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A relationship misunderstanding?
Posted 1/7/13 , edited 1/7/13
Recently my girlfriend to cut me off after I confronted her for saying she would spend time with her friends after she initially told me she would not 4 days prior to this happening, afterwards she hid her status on everything while spending 4-8+ hours a day depending on if she had work or not with her friends since then and not talking back with me at all while she's with them while knowing I was sick in bed with a Illness case bad enough I was hospitalized, she did not check up on me once while I was recovering. Since then she goes to bed and spends her special time that was exclusive with me with another man now who flirted with her often and even directly in front of me in the past, and she has also been ignoring me during this period also.

She just received a new i7 computer set I sent her that valued over $600 for her to build a new PC 6 days prior to all of this.

She doesn't understand why I got and continue to get angry over this and claims I'm trying to control for telling her for telling her I did not want her spending a lot of time with her friends, even though she knew she was doing something I did not want her to do and that she told me she would not do in the first place. I wanted to spend time with her after a month prior to this of hardly talking with her because of our schedules.

How does this all look? Wouldn't this have made you angry and put your foot down too?
Posted 1/7/13
I got confused.
She can't hang out with her friends why?
Posted 1/7/13 , edited 1/7/13
She has always been able to hang out with her friends if she wanted, I've never put up a fuss over that unless she would spend a week more them without spending time with me *Edit: or unless she would spend large amounts of time with her friends without letting me know if she was even doing ok that day*. I asked her if she would spend time with me instead of getting started on mass daily gaming events with them.
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Posted 1/7/13
Break up with her. Get far away from her; she is rotten to the core.
I am sure you know the saying, "Love is blind." My friend, she has poked your eyes out with sticks and is rubbing salt in the open wounds.

There is nothing wrong with you wanting to spend time with her, and there was definitely nothing wrong with you questioning who she was hanging out with. If you are in a stong, open, loving relationship, nothing like this would be hidden, and it definitely wouldn't be a cause for arguments. However, the fact that she purposefully hid her actions from you, did not come to see you or want to spend time with you while you were sick, and then cheated on you...and she still can't figure out why you would be angry?!!!
That is not a misunderstanding.
She understands perfectly.
And she thinks you are a doormat and will accept her behavior and she can keep you around.

There is no "putting your foot down" - for your own well being, get away from her and find someone that truly will love you.

Sorry this happened to you though; I know this is rough.
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Posted 1/7/13
It looks like she is sick of you. Sorry dude.
Posted 1/7/13
Oh.
Well.
Hm.
If she's not making enough time for you maybe she's not the right one?
Posted 1/7/13 , edited 1/7/13
I honestly don't know, but she posted 7 months ago how we had the perfect relationship on CR, and how we had amazing trust with each other, as well as how she believed love was being committed, always forgiving and being there for your mate unconditionally. I want to link it but I will not expose her out of respect for her.
Posted 1/7/13
i think you know what she wants. the clues are slapping you in the face. accept it already.
Posted 1/7/13
but damn, that computer set. lucky!
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Sounds like shes not that into you, sorry
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I will be honest in saying I couldn't understand all of that 100% but even if she did say that kind of stuff 7 months ago a lot can change in that time. Seems to me like you should forget about her and move on. It certainly looks like she doesn't care about you anymore at this point.
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I'm no expert, but I think you should break up with her. Flirting with another person while you're dating another and spending time with just might not saying it will, but turn into cheating. But besides all that, she doesn't seem like a she wants to be in a relationship anymore, and if she does you should break up with her. Don't make your choices but on what I say though, I don't want to mess up your life as the person online.
Posted 1/7/13

ShiverGirl wrote:

I'm no expert, but I think you should break up with her. Flirting with another person while you're dating another and spending time with just might not saying it will, but turn into cheating. But besides all that, she doesn't seem like a she wants to be in a relationship anymore, and if she does you should break up with her. Don't make your choices but on what I say though, I don't want to mess up your life as the person online.


Agreed. Cheating possibility aside it is just disrespectful to go spend time with the guy under those circumstances.
Posted 1/7/13 , edited 1/7/13

BeyondAnyTherapy wrote:

Sounds like shes not that into you, sorry


For whatever reason I do not understand, but you're right and I've thought that, I was sacrificing 26 hours of rest a week just so she wouldn't be lonely at night for the last 9 months, I leveled all of her characters across every game she has played in the last year, she has anearly completely maxed out character on FFXIV because of me and one other persons efforts, she could leave, watch anime on here or play anything else she wanted while we structured everything for her from her gear to her levels, we had endgame parties waiting on her just when she came home from work. Anytime she was upset I completely dropped everything I was doing to stop and listen to her even if it meant getting 2 hours of sleep for work the next morning. Asking for my final question why does she covet her friends so much when they make her youtube her music or don't listen to it at all when she makes it when I have always made sure I go straight to her site to get her music I've told her time and time again that they also have said things behind her back and she refuses to listen or remember the facts of why she removed them a year ago in the first place THEY LEFT HER.

Including the guy she spends time with now, they went on and left without her on the MMO she played together with them I still have the messages from where she talked about it 9 months ago.

I already let her go, I just don't want to see things happen to her again. I'm aware it's beyond my control though.
Posted 1/7/13
What a robobitch.
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