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Post Reply Staying friends with your ex
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Posted 5/22/13
I don't have a problem with being friends with some of my ex's, but their new men have a problem with me. Because of apparently jealousy, we usually have to break off our friendship which is screwed up. To me, if you love someone you shouldn't force them to choose between being with you and maintaining a friendship with anyone.

The only issue I have in this department is with my ex wife. She and I have a...history. She still talks to me, but I am not always comfortable talking to her. Sometimes it feels like she still thinks we are married even though it's been 2 1/2 years since our divorce was final. I care for her as a person which is why I still talk to her from time to time, but I do not love her.
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Posted 7/19/13
It's hard. But I try. Let's just say it isn't the same as we first met till after we broke up as a couple. But everyone is different. I for one think something valuable has left the overall friendship and heart.
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Posted 7/19/13
after 14 years of marrage my ex is a much better friend then wife, were both happier with each other now
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28 / F / georgia, usa
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Posted 7/19/13
yes but only with one of them and she and i do almost every thing together, we are the best of friends
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28 / F / georgia, usa
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Posted 7/19/13

daracket wrote:

after 14 years of marrage my ex is a much better friend then wife, were both happier with each other now


i know many people that divorce and say the same thing years later i guess it most commonly happens when both people just realize they just aren't happy together and its not personal and no ones feelings are really hurt by the end because both just accept it wasnt meant to be
Posted 7/19/13
I've stayed friends with one of my exes, and he dumped me because we had been really good friends before dating and he just wanted to be friends. He told me that he didn't want to lose me as a friend. I was heartbroken but I said yes because I thought that being near him would be enough, but since I still had lingering feelings I suffered a lot being by his side. Now we are back together because when one day I guess my friend told him the truth and I left him and I can remember him chasing me and telling my that he was so sorry and never knew and was so scared that he would lose me so he wanted to be friends. It was very cute but it will probably never happen in every situation so I suggest don't be friends with exes.
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17 / F / USA
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Posted 7/19/13
No. I just can't. Too many old and upsetting memories.
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It doesn't matter.
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Posted 7/19/13
Never!
I need enemies more than I want friends!
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25 / M / Canada
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Posted 7/19/13
My ex is currently one of my best friends, and we regularly joke about problems and whatnot we had when we were dating. Granted, our breakup was due to extenuating circumstances moreso than any sort of personal reasons, so maybe that's why we can still be so friendly. I think we both understood that it wouldn't work out, so we pretty much mutually decided friendship was where we should be.
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29 / M / Edinburg Tx.
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Posted 7/19/13
Can't do to akward and weird..
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23 / M / UK
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Posted 7/19/13
Egh, it really isn't worth it. Even though you think at the time you'll be losing a great friend, chances are if you're breaking up then you probably wouldn't get along as friends either. Better to just leave it be, regardless of who got dumped.

If you really really have to, go with this as a general rule of thumb - went out with someone for three months? Wait six to be their friend. A year? Wait two. Five? Wait ten. Married? You were an idiot to begin with.
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Posted 7/19/13
Yep my ex is my friend now but i don't know why i can't be normal around him. It's kind of awkward and i feel kind of nervous... But he still talks to me normally like we've never been going out with each other before... Tho maybe he realized that i can't talk to him as a normal friend now but i really wanted to talk normally
Posted 7/19/13
not for me, all of my ex's have become rude and stuck up after. Even though most of them cheated on me and would say it was my fault for being too boring or depressing ._.
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Posted 7/19/13
I've tried...Doesn't work
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69 / M / point of singularity
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Posted 7/19/13
i tryied 6 yeas is a long time shes ready to do what she wants....im just in the way she said...o well ill pack my self alone untill one some one else comes and fills what she took with her a year ago.... nothing else to say but pain is part of getting back to who u are
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