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Chronicles of a Self Hating Anime Fan
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Posted 1/13/13
I can understand the concept of your interests and hobbies affecting your social opportunities. Being a Wiccan who happens to enjoy watching ballet and anime is hardly a recipe for instantaneous popularity in the law enforcement community. . .most overlook it, a few ask about it, and every so often some asshole comes along with "freaks like you should be in cuffs, not toting them." Mostly, though, it just doesn't come up unless they hear Ali Project or Sawa's Phool playing in my squad car. They ask about the music and then remember that I'm the weird one. . .I actually catch more grief from my wife, who rather thoroughly disapproves of my wasting time with anime. (Since she's a news junkie, though, I can always argue that anime is at least entertaining!)
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Clearly a weabo, but in all honesty if you feel (after cutting through the hard to read melodrama and god awful "smiley" things) insecure about your ability to relate/communicate with your peers that aren't into "Japan" then the answer is pretty simple... broaden your horizons.

It can be done in your home, it takes little effort and it gives this magical thing called experience, that experience can be used to mask the weabo (I jest) nature you have... or in the best case scenario, actually make you a well rounded person.
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@moonhawk: Japanese music coming from a squad car.. I can think of a couple of things I'd like to hear, if for no other reason than shock value. I'm but a humble office jockey, so I can't relate to how drastically different things must be on the police force. On the other than, my wife is Wiccan with a Catholic family, so I can at least appreciate that side of the prejudice.

@Coffeebot: You cut me to the bone.

Back in the day my 'god awful smiley things' were awesome. ._.

Anyway, my horizons are about as wide as I can keep up with. Truthfully, my 'weeaboo' (what IS the proper spelling, anyway?) nature is really only limited to music and my culinary talents. Otherwise I can keep up reasonably well with other subjects. I think in my opinion, moreso than TV, religious views, blah (read: etc), food and music are simply the two things relate with the most which is why there tends to be such a 'disturbance.'

Maybe I'm wrong.
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Posted 1/13/13 , edited 1/13/13

Ama_no_Kagaseo wrote:

@moonhawk: Japanese music coming from a squad car.. I can think of a couple of things I'd like to hear, if for no other reason than shock value. I'm but a humble office jockey, so I can't relate to how drastically different things must be on the police force. On the other than, my wife is Wiccan with a Catholic family, so I can at least appreciate that side of the prejudice.

@Coffeebot: You cut me to the bone.

Back in the day my 'god awful smiley things' were awesome. ._.

Anyway, my horizons are about as wide as I can keep up with. Truthfully, my 'weeaboo' (what IS the proper spelling, anyway?) nature is really only limited to music and my culinary talents. Otherwise I can keep up reasonably well with other subjects. I think in my opinion, moreso than TV, religious views, blah (read: etc), food and music are simply the two things relate with the most which is why there tends to be such a 'disturbance.'

Maybe I'm wrong.


If music and food are your biggest 'deficit' areas then the easy suggestion is... other stuff.

Listen to some generic music enough to become familiar with it so that you can spout it off in a flash, in my case I use AC/DC (although I actually like the music) but it's useful because there are few people in Australia who haven't heard of AC/DC and it's generic rock so it gives people a basic understanding of my musical taste.

As far as food is concerned, learn some basic stuff from other cultures, and by basic I'm talking white/red sauce + meat/seafood + carbohydrate level of basic, oh and try some different restaurant/eatery food. But many of us that cook tend to focus on one culture/style because it's a lot easier and cleaner than being a jack of all trades.
Hell I also focus on south-east Asian cuisine because I enjoy the taste and texture as well as the visual appeal of the food, but I've spent enough time cooking that I can appreciate food from many areas and styles, and more than that, I can cook a variety of dishes (because of the basics) and talk about them.

Then again, where I live you can't go 2km without finding an Asian style/themed restaurant or eatery so it's not like your preference for an Asian style is uncommon.
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Should rename the thing "self-indulgent praising thread"
seriously what the hell?

You put out this bs attitude that you grew up and feel different than everyone else. Nobody feels the same way, get over it.
Other people do better than you, you might think? well yeah... There will always be someone better than you, there will always be someone worse than you, that doesn't mean you need to put your self anywhere to feel better about your self.
Sounds like you had a rough time, but there is absolutely no need for you to go online or anywhere public for that matter, to talk about how hard it is to be different or "ask for advice"
Everyone's different mate, don't get full of your self, that kind of attitude tends to develop into a sort of arrogance, which is the most disgusting human feature.

I'm not trying to bully you, or get on your case. Just trying to make you realise that everyone goes through some sort of identity crisis at one point no matter what.
You're asking the wrong way, you already like Anime and Japanese culture right? well guess what, there's a hell of a lot of people here that feels the same way, no need to proof your self to anyone.
Embrace who you are, don't pull your self down because you don't get along with people in your neighbourhood, and while I'm at it! Don't think you're better than others either.

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I think you just need to... be more open-minded...

I think that conversation you had with "Mr. Suzuki"; it seems to me like he was just making a joke, he's not trying to insult that you're trying to be Asian... it's just lighthearted humour.

You're taking things too seriously... just go with the flow.
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There's always plastic surgery. If you're yellow on the inside and not happy about it, you should go yellow all together.
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Good read.
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Ama_no_Kagaseo wrote:

So..this is my first post on a forum in.. -Counts on fingers..- About two years? Cut an old man some slack if I'm not 'mad cool' like you kids say these days. Beware, I may come across pompous but these are my efforts to make fun of myself.

Anyway.. This is something I kind of wanted to get off my chest and see how other people react in a similar situation. In order for me to build proper understanding of my situation, let me explain a couple of things about myself:

I have been an anime fan for a pretty long time. Maybe even forever since I grew up with stuff like Tonari no Totoro and the like ever since I was.. This tall? -Measures something pretty short.- And on top of it all I spent a lot of my youth in martial arts where practice and philosophy was taught, so it was a disciplined and borderline spiritual class (please don't misunderstand. I'm not trying to make myself out to be some crazy bad ass.) Combine that with an anti-social nature (ah..it's getting worse. TToTT) in a small town and you arrive at someone who fails at establishing an identity that syncs with their immediate surroundings. Therefore I supplemented my ignorance of my own culture with a growing interest in Asian culture, specifically Korean and Japanese.

So fast forward more than a decade, and I've attached myself to Japan quite strongly. I only listen to Japanese music, not because "nglish muzak suxx" but because.. I don't even think I know where to learn about my local music anymore. I tend to eat with chopsticks (depending on what I'm eating. I'm not someone who tries to tackle steak and potatoes with chop sticks) and FURTHER STILL - I can really only cook Asian cuisine well. Anything else and I'm relying on recipes and youtube videos.

My 'religion' of choice is Shinto, because I can't identify with dominant monotheistic practices.

I read (translated) Japanese literature.

And more often than not I'm ignorant of current trends that surround me. Do you know how long it took me to catch on to what a Honey Boo Boo is? DO YOU!?

Over the years I've become so distanced from my immediate surroundings that it's hard for me to even figure out a way back.

TL;DR

So imagine my dismay when two things happen:

As a working adult I interact with my co-workers. I consider myself social, but awkward. When people ask what I listen to I find myself dodging the question.

Conversation with a co-worker:

"Y HALO THAR WHAT MUZAK DO YOU LYKE?!"

"Oh. You know, I listen to a little everything.."

"Oh, well, like what?"

"Well, I listen to some rap..some rock.."

"Oh, so do you like (x musician)?"

"Ah..Sorry, I don't know. I like some old school stuff, like Zeebra.."

"Who?"

"Ah..he's a Japa-"

"OH YOU LIKE JPOP HUH? HUHEHEUHHEUHEUHHEH!!!1"


And now I seem to have earned a reputation as being 'that person.' Not that it's a bad thing.. it's kind of funny, if not daunting sometimes. I've become the go-to person for Asian restaurants in our area, for example. What really gets me is when I hear someone refer to me as 'Fasian' to my face or otherwise. For some reason, it just really gets under my skin. I'm not TRYING to be Asian (btw, I'm not.) I'm just trying to be me the only way I know how. TT-TT


On the other hand, there are conversations that are held between me and my Asian friends.

Conversation with Mr. Suzuki:

"Hey, so what's for dinner tonight?"

"Ah.. I was thinking about sukiyaki or okonomiyaki.."

"Where are we going then?"

"I just really wanted to stay in, so I was going to break out the skillet or pot.."

"...I have to have my mom make okonomiyaki for me.."

"..It's kind of easy.."

"What mix do you use?"

"..I make my own.."

"...You're more Asian than I am."


NO I'M NOT! Stop it! Stop it right there! I'm not Asian, I'm not trying to be Asian! Just.. just..stop...;o;


I'm sure there are other people here that have these same issues right? How do you cope?






SAME!!!!!!!! Wow, didn't think there was anybody else........
I cope by embracing it, being proud of it, and becoming more and more obsessed.
Yea, my Asian friends say the same thing "You're more Asian than me," well, I probably embrace their culture more than they do themselves, it's sort of funny yet worrying at the same time. Karaage chicken and rice and sushi are my sort/of specialties.
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Some of this made me chuckle.
But I can relate to you.
But I'm also fairly aware of English music. So I can't relate to you as well. I grew up to some Studio Ghilbli movies as well. What a coincidence. o m o!

I cope by just not bringing it up in conversations, and try not to get excited when I'm around friends when something updates on my phone or something and it's either anime-related, or gaming-related. Unless it's a friend who happens to like that stuff... Which is somewhat rare where I am. I don't like to hang out with the "otaku" kids because well... They aren't like you... But they're just too... Fan girly about it. And I'm not like that.
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Posted 1/19/13
Do whatever makes you happy.
Ignore the haters.
They mad cuz they just jelly.
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Posted 1/19/13


Sorry but....

It's the law.
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LOSazimuth wrote:

Good read.


Indeed.
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Posted 1/20/13 , edited 1/20/13

Ama_no_Kagaseo wrote:

NO I'M NOT! Stop it! Stop it right there! I'm not Asian, I'm not trying to be Asian! Just.. just..stop...;o;


Hey man, do what you like and whatever floats your boat but, umm, you've got a serious case of denial if you think that's the case. You've effectively shunned every possible element of your own culture to adapt that of Asian culture. If that's not trying to be Asian, then what is? Maybe you're not consciously aware of it (although I think that'd be impossible considering the depths you've gone to) but it is something you're undeniably doing.

You'll probably be happier in life if you just admit it to yourself and embrace that it's who you are. Although you might be happier if you first take a hard look and see that if this longing to reculture yourself is actually a longing to do that and not a side effect of some other events in your life that you've avoided dealing with.
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