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What keeps a relationship going?
Posted 1/12/13
nothing! all relationships are doomed
Posted 1/12/13
I don't know ..not hopes, commitment, or dreams
Not even dedication or trying your best ..it just doesn't work out ..no matter how hard you try
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Posted 1/12/13

Winterfells wrote:

Maybe I'm the only one who believes in this but...I think it all boils down to dumb luck.

The luck of the draw.

There are countless relationships where the guy or the girl are basically perfect and do all the right things. Are good-looking, intelligent, kind, have a bright future, are funny, understanding, supportive. And still, in spite of that, their significant other still breaks up with them, or cheats on them.

Just think back on the news all those years back when Hugh Grant was dating a drop-dead gorgeous Elizabeth Hurley. The one from Bedazzled and Austin Powers. Classy, elegant world-famous supermodel with the charm to boot.

And Grant goes and cheats on her, by soliciting the services of a (frankly) ugly prostitute when he had Hurley waiting at home for him. Not because she did anything wrong, or because he was more attracted to the prostitute. But simply because it was more "dangerous" and "exciting" for him to go against the law and cheat with a street-walker.

There's no rhyme. No reason. No logic. People just do the weirdest things sometimes. So at the end of the day there's nothing you can do to make sure your relationship is going to work out or keep going. You can increase your chances, but it's no real solution. It's dumb luck. Even if you do all the right things.


Strangely, I agree with your statement.
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Trust


here is a bucket for your problums
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Posted 1/12/13
Adventure.
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Posted 1/12/13
Pineapple's and lots of them.

Or, love or something like that-.-
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Posted 1/12/13

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Pineapple's and lots of them.


I know why you have to eat a lot of pineapples.
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Posted 1/12/13

What keep you in a relationship with the person you're dating?

In all honesty:


    ~trusting me, and others

    ~Knowing they care about me, and not just for looks

    ~Being treated as their equal, not just some object

    ~respecting both my body and mind

    ~Acknowledgement and understand of my natural faults

    ~Similar traits in hobbies
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Posted 1/12/13
Well, the view I have on it are that I don't have a relationship, in terms of officially stated whether the other partner is my girlfriend, until after a few dates or a while getting to know them better. I try to keep an optimistic approach on it, in the sense of valuing more the traits I like over the little things I that bother me. As long as I like spending time with the person and see that there is a mutual connection then I try to keep it going for as much as I can.

For a more serious note for, like if and/or when I look for a wife, I'll be looking for things more related to her, for lack of better words, loyalty and how it seems she will react in raising and nurturing out children with me. The views on religion in a sense of if it is something my partner would want that as a means of teaching our offspring ethics and it being something that they would want to keep in the lives of our kids. Views on how to react to our kids wanting relationships. In other words, how we'll handle the talk of "the birds and the bees". But all this kid stuff is something to be thought of in a later time.

Things that would end the relationship for me would be if she continually cheats on me, or if I cheat on her for the matter. Not saying that I would pursue those actions but it is always a possibility to happen. Other than that, I believe everything else that could be viewed as a "problem" in the relationship can be talked out through. My tastes don't exactly limit what it is I want from a woman. There's always room in the harem. haha
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Posted 1/12/13

Shrapnel893 wrote:



No, no, no, no! You've got it all wrong! It's not just sex, it has to be good sex.


for girls, it's "good sex"
for guys, its just sex.
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Posted 1/12/13
It's really easy. The guy/girl keeps me happy, I'll stick around. And I'll let him/her be themselves. Oh, and keeping him well fed doesnt hurt.
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Posted 1/12/13
I agree with you to some extent. My personal philosophy is you are with someone as long as your learning, growing and happy. Then, if you are sensible, you part ways. No sense beating a dead horse. Then you can still be friends later too.
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23 / F / New Zealand
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Posted 1/12/13
COMMUNICATION. Tell each other how you feel - and do it respectfully. Be open and honest.
I've been in the same relationship for almost 6 years (married for almost 2) so I do know what I'm talking about :P

It does vary of course, and some people just aren't meant to be. But yeah. Be honest and TALK.
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Posted 1/12/13
The two fundamental rules to maintaining a long-term live-in relationship are: doing the dishes without complaining, and not saying aloud every stupid thing you think.

Seriously, if you can manage to be quiet when it counts and keep the kitchen clean, then YOU ARE A WINNER. Having a job and staying out of jail are also helpful.
Posted 1/12/13
an open communication
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