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27 / F / California
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Posted 12/20/12
I'm associates with two of my exs. We don't hang out and we definitely don't talk on a regular basis.
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47 / F / Mid-Atlantic
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Posted 12/20/12
DON"T DO IT! It may work for a few people, but for the majority it doesn't because of all the reasons stated previously.

Perfect example of what could happen. My best friend of close to a decade had an ex whom he remained friends w/ for 15+ years, he was one of probably the top 5 in his industry very clever and intelligent and had several relationships that could have developed into life long relationships, but he had the ex. A woman who would call him constantly and require him to divert his attention from his true goals or at least give that appearance because of her emotional blackmail. During a period of lets say loneliness he gave into her suggestions to having a child together. Needless to say he agreed, mind you baby was a turkey baster pregnancy. So in the end he gave up a job offer with top firm in the country, had to become an independent contractor to stay home with the baby because the ex wouldn't, and now lives with and pays for a woman he doesn't have sex with. He is permanently off the market, because no sane woman would ever get involved with his baggage. Even friends avoid him now. Just say no!! Get on with your life and find someone new.
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25 / M / Bonne Lake, WA
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Posted 12/20/12
Depends on how well you know the person.

If you were sexually active, don't bother. That physical attraction doesn't go away, and that's what makes it awkward. If you weren't, it could be entirely possible to hang out in the same group without any issues.

I would cautiously say that the problems with being friends with your ex comes from immaturity.
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15 / M / Somewhere in arizona
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Posted 12/20/12
I tried but it didn't work out to well for me >.<
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23 / F / Sexual Chocolate
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Posted 12/20/12
I dated my ex for 6 months, accompanied her to her mother's funeral, and as soon as we broke up I never saw her again until just last week where we happened to pass each other in the grocery store. So yeah, it's not my thing. Although if I ever dated someone who didn't eventually morph into an emotional wreck/manipulative bitch/potential serial killer then i'd be willing to try the whole friends thing after breaking up.
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I have. I would say it isn't worth it. Normally someone still has some lingering emotions for one another and it just doesn't work out. Just say no.
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23 / F / Rapture
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I have only stayed friends with one ex and that's because we were best friends before. We aren't at the same level of friendship anymore but nothing is awkward for us. I would never be friends with an ex unless we started from a healthy friendship and had lots of other history.
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31 / M / So Cal
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Posted 12/20/12 , edited 12/20/12
Are you separating via cheating or bigotry? Not understanding why you can be friends before not after. They're the same person, just tired of being in a relationship with you or vice versa. Get over yourself.

I once dated a girl off an on for 3 years, broke up, got back together a couple times, but always stayed friends. Why? The same reason we hooked up. We enjoyed each other's company. It's only awkward if you make it that way.
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22 / M / Denmark
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Posted 12/20/12
Nope i usally do something extremely childish like saying shes fat or something to prevent it happening, i dont wanna deal with exs, tried once it went to hell, with her suddently wanting me back, but i kept saying no, suddently she stops wanting me and i want her and all that kinda shit, so it was easier for me just to do something shitty and get "rid" of it all in one go
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21 / M / Columbus,Ohio
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Posted 12/20/12
I recently broke up with my ex, but we are still friends right now ._.
I guess us being friends for over two years before we started dating kinda helps at that, but Honestly we both figure ourselves mature enough to understand why our relationship failed, understand we aren't getting back together, and figure theres nothing wrong with being just friends.
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25 / M / Dallas Tx
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Posted 12/20/12
It depend on how the relationship went in how yall boke up
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27 / M
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Posted 12/20/12
Don't ever do it. Staying friends with an ex is like jabbing yourself in the arm with a pencil. No reason to hurt yourself.
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Of course it's a girl asking this.
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19 / F
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Posted 12/20/12
If you had no history of a friendship before dating, I'd say no. All you've ever known is dating them, and friendship would be awkward, I think. If you were friends a while before going out, then MAYBE you can still be friends. It just depends on the circumstances.
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24 / M / California
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Posted 12/20/12
I would have no problem being friends with my ex. We were good friends before we started dating, but unfortunately we haven't been able to become friends again since I broke up with her, even though it happened years ago.
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