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I got married at 25. My husband is 11 years older than me. We have been married for 8 1/2 years, but we lived together and dated for 2 years prior to marrying, and I knew him and worked with him for a couple years before we dated...

I don't think age has anything to do with the "when" to get married. I think it has more to do with your compatibility with the person you are with.
I wouldn't have married my husband if I hadn't been sure that I really wanted to be with him - the fact is, I think I was imagining our retirement and what/where/how we would spend our old age before we even got married.
If you can't see yourself at 70 hanging out with your lover, then you probably shouldn't marry them.

Me, I think we will have an RV and be one of those traveling couples who are the camp hosts at the camp grounds; we will be the ones to come and tell the kids partying in the woods to quiet down after 10pm and come clean up the camp sites after they leave. And the bathrooms - but that would be why we can stay in the campground for free...
He will still be taking his scenery pictures and actually have his website up and running to sell them. And I will at least have two cats that live in the RV with us.
My new goal is for us to document all the covered bridges left in the US - we started this for our New Year's resolution (hehe):



Of course this picture is crappy - my husband is much more talented. That and his camera is much more impressive than my little 3.2 mexapixel cell phone camera...
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I think anyone has the right to marry at any age ^.^... just live with the consequences afterwards~
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Its different for everybody because people learn who their are and grow up at different times in their lives. Some people just refuse grow up at all, and marriage should never come into consideration. There certainly is an age at which marriage is far too early to bring into consideration, and that age is any age before they actually know who they are.

For me, I was 21 when I got married and I already knew who I was since I was 18.
I met my wife when I was 18. My wife was 26 at the time, and she married me at the age of 29. Think about that. What the hell does a women at the prime of her mid 20s have to do with an 18 year old? We've been married for 7 years now and we have a beautiful 1 year old daughter.
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Who cares about marriage, it's about the relationship.
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I've been with my bf for 8 years, I'm 20 now (yes we've been together since we were 12) and we plan to get married after we graduate from college, which is in 2 years Lol.
So I'd say 22-25 is a good age, since I wouldn't want to have kids when I'm in my 30's.
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Jason and I just had our 2nd anniversary. I was 18 and my husband was 31. I think for the "right time" of marriage is when you know and feel confident that the other is the person you want to live with for the rest of your life.

Other than that, I suggest praying about if the other person is someone you should get serious with or just keep fishing around.
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I'm waiting until I'm a older. I don't want to rush into marriage now. I love my boyfriend, but we just aren't ready for that kind of commitment. I've had this discussion with him, and we both completely understand. We still love each other, but, based on what I know and experienced, young marriages are very much more likely too get divorces.
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I honestly think the best age for getting married would be 24+, but that's just my opinion.
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mhibicke wrote:


PhyongHwa wrote:

Studies have shown that ppl who live together before marriage (if they ever get around to it) have a higher chance of divorcing.

Isn't that funny? Whenever a couple lives together, sharing property, responsibilities, and even children, but are not married, then there is a good reason why they aren't married. A friend of mine is a divorce lawyer (I know, I know) and she told me once that people get married for trivial reasons, but they never get divorced for trivial reasons. She is so smart.
Arranged marriages also have a higher success rate than marriages "for love". I think it's because the couple in the arranged marriage don't expect their spouses to make them happy, so they aren't as disappointed when their spouses aren't perfect.


I think marriages work out because the ppl in them are more realistic in what marriage is, more respectful of it and their spouse, the act of marriage & their vows they took actually had meaning to them, they discussed their expectations BEFORE they married, they are willing to compromise & to forgive (at least the small stuff).

Dated for 3yrs, married at 21, he was 22..... 5 years later, we started having kids (have 4 now). Together for 24 years, married for 21 and counting.

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Depends on yourself.

For myself, I'm 18 years old going on 19. I'm currently taking Bach Degree in Electrical and Computer Engineering. I will be finish in 4 years. I will then be 22. I can either get a job or continue studying. My goal was to go into Business Administration as well. If I decide to go into both that will be a total of 8 years of studying. At 26 I will finish school. If I work for 4 years, and get paid roughly 70,000 - 90,000 a year, I will want to marry around 30.

My girlfriend wants to go into medicine, with her straight A's and volunteer work and recommendations, it's possible. 8 years studying, she will be 26 when she finishes. Making me 28. 2 years of her salary with 4 years of mine. I think I would be happy at that spot.
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kajisawa wrote:

My Mom married my Dad when she was 28 and...plan to do the same besides i am not rushing for the reason i do not feel i should but ideal in my opinion 25 or 26 years of age to tie the knot and start a family not just marriage.


Aye, lets get married!

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We got married last friday. We're both 20 and are expecting our first child
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16? Oh wait, in this country, you can get married at that age. =_= I don't see who would want to get married at 16.
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the youngest age allowed for marriage is too young
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animecrazy14 wrote:

16? Oh wait, in this country, you can get married at that age. =_= I don't see who would want to get married at 16.


My mom got married when she was 16. Thing is my dad was 36. 20 years apart and a lot of people were against it. My parents love to much. TO MUCH!
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