. this chemical circuit too become less and less effective from overuse, and it burns (like when you overload a wire with electricity). rendering a human without the joy he once had.


This creates a state people call it numbness, your body stops reacting to the chemicals that made you happy.
A chemical phenomena called "sensitization", which means no matter what is the stimulus there is no response.


The good news is if a person withdraws from the act, giving time for the chemicals to start working again. Will return the person to the state he was in before and even better.

So Yes, the heart you have is still there, It is just like a wounded solider after a heated battle, Needs time to rest and recover. : )


You are smart xD Totally a worth answer.


ChaseTheCase wrote:


mhibicke wrote:

See, I'm not the only one who thinks you're an emotion junkie. Stop chasing the feelings while you still can, and work on accomplishing something tangible.

You've been warned, so try to avoid an ass brand.


Too many girls in my life to worry about An tattoo. I'm not chasing the feelings. I'm just trying to avoid becoming what I don't want to become. A heartless individual.

Im just tempted to deactivate my account on Twitter, and fb, and get away from everyone for awhile.


About deactivating your account and everything, I don't think it's the best idea <.<!! I mean sure you need some time of from people, but man shutting yourself away like that would just cause more serious things -.-

I must apologize for my dumb ass answer before this one. <.< But I just wanted to tell you that's its all in the mind, lay low and don't try to think about having a relationship, just try do things that are important to you at the moment, don't try to rush anything.
Actually about when you said that you were a shy kid and then you entered junior and became more social, that actually me <.< Just it happened last year more or so, I was very shy all through my life and now and since last year I'm beginning to open up, so I guess I sympathize with you on that one <.< But man, just don't try to get into a relationship as of yet, just tell everyone that you need some time, it's probably for the best.

Actually I kinda feel numb as well, but it isn't because I have had many girlfriends or anything, it's just that I don't think I've ever "been" happy, it never feels like that for me, sure I laughed here and there, but is that really happiness <.<?

Don't give up mate;) Rooting for ya:D
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Posted 12/16/12
I'm beginning to wonder the same thing myself. I lost my wife of 23 years almost three years ago, and I keep finding myself wondering if I will ever really be happy again. She and I completed each other. We were true soulmates. She always used to tell me that if I were to go before her, she would be inside the casket with me. I used to think she was just being a little dramatic. Now, I'm actually glad she passed on first, because, even as strong as she was, she would not have been able to handle this emptiness I feel all the time. I will say that I am now doing better than I was just a year ago, but I still have a very long way to go. But in answer to the question posed in this thread, I'm inclined to say no. If the person is/was important to you, they will always be a part of you. Only time will tell.
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Posted 12/16/12
You can't regain something lost if you never actually lost it. You just prolly wound up burying it in the back of your mind waiting for some moment to dig it back up. The fact that you can recall how you felt about your ex and what you feel towards her now is proof you never lost it
Posted 12/16/12
I don't know exactly what to say to you, but I have much respect for being honest about your feelings. I can only wish the best to you and hope and pray you never give up on love.
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Posted 12/16/12

Spazticus wrote:


mhibicke wrote:


ChaseTheCase wrote:

Im just tempted to deactivate my account on Twitter, and fb, and get away from everyone for awhile.


Do it!


Yeah, no snark here...I also say do it. Take a little time to yourself, but not too long - you don't necessarily want to lose any of the friends you have. I don't exactly like the term "finding yourself" for this process, however. If not done well, you may find yourself alone. (Alone for a little while is fine, and anyone who doesn't understand that might be someone you're better off without.)


agreed...time alone for a little while to figure your life out...i am also in this process
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Posted 12/16/12
I found it! wanna get it back??
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Posted 12/16/12 , edited 12/16/12
Get a heart transplant?
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