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Posted 7/27/13
I met my husband online, we were together for 2 and a half years before we got married dec. 07. Then 2 and half years later we had our beautiful daughter and are still together now. I am 25 and our 6th year anniversary will be in a couple of months. Total time together has been 8 years. I love him more everyday.
Posted 7/27/13
I don't think there is really a too young to be married. You just need to be ready. Naturally the younger you are the less likely you are ready for that kind of commitement.
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Posted 8/6/13
It depends on the people who wants to get married.
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Posted 8/6/13
I personally think that anything under 25 is to young, but that's up to the individual really. I actually think that as long as you have finished school completely, college and all, then it's okay cuz when you're in school, that and you're future are more important and should be focused on more. I had a sorority sister leave after our first year at college last year because she wants to marry her boyfriend and she's only 19 like me O__O That is DEFINITELY to young. 20+ should be the minimum
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Posted 8/6/13
for early divorce
Posted 8/7/13 , edited 8/7/13
I think that marrying in your early 20s works for some while marrying in your late 20s and early 30s works better for others. It totally depends on the couple and their dynamic. I've heard a few of my friends who are married that they wish they held off their marriage for another year or so because they find it difficult.
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Posted 8/7/13
I think below 18 would be too young in this day and age.
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The earliest age should be once the person found him/herself.
What i mean is that people change greatly you most likely will not be the same person with 20 than you were with 16 and an entirely different person again with 25.

I got married with 26 i archived everything i wanted by that age i was where i wanted to be at and was able to live however i wanted because of that i was able to find a woman who loves the person i was than and (unless i will get in a midlife crisis) will most likely stay.

I found the perfect woman for me and yet she was completely different than any of the woman i was involved with before.
The reason for that is that i was a completely different person before i was not much fun being around only had work and study's on my mind for socializing reasons i was a kind of snob and all my focus was on making more money.That kind of person attracts a certain kind of woman and they did fit me during that time.
Now i am pretty lazy i just enjoy my life started watching anime and my main focus is on having a great life with my wife.
Posted 8/7/13
FFFFFF that dam piece shitty piece of paper cores to much tension

just live happy as lovers .......
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Posted 8/7/13
It wouldn't work, both sides are immature and odds are they couldn't keep their promises and stay loyal.
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Posted 8/7/13
Maturity plays a very important part. There is a little system I have heard from my colleagues at school; that is taking it into serious and honest thought:
1. Would you want to spend the rest of your life with this person?
2. Would you be willing to stay if this person changed?
3. Would you want to raise a family with this person?
4. Would you want kids who are just like this person?
5. Would you stay loyal and faithful to this person?

Vice-Versa, taking into account how well you know/understand them with you.

Making a marriage work takes a lot of commitment, at any age, because you need to find a partner. An equal to yourself and although you may be in love with this person but entering something like Marriage also entails entering the "family". Your becoming part of something bigger. Think of sharing and maintaining a home, working for long periods without seeing them until probably the end of the day. Making same-minded goals and plans for each other. Accepting that divorce is the last option. If you aren't willing to make things work then you shouldn't consider Marriage.
Being young allows people to grow together and yes, less emotional baggage follows, less chance of meeting someone with a "health issue" to always worry about contracting or managing.

The couple needs to be honest with themselves and partner. And I stress the word "Partner" not just lover, or whatever because your building a life with them. I'm not saying older marriages won't work, btw.
Posted 8/7/13 , edited 8/7/13
It really depends on the people, and their relationship.

I know a couple who got married at only 18 and 20, and they're still together ten years later.

Then there are others who get married in their 30's, 40's etc. and they get divorces two years or so later.

We cannot speak for another couple, because only they know how they feel.
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Posted 8/8/13
IM 24 and im getting married in 2 weeks. Lot of people say im too young to marry but when you have lived and been with that person for 5 years already what is the problem if all that is changing is the actual title? I don't put an age on what you feel I just say if you still feel the same way after 2 to 3 years then what do you have to lose. if you think of what you could be doing out there instead of with them then we have a different story lol but yeah forget the age thing its time and feelings put into it
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Posted 8/8/13
Well, I'm still young, so I don't know if I am qualified to answer this, but I really don't think it matters as long as the love is there and when I say love I mean mature love not the pre-adolescent term. On another note I really don't like the idea of marriage, why do two people who love each other have to go through that whole process just so they can have it on paper? It seems wrong that the relationship isn't real until it's been witnessed by anywhere from 20-200 some odd people and written down on some special paper. If you love someone, shouldn't it be enough just to be with them?
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Posted 8/16/13
I don't think it's age, so much as maturity. How well do you know this person. Instead of being with someone for a month, then deciding to get married. So, have fun, but get to really know this person you're with. Their flaws, and all. Then you can be qualified to decide,

"Do I love them?"
"Can I accept their less than prefect attributes"
"Can I trust them"

Ect.

I am still ignorant, as I haven't had any kind of relationship, romantic, or sexual. So, I can only give a decent answer. So, Don't guess I have to worry about young age. I probably won't even have a partner until i'm 40, if that. I may die alone.
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