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What keeps a relationship going?
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Posted 1/25/13
Damn, that's a loaded question. Everyone is different, but honesty, communication, and respect can go a long way. Physical attraction is also a must. If you aren't attracted to your partner it won't work. Ask anyone who's tried...
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Humor, communication, sex.

Deal Breaker: infidelity, no more sex, no more humor. All these can be traced back to lack of communication.

Dealing with another human being is difficult as fuck. I honestly wouldn't trade my hubby in for more bed space, but sometimes I want to punch him in the throat......
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Posted 1/26/13
Give the boys secks and give the girls love.
And all will work well.
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Posted 1/26/13
Letting go of your fears and being yourself.

When you try to be someone you're not, then snip goes the chord of love~
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Posted 1/26/13

Daemon_Magister wrote:

Letting go of your fears and being yourself.

When you try to be someone you're not, then snip goes the chord of love~


I agree to a certain extent, it depends on if the person wants to change permanently and if they are happy doing so. I told the same thing to my former girlfriend for a while that she should be herself way back in the beginning of march of last year, that I, nor her friends should influence her regardless of if it was in a positive or negative way.

I also believe that a very high level of forgiveness is important , I forgave my former girlfriend even though she repeated, and did things she told me she would never do or do again, a few pockets of anger still remain because of that, although I still hope she can someday find happiness in life, that was how I felt long before we were ever in a relationship.
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Posted 1/26/13
Communication.
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Financial blackmail.
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Coffee.
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34 / M / The Void.
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HimitsuUK wrote:

Financial blackmail.


Is that so? You fail!

Posted 1/27/13
honesty
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Posted 1/27/13
Communication and respect for each other. Willing to apologize after a fight, and keeping up affectionate attention are important. I've seen some people stick with relationships when they had none of these things though. They had gotten so used to the other person that they just "stuck with it".
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Well.. there's so much that keeps a relationship going. So much that just have to work out in one way or another. It's not always that easy to tell why it works between two persons, sometimes it just do. Some partners are the opposite of one another, while others can be like twins and very much the same when it comes to interests ans personalities. Regardless of which one, with the right chemistry and understanding or just the will to try and understand, a couple can be very happy togheter and really fit togheter.

Me and my boyfriend were close friends long before we became a couple. Even in the beginning of our friendship I could sense a deeper understanding and a great attraction. We were so different in so many ways and we often had misunderstandings, but even so we made each other extremly happy and there was this connection that I don't really know how to explain. Maybe you can call it attraction, or maybe personal chemistry, I don't know. But what I do know is that he and I somehow fit togheter perfectly. We always got through the misunderstandings and found each other even closer than before, because we wanted to understand each other so bad and with a lot communication we always did understand each other at the end. Now we're a couple and in half a year I hope and plan to move togheter with him. I've never felt this close to another person before in my life and I'm so happy that no words can describe it.

So with other words I think it's really individual and it's up to every couple to decide how close you wanna get. Some people might have to fight for their love and relationship for it to work, while for others it just comes naturally.
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Well I can't answer the bit about keeping my current relationship going, but I can tell you what I find a dealbreaker. Being cheated on.

After all that one act destroys all trust you have for that person and with no trust, a relationship is doomed.
Posted 1/27/13
Everything except for things that stops a relationship.
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I forgot to say being passionate about life, I still remember how much emotion I felt from my former girlfriend as she played her music in the past, and her strong will to live back many months ago. It captivated me at how much I could feel from her pieces of music. Her newest music in the last 3 months almost felt lifeless, even the ones she's made within the recent weeks.

Even now listening back to her older pieces even the ones with errors in them just have a completely different (amazing) feeling to them than her recent others.

I still worry about her well being as a person. I just want her to find the happiness inside that she once had regardless of what it takes her to do so.

What I mean overall is if your will to live becomes weak it won't matter what happens it will cause your other to suffer as almost or as much as you are, however they should be capable of preventing, and even reversing that and care to reverse that if they truly love you, not this flingy or fluttery feeling most people have, but the ability to put their partner and their feelings before themselves and their own desires, and that is why to this day so many relationships fail and many many more will fall to it.

I will list two examples my keyboard had broken down to the point it was nearly unusable after having used it for almost 7 years, I had talked with my former girlfriend about a mechanical keyboard to replace it I knew she had been having issues with hers as well, instead of keeping the keyboard when it came in I sent it on to her and fought with my broken keyboard for almost month and a half until I could replace it, it's still laying in pieces over here in the corner >_<

The last being something important she did for me, or around a week after this was stopping mass grinding with her friends away from me to be together with me. this doesn't contain any personal information so I'll post it with the names
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