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Why do Woman like mean guys? what makes bad good?
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Sweet Dreams are made of these.
Who am I to disagree
I traveled the world and the seven seas
Everybody's looking for something.

Some of them want to use you.
Some of them want to get used by you.
Some of them want to abuse you.
Some of them want to be abused.
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Hmm I think cause we like feelin' protected cause bad guys don't mind fighting.
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Alot of 'nice guys' act overtly nice around a girl, its way too obvious and is totally off putting when they act in a specific way. Its obvious when someone isnt being themselves, especially if they're in some way nervous (like chatting to someone you like). Its all about practice and just relaxing, everyone has that friend of the opposite sex they've had forever, you can just chat with them about anything and be yourself. Imagine you're talking with them and just relax. Its the only way, and that goes for both sexes too
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There are some really good posts in this thread, so I wont reiterate what's already been said, but I have something to add.

The truth is, alot of guys see any guy who is dating the girl they like as an asshole, regardless of his actual personality. There's this constant comparison going on, of "If I was with her, I wouldn't make mistakes like that" when, really, there's no way that's a sure thing. Girls do exactly the same thing, just replace 'asshole' with 'bitch'.
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I can't help but feel all these "nice guys" who whine that all the evil bad men are stealing away women and using them for sex are extremely pathetic, possessive jerks themselves.
Does it ever occur to these "nice guys" who think women treat them badly for the sake of treating them badly that those women genuinely do not like them? Why are you even bothering being nice to them if they don't like you? And women who treat men like friends? Some people just want to be friends. Sometimes women just can't find sexual attraction in a man who they've been friends with. It's not because they're interested in assholes, they just want to be friends. Why do people make that out to be wrong? Some men just want to be friends, too. And that's okay!
And you know, some people just don't notice bad traits in people when they get interested. What you might think of as an asshole a girl who is interested might see as the nicest guy in the world. It's just how things work, and if you genuinely feel a man is being an asshole to a girl try growing a spine and having a genuine talk with her. Don't play hero when you do, either. Like they'll fall in love with you if you save them from the villain.
That's just my input, anyway. I couldn't say if any of this is actually right.
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Posted 12/20/12

GayAsianBoy wrote:

Another stereotypical statement. Have you actually tallied up everyone's relationship and then figure out who's a bad guy that's been treating their girlfriend badly?

How do you know if these supposedly "bad guys" aren't just bad in your opinion, but they're good in the eyes of the woman?

What if these bad guys are actually nice on the inside but they're just mean on the outside?

Personally, I prefer someone who shows their true colours rather than someone who pretends to be nice in front of others but is really twisted inside.


I agree men who put on a act of being nice iwitch would make them an jerk in nice guys clothing about the tally and relationships, didn't do my city let alone every were, but from first hand accounts from friends and exes about it then again there is some girls wo do like nice guys. am just using a majority since 14-17 I I was a confedent badboy, but i was nice then not a nice guy to we will start off with me then friends who R girls then guy at 17 i was nice even though still a badboy but not a jerk i did not fit either mold right. I and guy friends been jumped and for a jerk afrer away they came back and said we should of broke up that they were sorry sincemost my friends are girls they meet that mean guy and the same then they want a nice guy but do for the next jerk that comes along am not talking simple hot badboy am talking the guy who using her foe for sex, cheats controlng, selfish who dos not care a yes a badboy can both be a nice guy or dick - a bad boy is http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=badboy ----- ----- ------ ------ ----- ---- ------ ------ ------ ----- ---- ---- ---- ---- it seams every 1 dislikes nice guys, are nice guys, the new villain- i
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Posted 12/20/12

MikiSayaka wrote:


darkangel09rose wrote:


MikiSayaka wrote:



Do you really need a rainbow of colors to post? :|
Not to mention all the "@$$" etc -.-



Not gonna bother reading yours, instead I read some wonderful replies and have the gist of it without giving myself a headache and can agree with almost all of the posts. You seem incredibly pissed that someone picked someone else instead of you, which seems like you were intent that you were "entitled" to them.
It's their choice, the fact that you're pissed enough to make 2 different threads about it shows that you're farrrrrrr too upset by it.


Lol you got that wrong because you didnt read the post, its a question to seek wisdom. Why do girls pick men who use them 4 sex, my friends are classified as nice guys me sort of but my best friends wife left him for a dick and thats why i wonder. you should of read the post before you judged or jumped to conclusions I would not be mad if some one picked me over some one else that means its not ment to be and would be there loss what i wanted to know is why woman choice guys who treat them bad, use them for sex and controling over the one who treats her right dosnt just want sex[/quo

Well, most of the other posts still got that nailed.
Confidence & assertion right off the bat.
It's why I'm still single, I lack both. I know and understand this, and accept it. I just suck at it. :)


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Because many women have been brainwashed by the media to like assholes.
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Posted 12/20/12

mipegg wrote:

Alot of 'nice guys' act overtly nice around a girl, its way too obvious and is totally off putting when they act in a specific way. Its obvious when someone isnt being themselves, especially if they're in some way nervous (like chatting to someone you like). Its all about practice and just relaxing, everyone has that friend of the opposite sex they've had forever, you can just chat with them about anything and be yourself. Imagine you're talking with them and just relax. Its the only way, and that goes for both sexes too





sillyriri wrote:

There are some really good posts in this thread, so I wont reiterate what's already been said, but I have something to add.

The truth is, alot of guys see any guy who is dating the girl they like as an asshole, regardless of his actual personality. There's this constant comparison going on, of "If I was with her, I wouldn't make mistakes like that" when, really, there's no way that's a sure thing. Girls do exactly the same thing, just replace 'asshole' with 'bitch'.





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Because many women have been brainwashed by the media to like assholes.


you guys are vary right I agree its the same for both genders-- and sillyññ- agree guys can judge a guy cause he has the girl he wants as an mean guy but what if that guy is cheating bregging about it hitting them in so the woman was the 1 who told you about it then they say they wished the bf to be more like them this all is a double edged sword for nice guys can beome mean, jerks can beco me nice- mipegg what about the guys who are truly nice not a fake or poser witch makes a jerk look good and a nice guy look bad- Your right about your post just wondering about the truely nice guys not fakers - VEGA you right it plays a big role i agree i believe it dos short wisdom filled answer
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Why do womqn fall for @$$ holes who some times Cheat on them or Hit them ?


Getting into an abusive relationship is easy (they start out nice); getting out can be more difficult, especially for a woman who believes she deserves to be treated badly or confuses being monopolized with being loved. Abusers will stalk their women, threaten her friends and family, make a scene at her work or make her chronically late so that she can't keep a job, take and hide her money, and wage disinformation campaigns about what an incompetent person she is.

But aren't you ten years too old to be asking this question? Aren't you really asking why this girl who allows herself to be abused won't choose you? I can tell you why - it's because you have no respect for her. Sure, she may have no respect for herself and gotten herself involved with an abusive guy, but he probably isn't always terrorizing her. Unless her child is being held hostage in his basement, she could leave him if she wanted to badly enough. What makes you so special that you can decide what she does with her life? You're really just looking down your nose at her.
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I can't help but feel all these "nice guys" who whine that all the evil bad men are stealing away women and using them for sex are extremely pathetic, possessive jerks themselves.
Does it ever occur to these "nice guys" who think women treat them badly for the sake of treating them badly that those women genuinely do not like them? Why are you even bothering being nice to them if they don't like you? And women who treat men like friends? Some people just want to be friends. Sometimes women just can't find sexual attraction in a man who they've been friends with. It's not because they're interested in assholes, they just want to be friends. Why do people make that out to be wrong? Some men just want to be friends, too. And that's okay!
And you know, some people just don't notice bad traits in people when they get interested. What you might think of as an asshole a girl who is interested might see as the nicest guy in the world. It's just how things work, and if you genuinely feel a man is being an asshole to a girl try growing a spine and having a genuine talk with her. Don't play hero when you do, either. Like they'll fall in love with you if you save them from the villain.
That's just my input, anyway. I couldn't say if any of this is actually right.


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Most hardcore feminists would disagree with the first half. afterall, all men are slime.

Most Macho Men would disagree with the last half and assume/accuse any man not constantly on the make to be/of being gay.
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Most of us accept the love we think we deserve. Plus when we were little, our parents always told us if a boy picks on you or is mean to you, he likes you. I guess that never left some of our minds.
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savannahbeme wrote:

Most of us accept the love we think we deserve. Plus when we were little, our parents always told us if a boy picks on you or is mean to you, he likes you. I guess that never left some of our minds.


Funny, we were told the same thing about girls.

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I suppose because women want to feel protected; and "Bad guys" seem more powerful in that sense.
Women do tend to fall for the dominant men. Men who take charge, but only to a certain extent of course.
Also, I've noticed women fall a lot for "bad guys" because they want to discover another side to him. To see if his "bad boy" personality, is not all there is to him.
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mhibicke wrote:


darkangel09rose wrote:

Why do womqn fall for @$$ holes who some times Cheat on them or Hit them ?


Getting into an abusive relationship is easy (they start out nice); getting out can be more difficult, especially for a woman who believes she deserves to be treated badly or confuses being monopolized with being loved. Abusers will stalk their women, threaten her friends and family, make a scene at her work or make her chronically late so that she can't keep a job, take and hide her money, and wage disinformation campaigns about what an incompetent person she is.

But aren't you ten years too old to be asking this question? Aren't you really asking why this girl who allows herself to be abused won't choose you? I can tell you why - it's because you have no respect for her. Sure, she may have no respect for herself and gotten herself involved with an abusive guy, but he probably isn't always terrorizing her. Unless her child is being held hostage in his basement, she could leave him if she wanted to badly enough. What makes you so special that you can decide what she does with her life? You're really just looking down your nose at her.


the top part makes since the most since yet finally some one says a reason why its not about be its just i want to understand it more haha I am getting picked on for trying to understand it and gain wisdom many female friends and sisters had allot of this abuse witch they dont call it that may i add, and i wouldn't asume i or any 1 else is special or more deserving who are we to decide who they love or picklets say evev iff the nice guy could treat her better dosnt meen she should drop her a hole x for you only if she wanted to if she dosnt like you she should find some one to be happy even if not them this how a nice guy thinks and feels people seam to glorify aholes and turn nice guys into bitter jellus guys who are really the mean ones. this post about me but i can support it for me i can care less if a girl i like picks one of thoughs guy its her choic to make if she wants to be treated bad her choice nothing any one can say or do wont nor should change love. in my shoes I would respect her i respect not only woman but men as well, One like some who picked me out to be a bad guy for this post i dont look down on people maybe guys who use and or cheat on woman- people seam to look down on good guys in anime world good guy wins. people are judging me fast and asuming its me,no 1 didnt ask who was it about or if i was gay lol you top half solved what i wonderd and liked it bottom half not so much
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