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So what im curious to know is what age do you think is too young for marriage? I know that it varies greatly but overall what would be the earliest age that would actually turn out well? Please give sensible answers.
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It's always too early.
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There's no magic number. Some people just aren't cut out for it, period.

Marriage (monogamy) isn't a natural human behavior in the first place.
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well for me to be honest I think if both of you are old enough to get married , you love each other and you think it will last forever then do it. You only live once
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marlfox570 wrote:

So what im curious to know is what age do you think is too young for marriage? I know that it varies greatly but overall what would be the earliest age that would actually turn out well? Please give sensible answers.


I got married when I was 22, girl was 23... it did not work out so well.
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Personally I think anyone below 25. I think you should get yourself financially prepared and get started in your career first before looking to be in a relationship. This is how I feel though.
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mystic17 wrote:

Personally I think anyone below 25. I think you should get yourself financially prepared and get started in your career first before looking to be in a relationship. This is how I feel though.


yeah, that seems pretty reasonable. or at least close to 25.
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SuperNovaMTL wrote:

There's no magic number. Some people just aren't cut out for it, period.

Marriage (monogamy) isn't a natural human behavior in the first place.


There are several species which develop monogamous relationships. Humans are one of them. If it was truly unnatural, then the practice never would have developed in the first place. There are some cultures which practice sorts of polygamy, but they are in the minority in this age.

Only someone who has never been in love could say something as naive as that.
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I'd say live a few years of your early adult life. Don't settle down so quickly, you'll never get those chances again.
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I remember being proposed to by my childhood friend.. We were 8-10 (too long ago to remember age) but ALWAYS spent lots of time together, now I don't even see her anymore ._.
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haikinka wrote:

It's always too early.


I totally agree. Marriage is the best way to ruin a perfectly good relationship.
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Well, I personally advocate younger marriages IF both parties are of the mindset that marriage is permanent (and divorce is only proper in times of abuse/extreme circumstances).

There is data out there that suggests arranged and young marriages actually improve overall satisfaction with life. Plus, there is a safety and a sense of peace that comes with knowing someone for a long time and knowing that they have your back always. I see arguments for older marriages such as making sure finances are arranged and such -- and that is a reasonable suggestion -- but most things are easier with two, INCLUDING setting up goals and finances. Struggling to establish a household together is also a great bonding experience (though not likely comfortable).

I actually think that older marriages (late twenties and beyond) are a contributing factor to the nation's high divorce rate. When a person has a career, a house, a car and all those other things and THEN gets a spouse, the spouse is treated like an accessory or a luxury, not a partner (and therefore more disposable through divorce and such). To be partners, a couple has to work together. The added benefit of marrying young is that people have less time to be jaded, less time to accumulate venereal diseases, and less time to develop emotional baggage. A young couple can forge a future together.

So in my view it would be best to marry in the late teens or early twenties PROVIDED THAT the couple is mature and educated enough to understand that there will be difficulties and that loyalty is of paramount importance (In the last decades, "maturity" has been occurring later and later. My Grandfather fought in WWII at 17, but now a 17 year old can't even buy paint or glue at walmart without a parent -- so maturity is a factor, but that is a different topic).
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dark_paradox_21 wrote:

Only someone who has never been in love could say something as naive as that.


Love is a concept full of conditional holes and often mistaken with lust.

You're clearly thinking in terms of modern society, and a little idealistically. If anything, you're the naive one.

Not looking to draw this out. It was stated as opinion.



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Serial monogamy is the culturally in thing now so it's hard to say is it did or did not work out. But, for an answer to the question both parties ages should be at least in the double digits before they consider marriage.
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If its before 22 its WAY TO EARLY!
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