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A relationship misunderstanding?
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Posted 1/7/13
first, I hope you dont actually talk to her like your post suggests, she will not like it and will push you away.
second, she is an individual and as such does not report to you nor does she have to. LOOSEN THE LEASH!
third, any monies spent in a relationship are investments. sometimes they pay off, sometimes they dont.

Now her defense: ever think she is testing you? I dont now how old you are but ALL relationships go through testing by both parties. it never ends so dont expect it to. If you care about her, let her be herself. Let her make mistakes and hopefully learn from them. Your supposed to be her partner not parent, so stop making her check in all the time. And girls can have guy friends, as far as she may be concerned he might be just one of the girls in her eyes.

Your defense: Your worried about her. you obviously care for her and are worried that she doesnt care for you the same way or amount. Take a deep breath and think about the good things. Your schedule keeps you from seeing her, you want to make sure that the people she is with wont hurt her. You try to tell her this but she wont listen and ends up fighting with you.

you really have only two options: 1) cut your losses and move on, yes it hurts but emotionaly and via the wallet, but you will survive.
2) dig deep, relax, write her a very neutral letter about your concerns. DO NOT go on about how you love her or how the people she hangs with are bad. keep it to the point, truthful and above all else, be objective.
Posted 1/7/13 , edited 1/7/13

kamiru-dono wrote:


justanotherguy_2005 wrote:


kamiru-dono wrote:

pardon me but im bored and i like dramas like this.


I think you might be a little too late for the drama.


i'm expecting a development.


If there is I hope it is big enough to make the time I spent in this thread worthwhile. It quickly turned into a big, mildly funny, disappointment.
Posted 1/7/13

justanotherguy_2005 wrote:


kamiru-dono wrote:


justanotherguy_2005 wrote:


kamiru-dono wrote:

pardon me but im bored and i like dramas like this.


I think you might be a little too late for the drama.


i'm expecting a development.


If there is I hope it is big enough to make the time I spent in this thread worthwhile. It quickly turned into a big, mildly funny, disappointment.


yea. it turned out pretty mellow. i'm betting the guy will still wait for the chick for maybe at least two months. he's probably in the denial stage right now.

i don't understand why being on cam was a no-no for the girl. i'd give the guy props for being very nice to the girl but like everything else, learn to limit kindness because sometimes it breeds greed.




Posted 1/8/13

kamiru-dono wrote:


justanotherguy_2005 wrote:


kamiru-dono wrote:


justanotherguy_2005 wrote:


kamiru-dono wrote:

pardon me but im bored and i like dramas like this.


I think you might be a little too late for the drama.


i'm expecting a development.


If there is I hope it is big enough to make the time I spent in this thread worthwhile. It quickly turned into a big, mildly funny, disappointment.


yea. it turned out pretty mellow. i'm betting the guy will still wait for the chick for maybe at least two months. he's probably in the denial stage right now.

i don't understand why being on cam was a no-no for the girl. i'd give the guy props for being very nice to the girl but like everything else, learn to limit kindness because sometimes it breeds greed.






I can understand no webcam if she doesn't already have one or something but after a year of supposedly going out with someone it shouldn't be an issue anymore. I also agree about the kindness thing. There are limits to how you treat people for both sides of things. Go too far one way and you are just an a-hole d-bag but go too far the other way and you are now a doormat. As for the denial part and waiting for her...you are probably right on that too but who knows.
Posted 1/8/13
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