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What keeps a relationship going?
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understanding and reason. To be able to see their perspective at the hardest times and be able to discuss with them your own opinion and how you can make shit work seems to be the make it or break it. Embracing change to improve things and keeping people who have no role in your relationships out of any decision making or judgement. also a whole butt load of hard work
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Less focus on 'keeping it going.'

A relationship is not something that should be viewed as being 'in motion' but instead something that is changing. There is a difference for these two: subtle, but in my mind it is there.

A relationship is something that is in a constant state of change, and once it stops changing you should accept that it may be just the natural end to limited compatibility. I could be old and jaded, but there's no real point in trying to re-start something that has already began to start to decay. Otherwise you'll end up in a position where you are dissatisfied, and may even regret the decision to 'keep it going.'

The question that should be asked is: "Are you happy?"

If not, you may be in for a bad time.
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I think I'll quote a bit of SAO...
"If you married someone, and then you discovered they had a side you didn't know, what would you think?"
"Maybe that I was lucky... because if you marry someone, it means you already like what you know about them, right? So if you found something new about them and fell in love with that, too, wouldn't that be great?"

To me, what keeps a relationship going is continually learning new things about each other. That requires communication and trust and a lot of other things that people have mentioned, but also developing yourself as you go so your partner can learn more about you. It's a wonderful thing to be in a comfortable relationship with someone, only to suddenly learn they have some new talent, or for them to find out you also have a love for some obscure thing that they find cute, or whatever.
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trust, communication and the ability to care and give a fuck about completely boring things that are irrelevant to you but me a lot to the person you are in a relationship with.
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What keeps me in a relationship is trust and love.
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communication and the sincerity in it. not just any type of communication but actually being involved in it, not just for the sake of conversation, but of genuine interest. then it becomes lack of attention which may lead to attention seeking and who knows where this will lead to, therefore lack of trust yada yada OTL
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Being less serious about it than your partner
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The fact that the person accepts me for me and having fun on pulling pranks on other people.
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Compromising leads to the slow death of a relationship.

If you need to constantly compromise, you;re with the wrong person.
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the little things...
holding hands
constantly thinking for the other
just being there for one another <3
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ninjagirls wrote:

What are some things that you do too keep a relationship going?

Guys: What keeps you in a relationship with the person you're dating?

Girls : What keep you in a relationship with the person you're dating?


What could be the deal breaker for you? What could make it end the relationship for you?


Scientifically what keeps you attracted to another person on a basic level is a chemical addiction your body undergoes when you "fall in love" or I'd rather like to call it being infatuated with a person. The love thing is definitely a lot deeper but people don't really dive too far into that one. But that's a conversation for another topic or time. The chemical addition becomes a source of joy and you want to constantly feed that until it becomes habitual then the existence of the other person is "needed" it's why we grieve so much sometimes when we lose a girlfriend/boyfriend.

So going with that being able to adapt to your partner and their needs to constantly keep them in that state would probably yield the best results. Change will always come from everyone but never forget the reason why you decided to wake up everyday and immediately want to know how they are doing. The moment you do is the moment you start wasting both you and your partners time.

I specifically don't like women who are too much into their own world and don't see outside of their own box of reason. Sadly most women I've come to meet in New York suffer from this and it's quite sad. Mostly from the one's who claim not to be like that. It definitely is the biggest deal breaker for me. Someone who can't see past their own ego is a waste of everyone's time. It's just sadly we need time to figure these things out so mistakes happen.
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A good sex life does always help....

It's nice to be able to feel intimate and comfortable on a deep level with somebody, you feel like you truly get to know them. Of course it's not all there is to a relationship, but it plays a bit part for me.
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What keeps me in a relationship? Being loved and cared for. I'm not the type to fall for someone so easily, I spend tiem with people and the longer I'm with them the more I feel for them. SO as long as they are giving I will be to.

What is a deal breaker? Infidelity, insensitivity, and a big one. Idiocy.

I'd lose my patience with someone too stupid.
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Bedlam wrote:

Communication and trust is key in any relationship. Once that starts breaking down, you'll run into problems.


This is an absolute must. My relationship with my fiance nearly fell apart several years ago when we went through a non communication patch.

One other thing I've found personally that's helped us in the last 10 years is humour. Nothing better than being able to laugh together.

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Honesty, respect, trust, faithful.
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