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Tried to, but it's super awkward.
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25 / F / Australia
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Only remained friends with one ex and it is difficult and can be awkward, even after dealing with the hurt from the break up.

Sometimes he doesn't seem to understand the boundary between just friends and relationship, and other times I've felt like I might be falling for him again... but we're not on the same wavelength, gradually having less and less in common, and I wouldn't be surprised if in a few years we're simply acquaintances who don't talk.

Treading a fine line and trying not to offend each other!
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amandagoesgrr wrote:

If the break up wasn't a complete nightmare and you weren't left hating each other, then sure why not? 11 years later I'm still friends with my first Ex.

agreed.

my break-ups were civil.. no malice; no resentment. i simply moved on romantically.



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rotisserie wrote:


amandagoesgrr wrote:

If the break up wasn't a complete nightmare and you weren't left hating each other, then sure why not? 11 years later I'm still friends with my first Ex.

agreed.

my break-ups were civil.. no malice; no resentment. i simply moved on romantically.





Yeah, that's pretty much it in a nutshell.
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Exs can't be friends only enemies in the making...
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20 / F / Wanderer in Texas
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I believe if both parties are are mature enough to stay friends, it is indeed possible.
I am friends with one of my ex's. I mean, some people are just meant to stay friends, others are well.. you know.
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i couldn't do it but i have seen people who, given some time from the breakup, are still friends
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nah i don't stay friends i cut them out of my life as if they were never there
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The "I hope we can still be friends" is pure BS. It gets too awkward to just be "friends." I'm referring to a long relationship(s), not a short relationships. I made a mistake being friends with my ex-boyfriend and I ended up going out with him again but it was too awkward because I just didn't like him anymore. I feel like you can't be alone with an ex-lover. Everything just goes wrong.
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Persistent ex is a keeper
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Bad idea. Bad baaaaaaaaaaaaad idea.


Worse if you have a current relationship
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95% of the time, even if you both want to stay friends, the circumstances of life just get in the way.
It's very rare (personally and from everyone else posting) that you can stay friends with an ex.
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There are many kinds of love. A person's heart doesn't change overnight. Some people are insanely passionate and can't live without each other, but usually people don't fall so hard. Most relationships start out as an attraction and don't really go anywhere. Entire lives get ruined that way. I have made those kinds of mistakes too, and breaking up is always painful and difficult. I don't really think anyone can really stay friends with an ex.. just because there will always be resentment on both sides. No matter how hard you try to hide it, it will always be there, the "why couldn't we make it work?". You will be reminded of the old relationship. And even if that person changes and things would work out better at a later time, you would be incapable of seeing them for who they are now, only remembering them for who they were when you were together.

Stick to 2D. lol then you don't have to worry about any of that.
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I'd definitely try I mean as long as its not a bad break up that messes you both up. I would really not like to have like bad relations with someone I use to be so close with. I was obviously that close for a reason so I'd really try and keep that no matter what.
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i tried once but she thought that ment she could call me anytime she wanted for some booty even tho i was dating girls. eventually we just quit speaking when i quit having sex with her
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