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trinkit wrote:

Your question is ambiguous. Do you consider all intellectuals boring and condescending or are you referring to a specific intellectual with a dominant personality?


no, just the ones who THINK and ACT like they are better than you , like the forum topic suggested....due to education, academics, or book smarts, etc.
I am not grouping all intellects..and not calling all of them boring.


Sometimes people become so focused to the exclusion of all else and this is misinterpreted as arrogance. And sometimes people are intentionally rude and patronizing. They need to be taken down a notch.
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Condescending attitudes, with the intent to exclude you because they think their higher education makes them better than you. Willing to have sex with you, but not a conversation. Shutting you out, because they think you have nothing worthwhile to contribute outside the bedroom.
"serve me my coffee, now run along, so I can sit here and pontificate with my other intellectual friends"

Happy now? Understand?


Since I am one of those boring intellectuals, your attitude irks me. If you work in a cafe, you should bring me the coffee I ordered. If you want to be a part of the conversation, then you should educate yourself. If you insist that your opinions should be listened to and respected, regardless of how incorrect or uninformed they are, then it should be no surprise when people who know better don't want to listen to you. This is true for everyone.

Boring intellectual or not, I won't fool around with a girl who can't keep up an intelligent conversation of some kind. When I was young I dated a really cute idiot, and it was a matter of weeks before I was ashamed to be seen in public with her because once she started talking everyone would realize how stupid she was. I didn't want to have to explain why I wasn't interested anymore, so I started getting her drunk and ditching her at parties until she finally ran off with a freestyle rapper.

So... I have a bad personality. I used to serve coffee, and now I am a research scientist. I am well educated and good at what I do. If you want to do something other than serve coffee, then work hard and invest in your own education. If you just want to be respected by intellectuals while serving them coffee, then become an expert on coffee. Seriously, we could talk about it for hours.
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If someone is boring you, its best to be honest. If they think they are more intelligent than you, while sometimes it may be the case, remember that there is a distinct difference between intelligence and wisdom. Intelligence is the accumulation of knowledge while wisdom is the experience to know what knowledge actually applies to the real world (this is not a textbook definition but rather an observation of my own environment).

A lot of people in the academia believe that their intelligence will prepare them for the real world. In actuality, there is almost nothing someone can tell you or that you can learn that this world hasn't contradicted in some way shape or form (other than death and taxes :P). I used to be one that thought my knowledge would prepare me for the things in this world. Now I realize that is NOT always the case.

That being said, its better to remain humble and quiet until some wisdom comes out; something that they have experienced or have been proven wrong about. If that does not come up, then you should be polite and explain to them that what they are saying you cannot begin to relate to. Two people can know the same thing, but not everyone can experience the same thing.
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Just be straightforward and tell them how you feel or discontinue to speak to them. I wouldn't want to converse with someone who tries to belittle me. :3
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CalifCat wrote:

Condescending attitudes, with the intent to exclude you because they think their higher education makes them better than you. Willing to have sex with you, but not a conversation. Shutting you out, because they think you have nothing worthwhile to contribute outside the bedroom.
"serve me my coffee, now run along, so I can sit here and pontificate with my other intellectual friends"

Happy now? Understand?


Since I am one of those boring intellectuals, your attitude irks me. If you work in a cafe, you should bring me the coffee I ordered. If you want to be a part of the conversation, then you should educate yourself. If you insist that your opinions should be listened to and respected, regardless of how incorrect or uninformed they are, then it should be no surprise when people who know better don't want to listen to you. This is true for everyone.

Boring intellectual or not, I won't fool around with a girl who can't keep up an intelligent conversation of some kind. When I was young I dated a really cute idiot, and it was a matter of weeks before I was ashamed to be seen in public with her because once she started talking everyone would realize how stupid she was. I didn't want to have to explain why I wasn't interested anymore, so I started getting her drunk and ditching her at parties until she finally ran off with a freestyle rapper.

So... I have a bad personality. I used to serve coffee, and now I am a research scientist. I am well educated and good at what I do. If you want to do something other than serve coffee, then work hard and invest in your own education. If you just want to be respected by intellectuals while serving them coffee, then become an expert on coffee. Seriously, we could talk about it for hours.


if you had read further on about what I said, it was just an example I gave to another poster.
consider me irked now too, because you dated someone who was cute, but you considered an idiot and stupid, and were ashamed of..and didn't respect...
yea, you sure are good at what you do,...but really I don't want to talk to you about it for hours.
shit..oops..spilled some hot coffee on ya. My bad.
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CalifCat wrote:

if you had read further on about what I said, it was just an example I gave to another poster.
consider me irked now too, because you dated someone who was cute, but you considered an idiot and stupid, and were ashamed of..and didn't respect...
yea, you sure are good at what you do,...but really I don't want to talk to you about it for hours.
shit..oops..spilled some hot coffee on ya. My bad.


Hey, I was young and she was so pretty that I didn't realize she was an idiot until it was too late. We all make mistakes sometimes.
**(edit) And by the way, how I broke up with her was way worse. What kind of person ditches their drunk girlfriend at parties?

If you don't want to talk with boring intellectuals, then what's the problem? Is there a point to this thread or are you just enjoying being insulting to people with higher education? It seems like you are just flaunting a misplaced sense of superiority - like you are trying to say, "Educated people are jerks, and since I am uneducated then I am a good person." Jerks come in all shapes, sizes, and education levels; being uneducated is not an excuse for behaving badly.
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CalifCat wrote:

if you had read further on about what I said, it was just an example I gave to another poster.
consider me irked now too, because you dated someone who was cute, but you considered an idiot and stupid, and were ashamed of..and didn't respect...
yea, you sure are good at what you do,...but really I don't want to talk to you about it for hours.
shit..oops..spilled some hot coffee on ya. My bad.


Hey, I was young and she was so pretty that I didn't realize she was an idiot until it was too late. We all make mistakes sometimes.

If you don't want to talk with boring intellectuals, then what's the problem? Is there a point to this thread or are you just enjoying being insulting to people with higher education? It seems like you are just flaunting a misplaced sense of superiority - like you are trying to say, "Educated people are jerks, and since I am uneducated then I am a good person." Jerks come in all shapes, sizes, and education levels; being uneducated is not an excuse for behaving badly.


You would know that, since you behaved badly and are educated, except, you called it a mistake and that you were young... that was your excuse. I think that is the difference right there.
Anyways..no I am not superior..off for a nature walk. : )
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I suppose I can speak from both sides here. I'm an honors student at my university, and was one of the smarter kids at my high school. I've met a guy in college who is so focused on being an amazing student that he can't talk about anything that isn't inellectual, to the point that it seems like his default response to meeting a new person is to compare their intelluctual achievements and ambitions to his own. To a lot of people, it looks like he's judging their character based on how smart they are, but he's actually a pretty cool guy once you can really talk to him. He just has some social issues. Maybe he's putting up some weird front. Who knows?

On the other hand, in high school there was an amazing football player who was in a couple of my classes. Nice guy, hot girlfriend, athletic (obviously), the works. I'm kind of the opposite. Single, don't play football at LSU, not the works. I try to be nice, but I'm quite comfortable having my circle of friends, and I'm very uncomfortable talking to people I don't know, so I kept my distance from people like him, even though I knew he's a cool guy. (But then again, what kind of stuff could we have talked about? Who knows?) As it turns out though, he misinterpreted that as me being a stuck-up, intellectual-type - like I wouldn't talk to him because I tought he was dumb (which i never thought) and didn't deem him worthy of my conversation. So really it was because I was scared of this guy that he thought I was a smarter-than-thou douche. That's the reason I can really relate to the guy in the first paragraph and give him another chance or two instead of just writing him off as something he probably isn't.

So if you see someone acting sort of high-horsey, just give them the benefit of the doubt. However, if the attitude really is one of "I'm better than you but I'm gonna talk at you anyway," than you should probably stay away or give him or her a piece of your mind.
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Tell them they're right, agree, agree, snicker, clap every time they say something.

"Bravo! Bravo! Television network! Television network! Good job, you -are- smarter than a fifth grader!"


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*falls alseep*....Wait, what were we talking about again?
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mhibicke wrote:


CalifCat wrote:

if you had read further on about what I said, it was just an example I gave to another poster.
consider me irked now too, because you dated someone who was cute, but you considered an idiot and stupid, and were ashamed of..and didn't respect...
yea, you sure are good at what you do,...but really I don't want to talk to you about it for hours.
shit..oops..spilled some hot coffee on ya. My bad.


Hey, I was young and she was so pretty that I didn't realize she was an idiot until it was too late. We all make mistakes sometimes.
**(edit) And by the way, how I broke up with her was way worse. What kind of person ditches their drunk girlfriend at parties?

If you don't want to talk with boring intellectuals, then what's the problem? Is there a point to this thread or are you just enjoying being insulting to people with higher education? It seems like you are just flaunting a misplaced sense of superiority - like you are trying to say, "Educated people are jerks, and since I am uneducated then I am a good person." Jerks come in all shapes, sizes, and education levels; being uneducated is not an excuse for behaving badly.


+1 you articulated my sentiments much better than I was doing. I was further 'irked' by the majority of responses to the op at the time which ran along the lines of 'punch the pencil neck out'
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CalifCat wrote:


mhibicke wrote:


CalifCat wrote:

if you had read further on about what I said, it was just an example I gave to another poster.
consider me irked now too, because you dated someone who was cute, but you considered an idiot and stupid, and were ashamed of..and didn't respect...
yea, you sure are good at what you do,...but really I don't want to talk to you about it for hours.
shit..oops..spilled some hot coffee on ya. My bad.


Hey, I was young and she was so pretty that I didn't realize she was an idiot until it was too late. We all make mistakes sometimes.

If you don't want to talk with boring intellectuals, then what's the problem? Is there a point to this thread or are you just enjoying being insulting to people with higher education? It seems like you are just flaunting a misplaced sense of superiority - like you are trying to say, "Educated people are jerks, and since I am uneducated then I am a good person." Jerks come in all shapes, sizes, and education levels; being uneducated is not an excuse for behaving badly.


You would know that, since you behaved badly and are educated, except, you called it a mistake and that you were young... that was your excuse. I think that is the difference right there.
Anyways..no I am not superior..off for a nature walk. : )


Problem is. That's how your original post came across. and when I asked for clarification I got a 'happy now?' response that I perceived as a snark. which also appears condescending. the poster you are responding to was obviously thinking a lot of what I was thinking.

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Yeah, pretty much. CalifCat's got her nose in the air about something here, I'm just not sure exactly what.
I don't get the aggressive responses towards intellectuals, or the assumption that education makes one wimpy . Anyone who is dumb enough to think they can use violence on me is welcome to try.
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As a boring intellectual myself I rather enjoy meeting people of like mind. They are few and far between these days though. As for the ones who are unable to accept defeat and insist on their superiority I thouroughlt enjoy tearing down their confidence by proving them wrong. Unlike most of them though, I can admit defeat.
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toxxin wrote:

As a boring intellectual myself I rather enjoy meeting people of like mind. They are few and far between these days though. As for the ones who are unable to accept defeat and insist on their superiority I thouroughlt enjoy tearing down their confidence by proving them wrong. Unlike most of them though, I can admit defeat.


Right? If you're never wrong you can't learn anything. For example, I learned that while getting girls drunk and ditching them at parties is a good way to get rid of them without having to discuss anything, it is ethically wrong. Wait, no... I learned that listening to what a girl has to say before I go out with her spares me a lot of future embarrassment.
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