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Post Reply Staying friends with your ex
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Posted 12/19/12
Exes pretty much like a used up tube of tooth paste you can squeeze one more out, but do you really want to?
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bad idea. badddd. really really bad.
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In my experience sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. I might also depend on the type of breakup you had. Can u see urself just being friends with this person or is it just too painful, I'd say give it time u never know what might happen
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Out of four relationships two are my friends. The first one was only my friend AFTER we both got over the breakup. The second one, the breakup was a calm one so we could remain friends.

That being said; I think it depends on the relationship itself, the people involved, the cause of the breakup, and how both parties recovered. Also with time you can try to become friends with an ex if you give them the chance, and let the past be the past.

In any case you should have time apart before becoming friends, even with a mutual breakup.
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Nah not at all. An ex is an ex for a reason. Even if you say you can forget the feelings, it will always bother someone if you get feelings or him/her. It sucks seeing someone you were with for a long time with another person, even if you're over them and that works both ways I wouldn't want to put a girl through that. ( Not saying i'm that great lol)

For me personally, my ex's get jealous or the person their with gets jealous. -______-;
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Hell, no, man. Fuck that shit.
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Not really, no.
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25 / M / Bakersfield
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Posted 12/19/12
I am still really good friends with my ex. I haven't had any bad experience, don't know if it because I am asexual or if I haven't been in a really committed relationship. But either way I don't see why it is that I can't be friends with those unlucky enough to have been in a serious relationship with me.
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Posted 12/19/12
yes, why not...sometimes relationships don't work but you can still stay friends.
even better if her friends are sexy
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No.
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Posted 12/19/12
nah. it's too awkward. especially because you always want to go to old habits, but then you're like... shit.. right. I'm not with this guy anymore.
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Posted 12/19/12 , edited 12/20/12
I honestly hate it when people ask you "Can we just be friends" I feel people are just a tool to anyone who says that. In short "I don't want to be with you but I want you as a emotional toy whenever I need someone to lean on, then you can sit watch and rot when I find someone I think I really love."

I really have lost a lot of faith in today's world largely because of this most of today's generation will not stick with someone if they for whatever reason begin to dislike their partners, I only believe in breaking up with someone if they are cheating, if you're going to have a relationship with them observe them and make sure you know you can make it with them before you hurt someones feelings in a matter that will impact them for the rest of their lives, I made sure I knew I could make it with my girlfriend before I got together with her.

If you truly love the person you will be happy for them when they find someone else even if they leave you, however you will also have a void bigger than any hole on this planet at the fact they chose someone over you and you have to sit and watch it, you'll have to live with that for the rest of your life and some people never recover from that in some cases even if they can find someone who they care for better but that's far easier said than done.

I also want everyone to keep in mind EVERY RELATIONSHIP WILL HAVE PROBLEMS and sometimes long periods of hardship regardless of if you're boyfriend and girlfriend or husband and wife. I've seen men and women destroy their own lives just over believing they would be better off in another relationship than the one they had, I know someone who lives alone because of that right now and regrets his decision for not accepting his wife back (he lost his family and all of his girlfriends since have ditched him,) as well as another man who came back and apologized to his wife 20 years later after running off with another woman because he had more problems with his current relationship than his old, There was also a woman who was married to someone I know, she decided to run between him and another man eventually they broke away because of her decision to be with the other man now she's out living underneath a overpass after the other man left her. Believe me my list doesn't end there I could fill this page if I wanted to with how many times I've seen this occur. 95%% of the people now days are not capable foreseeing that IT IS NOT WORTH LEAVING YOUR MATE FOR ANOTHER BECAUSE YOU WILL RUN INTO PROBLEMS AGAIN unless they are cheating or commiting serious forms of abuse it's only a matter of time.

Edit: While it is true some people are more compatible than other's, however what it boils down to the absolute most is can a person accept much in a relationship regardless of who they are with. I've met people who argue with their husband/wife every other few days Meh in one of these couples one even accuses the other of of trying to kill her fairly often too but, they've been married for 50 years now and still going well. There are also the people who are married to people with special disorders or multiple personalities, I've seen two old couples, one today in which the woman only had a few inches of her arms and legs (yes her entire body was only as big as my arms,) but her husband acted happy taking care of her, I met another old man whose wife has had cancer 3 times now, it's destroyed her voice to where she can no longer speak so she has to use Morse code to talk, but they both smile each time I've seen them and that has been many times now, I can tell the man is happy just to have his wife still with him.
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Posted 12/19/12
Too awkward--I always end up ignoring the guy. :c
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22 / F / New Jersey
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I think it depends on the ex and other factors. I was able to stay friends with my ex that I'd (online mind you) dated for two years and was very close to and friendly with for a long while...But because of personal issues and lingering feelings, I slowly separated myself from him because it was awkward and I'm a naturally uneasy person- I was afraid I'd end up hurting myself again when I'd already admitted still having feelings. Plus, his best friend (a mutual friend) confessed and sorta pushed it, making me realize how I must've seemed and also making me completely nervous xD
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Posted 12/20/12
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