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Posted 7/12/13
In my opinion: If you feel like you're not ready, I'd say that's too early. I couldn't really put an age on it. Granted, I think waiting until you're at least in your mid-twenties is probably a good idea.
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Posted 7/12/13
Depends on how the couple feels. I am not one to rush just about anything in life and I doubt I would marry before I was 26 or so. Thats just me though. My parents got married when they were 17 and 18 and have been happily married since. I don't really think age has anything to do with it, just how the couple feels, and if they are ready for it.
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Posted 7/13/13
i got married at 18 and we have been together for almost 9 years however most really young marriages always end in divorce. in fact 50% of marriages end in divorce. i know people who waited till there 30's for marriage and divorced in the first 5 years. that being said i dont think you can simplify it down to any specific age. i think it more depends on the people getting married and how good their relationship is to begin with. it takes a lot to hold a marriage together. especially in the beginning i dont believe age makes that any easier truly
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Posted 7/13/13
In my opinion, never before both parts have finished their education.
And wait with getting kids until you've worked for a few years..
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I don't disagree with early marriage but the majority of young adults get that get married I frown upon
I met a girl once who told me she was divorced and has two kids. She was only twenty-two at the time. I was blown away. Divorced and has two children. How can one make a vow in front of God, Their friend, family, and even strangers that you will be with this person for the rest of your life through sickness and health, good time and the bad. You are a liar and look like a jackass. This is a major decision in your life and it shouldn't be rushed. There are few people out there that have something special with their significant other. Love. They get married and are together for the rest of there lives.
My seventh grade teacher met her husband in seventh grade and was still with him she was in her fifties.
Most people my age are in such a hurry to find Mr or Mrs Right. They aren't really in love. They have no idea what love is.

I also met this couple that had broke up and gotten back together over seven times and yet the got married not even a year later they are now in the process of getting a divorce.
Just as similar to having a baby, the relationship has to stablized and running smoothly before committing. Otherwise, the relationship will fall to pieces.


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i got married at 18 and we have been together for almost 9 years however most really young marriages always end in divorce. in fact 50% of marriages end in divorce. i know people who waited till there 30's for marriage and divorced in the first 5 years. that being said i dont think you can simplify it down to any specific age. i think it more depends on the people getting married and how good their relationship is to begin with. it takes a lot to hold a marriage together. especially in the beginning i dont believe age makes that any easier truly


I agree with you on this with the exception of age. I think younger people getting married, with their mentality, would just fail the majority of the time. We've seen people who try to work it out with there baby daddies/mommas. The relationship wasn't ready for just wasn't suppose to last long term. Though you are right about older people getting divorces soon after marriage.

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Posted 7/13/13

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ariesfireangel wrote:

i got married at 18 and we have been together for almost 9 years however most really young marriages always end in divorce. in fact 50% of marriages end in divorce. i know people who waited till there 30's for marriage and divorced in the first 5 years. that being said i dont think you can simplify it down to any specific age. i think it more depends on the people getting married and how good their relationship is to begin with. it takes a lot to hold a marriage together. especially in the beginning i dont believe age makes that any easier truly


I agree with you on this with the exception of age. I think younger people getting married, with their mentality, would just fail the majority of the time. We've seen people who try to work it out with there baby daddies/mommas. The relationship wasn't ready for just wasn't suppose to last long term. Though you are right about older people getting divorces soon after marriage.


its true when you are young and make the choice to get married on a whim sometimes your just not mature enough to understand the commitment your getting into. my marriage happened very quickly i graduated high school got pregnant at summers end and was married by november and in may our first daughter was born. and it was a lot to have to take on and adjust to. but like i said i think it really has much more to do with the people themselves. given all that it seemed impossible my marriage would last having to take on so much so quickly and so young and dont get me wrong its been a hell of a hard road traveled and there have been many fights and many times we both thought to ourselves its all over. and all in all if my daughter comes up to me when she is 18 and says mom im in love i want to get married my answer to her will most likely be thats not a wise choice. that she needed to experience life as a grown up first so she would understand the stresses this world will bring into a relationship.
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Posted 7/13/13
Uh for girl.. when you're prepared to get up early to cook for you husband, cleaning house, take care of his clothes, provide emotional support, patience etc etc...

same with guy.. money to support your spouse and children (if you're planing to have any), patience and know when to give in, not to mention you have to provide ur time for them more so than before ..

I dunno.. u have to sacrifice many things..
Posted 7/13/13
Always too early, never too late!
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Posted 7/17/13
As long as you can supply each other's needs and are both committed I agree there is no limit on age (except no younger than 12).
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Posted 7/17/13
18 years old is old enough but having kids, one should wait until they have their career situated around 30 years old. If you have kids to early you will be less financially able to support your kids.
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Posted 7/17/13
Why the hell would you get married?!? bachelor 4 life
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Get married in your 30s. By then, you'll have gotten all the crazy out of you and you should be financially ready to do things like buy a house and raise children. In your 20s, go out and have fun. Go to college, have a few drinks, travel if you can. Get all those things out of the way so when you get married you don't have any regrets.

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Posted 7/17/13
I don't believe in marriage. I do, however, believe in feeling like you've found the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. I think a lot of people WANT to believe that, even if they're settling - if you're doing that, try to stop rushing things, or maybe leave the person you're with to find someone better. When you feel like you're really satisfied, and aren't just trying to get yourself to believe you are, the decision will finalize itself.
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dark_paradox_21 wrote:

Well, I personally advocate younger marriages IF both parties are of the mindset that marriage is permanent (and divorce is only proper in times of abuse/extreme circumstances).

There is data out there that suggests arranged and young marriages actually improve overall satisfaction with life. Plus, there is a safety and a sense of peace that comes with knowing someone for a long time and knowing that they have your back always. I see arguments for older marriages such as making sure finances are arranged and such -- and that is a reasonable suggestion -- but most things are easier with two, INCLUDING setting up goals and finances. Struggling to establish a household together is also a great bonding experience (though not likely comfortable).

I actually think that older marriages (late twenties and beyond) are a contributing factor to the nation's high divorce rate. When a person has a career, a house, a car and all those other things and THEN gets a spouse, the spouse is treated like an accessory or a luxury, not a partner (and therefore more disposable through divorce and such). To be partners, a couple has to work together. The added benefit of marrying young is that people have less time to be jaded, less time to accumulate venereal diseases, and less time to develop emotional baggage. A young couple can forge a future together.

So in my view it would be best to marry in the late teens or early twenties PROVIDED THAT the couple is mature and educated enough to understand that there will be difficulties and that loyalty is of paramount importance (In the last decades, "maturity" has been occurring later and later. My Grandfather fought in WWII at 17, but now a 17 year old can't even buy paint or glue at walmart without a parent -- so maturity is a factor, but that is a different topic).


I would totally agree with this, my parent's were married in their early 20s and are still married 22 years later. Which is getting pretty rare nowadays.
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Posted 7/17/13
i dont believein marriage lol
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my mom got married at 18 to save a english boy from his hard life in the UK. it last them 16 years so i guess its not that bad if you get married young.
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Posted 7/17/13
If it's before 25, it is way too early.
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