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I'm pansexual and honestly most people don't get it.

Pansexuality is like bisexuality, but bisexual is limited to just plain genders of girls and boys. Being pansexual means you don't care about the gender identities (i.e. girl, boy, tansexual, cross dresser, girl who likes to identify herself as a boy and vise versa for boys). Basically pansexuality = all people are beautiful regardless of what they are or what they identify themselves as.
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Posted 8/4/13

JustineKo2 wrote:


Goomoonryong wrote:

The conept of pansexualism seems rather simple to me, it means your sexual attraction isn't limited by tradtional boundries. Never met someone who identified this way though.

How is pansexuality different to bi sexuality though? Does bi not include transgender or does bi imply some sort of distinction in attraction that pan excludes??
Hi I'm pansexual. I can help explain the difference between the two (bi and pan). It mostly has to do with the reasons one might find another person to be nice to hook up with. So for instance a bisexual man who would be flexible to go either way, they still keep what genitals a person has in mind when approaching a prospective date. Perhaps he had a long relationship with a woman who he broke up with, he might try to change things up a bit and seek out a guy. If he finds a guy who is handsome, really is a guy and likes his personality, then that's a score.

With pansexuals the major thing that comes into play is personality, and sensing what someone is like as a person on the inside. Gender, sex and occasionally other physical factors may play a role, but they are always secondary. If I broke up with a girlfriend like the guy in the above example, there's really little reason I'd be more likely to go for a man the next time. I'd just look around, and people that I meet that I find attractive on the inside as well as healthy and good looking in general (as a bonus) and turn the most solid friendship I make into something special.

Of course there's always people who are not suitable, because they end up being dicks, are not interested in a relationship, their sexual orientation is not compatible or whatever. So 9 times out of 10 someone a pansexual meets is simply not the right person. We're not anymore likely to force a relationship when it's not going to work out, than any of the other sexual orientations.




so basically youre the emo version of bi?
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swirly_commode wrote:
so basically youre the emo version of bi?


Ignorance at its best.
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swirly_commode wrote:
so basically youre the emo version of bi?


Ignorance at its best.
It's a bit un-PC, but that analogy kind of works, in a way. Let me make it clear I admonish over-generalizations that only serve to alienate those who are different rather than create unity between all sexual orientations. If people want to understand us better, lets let them. Personally I think there is an emotional aspect to all relationships, without that we are all just reproductive robots. Pansexuals are just people who don't let the frosting get in the way of having their cake.

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Posted 8/4/13
"bi" wasnt edgy enough for the emo kids
they had to take it a step farther
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Here is a video from Laci green :)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bv5k9w6Hpi4
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But the thing is, he's not even making and analogy. He's just being inconsiderate.
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It's pretty hard to discuss how exactly pansexuals and bisexuals are different without being offensive in some manner. Because I've learned that being bisexual doesn't just mean attraction to strictly cis man or woman, they can very much be inclusive of nonbinary genders, though many pansexuals believe that bisexuals are exclusive in that manner? Which is pretty strange to me because a trans* person can also be bisexual so saying that being bi is somehow exclusive of nonbinary people is pretty ironic. It's also cissexist to assume that because bisexuals may be attracted to men or women, that trans* people are excluded from that group because some of them also identify as simply men or women. Then there's that whole "I like them for personality, not their gender" thing that demeans identities where gender is a factor for attraction as well as starting this "pansexuality is the better and more inclusive version of bisexuality" when really, bisexuals don't agree to definition they've been given as strictly attraction to men or women. Also pretty uncomfortable with how pansexuals think they are breaking the gender binary by being attracted to the people who are actually breaking it.
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Posted 8/6/13

shirayukiIce wrote:

I'm pansexual and honestly most people don't get it.

Pansexuality is like bisexuality, but bisexual is limited to just plain genders of girls and boys. Being pansexual means you don't care about the gender identities (i.e. girl, boy, tansexual, cross dresser, girl who likes to identify herself as a boy and vise versa for boys). Basically pansexuality = all people are beautiful regardless of what they are or what they identify themselves as.


I'm one of those who didn't "get it". I used to say: a person can only be a woman or a boy...no matter if they're transexual, travesty, gay or straight but they all can have just a cock or a vagina...so bisexuality was the better term for me and I thought pansexuality included animals or something XD (even though the term for that is beastiality or zoophilia)...very ignorant from my part, I know...but I "get it" now. =)

As for what I think about it...I think it's amazing how different we all are and I'm happy the way i am so others should also be happy the way they are. As long as no one gets hurt (like in pedophilia where kids get damaged for life or zoophilia where animals are abused) I don't mind any kind of sexuality and relationship.
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Nobody is redefining gender roles. There are still only male and female, x or y chromosomes.
All "pansexual" is is the emo kids going out of their way to show how accepting and emotional they are.

In the 70s and 80s it was the interracial dating that a lot of white kids did to rebel and garner attention as being accepting and open minded. Kids now adays need to find new ways in which to be rebellious and show off their acceptance of other people. Bi girls do it to get the guys while pansexuals do it to piss their parents off.

Personally i dont care what you do in the bedroom but dobt try to turn yourself into rosa parks of sexuality.
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Nobody is redefining gender roles. There are still only male and female, x or y chromosomes.
All "pansexual" is is the emo kids going out of their way to show how accepting and emotional they are.

In the 70s and 80s it was the interracial dating that a lot of white kids did to rebel and garner attention as being accepting and open minded. Kids now adays need to find new ways in which to be rebellious and show off their acceptance of other people. Bi girls do it to get the guys while pansexuals do it to piss their parents off.

Personally i dont care what you do in the bedroom but dobt try to turn yourself into rosa parks of sexuality.


Before you try to tell them what to do, why don't you stop trying to eradicate or define their identities. That'd be a start to stop sounding like a ignorant asshole who wandered into a topic that he has no knowledge of but plenty of irrational hatred for. And I sure as hell don't feel like I need to somehow prove to you that I exist.
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I thought it was a reference to the Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy, Like the Pan-Galactic gargle blaster.
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Posted 8/7/13

swirly_commode wrote:

Nobody is redefining gender roles. There are still only male and female, x or y chromosomes.
All "pansexual" is is the emo kids going out of their way to show how accepting and emotional they are.

In the 70s and 80s it was the interracial dating that a lot of white kids did to rebel and garner attention as being accepting and open minded. Kids now adays need to find new ways in which to be rebellious and show off their acceptance of other people. Bi girls do it to get the guys while pansexuals do it to piss their parents off.

Personally i dont care what you do in the bedroom but dobt try to turn yourself into rosa parks of sexuality.


I'm pansexual and I'm not emo. None of the pansexuals I know are emo. Not even the bisexuals I know are emo. How you came to that conclusion is beyond me. I don't care if you believe in pansexuality or not, but coming to such a conclusion and mindset is crud. "while pansexuals do it to piss their parents off." That in no way makes any sense. It was extremely hard for me to come out to my mom (and I'm probably never going to tell my dad). I was depressed for so long before I told her, and I sort of still am because she doesn't believe me.
And yeah, there are some girls and guys who lie about being bi or pan just to get girls/guys, but honest pan/bisexuals don't parade it around like that. Being bisexual/pansexual is not all about getting in the bedroom with someone just to rebel or show their acceptance. What people do in their bedroom, regardless or orientation, is their business. Don't make such generalizations like that; it's sickening. Try to be a little open minded.

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Posted 8/8/13
this isn't that complicated... to simply put it YOU FALL IN LOVE WITH THE PERSON NOT THE GENDER!
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Doryphoros wrote:

this isn't that complicated... to simply put it YOU FALL IN LOVE WITH THE PERSON NOT THE GENDER!


How many people actually fall in love with someone's gender. It's quite obviously the person, most of the time. That sort of explanation has a lot of flaws, especially concerning how other orientations relate.
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