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20 / F / Cali
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Posted 1/9/13
For me, marriage would have to be after medical school! I would want to be financially independent, and be working , as an actual doctor, not an intern by the time I get married ^.^
So I say late 20's, in cases like mine, maybe early 30's
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23 / F / USA
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Posted 1/9/13
I think 21 is to early....because theirs still so much to do but if thats what makes a person happy and thats what they want than they should go for it.
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23 / F / New Zealand
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I'm married, and I'm 22. Been married since I was 20. Some people think it's too young, but eh.
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24 / M / MA
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seriously, If you love someone and you wanna spend the rest of your life with them, and they truly feel the same about you, then you shouldn't need marriage. Honestly, why do you need a bunch of legal documents? Who do you have to impress with how you feel?
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There is such a thing as too young. Even if time proves the relationship permanent, minors should still wait. It doesn't work out for those under 18yo far more often than it does.

After having talked to a few people in arranged marriages I can see it has value. I think that part of the success is that the families are directly involved throughout life. It's not like the western nuclear family where you're supposed to live independently.

I'm 5.5 years older than my husband. He was 19 when I first met him. I thought he was a wet-behind-the-ears noob and had zero interest in him. We traveled in the same circles for awhile then went our separate ways. I met him again a few years later when he was in his twenties; he was substantially more appealing. I was 30 when we got married and had our son when I was 41.

I think most first marriages fall within a certain age range, but what works can vary a lot. Couples should know themselves as individuals and be realistic about life and relationships. The "ideal" is when it works for life, or eternity, not a particular marriageable age.
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I don't think it's about age so much as maturity. Some people are ready to be married young, but most often it ends badly. My primary advice would be to live together for a couple years at least just to make sure you are compatible in that way. Kids are out of the question until you are financially stable. Beyond that, love is a battlefield with few rules.
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People can and will do whatever they want, but as for my opinion i would say that under 25 is too soon for anyone. And on another note the age matters less too me specifically than how long the people have actually been together. If you have not been together for more than 3 years then you shouldn't be getting married. People seem to rush that shit like crazy after only a few months it just blows my mind.
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29 / M / Las Vegas
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I got married at 21. Dumbest decision I ever made. Most parents and early education don't prepare you for real life (in America, at least) and people aren't really interested in having a deep understanding of themselves at an early age. Overall, I'd say it depends on maturity.
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18 / M / England
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Some people I kind of know have got engaged at the age of 17 and 18, I was surprised but it's their decision so I don't have a problem about it
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15 / F / somewhere on mars
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Posted 1/10/13

Jdaimond wrote:


animecrazy14 wrote:

16? Oh wait, in this country, you can get married at that age. =_= I don't see who would want to get married at 16.


My mom got married when she was 16. Thing is my dad was 36. 20 years apart and a lot of people were against it. My parents love to much. TO MUCH!


dude, I know how you feel. It's kinda the same with me, except my mum was 18. It was an arranged marriage....and they're still together, even though they fight most of the time.
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18 / M / Ctf_2fort
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Posted 1/10/13
I'd say that under 24-26 range is a little too young, like others have said, it'd probably be best if you were set with a source of income and both thought it through completely. Of course, its all a matter of circumstance and everyone has different views.
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Can someone else really tell you for sure when and if you are ready to marry? Me and my hubby were high school sweeties. We were good friends throughout high school, became a couple 2nd semester of senior year, and we got married about a year after we graduated high school. When we got married, I never once envisioned myself being with him just for the moment, I envisioned what our life would be like until we were old and senile and could barely remember our names anymore. We made the decision because we were ready for the long haul. I am now 25 (so we've been married for 6 years and together for 7) and, frankly, I feel absolutely no different now than I did back in high school. We struggle, we persevere, we argue and bicker, we love and laugh. We just live and neither of us could picture it any other way. I love being his wife (even when he drives me insane!) and he loves being my husband.

On the flipside, I know people who got married at the same age that we did and it ended in catastrophe. Likewise, I know people who were married at or later than 25 whose marriage ended equally horrifically. One particular woman I am close with got married only a couple years before she turned 30. Her marriage is rather tumultuous at best, like a roller coaster that never stops and never levels out. But I know people who married between 25/30 and they are just as happy and comfortable in their relationship as me and mine. I know couples that have been living together for over a decade as "fiances" that will never be married and they are happier than some of the married couples I know! (Honestly, I think they are happier NOT being married, but at the same time, I don't think they will ever separate from each other.)

My point is this, whether you are ready for marriage, whether the marriage will work, whether the RELATIONSHIP will work; those are all purely individual variables that only the couple involved can decide. My husband and I are happy and still together not because it was a walk in the park, but because we faced all of our trials, tribulations, and challenges together while never forgetting exactly how important each of us is to the other. We sacrifice and compromise and recognize each others' sacrifices and compromises. We support each other endlessly. We work well together regardless of whether or not we were "too young" when we got married. These are all choices we made and we have worked hard to ensure their success. I have no regrets and wouldn't change my decision if I could. However, neither would my story, nor would anyone else's, be universally applicable. Perhaps a person is most ready for marriage, not when they reach a certain age, but when they decide the person they have found is worth all the "blood, sweat, and tears" that go into making a marriage last. I know my hubby certainly is for me.

Ok, sorry for the length! I got a little carried away... This is the opinion that works for me and I hope everyone is able to find the opinions and beliefs that best support what they want from life!
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Posted 1/11/13
25 for a girl..
28 for a guy..


but if both feel that they are financially and emotionally ready for marriage then why not marry at a younger age...
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18 / M / Tiphares
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Posted 1/11/13

Halobravo wrote:

People can and will do whatever they want, but as for my opinion i would say that under 25 is too soon for anyone. And on another note the age matters less too me specifically than how long the people have actually been together. If you have not been together for more than 3 years then you shouldn't be getting married. People seem to rush that shit like crazy after only a few months it just blows my mind.


This. Though, in my opinion it depends on the individuals involved.
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Posted 1/12/13
Most likely not going to work out. Some people like to convince themselves "it's love!~..." But when they get hit with reality I can't help but silently say, I told you so
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