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Have you ever talk with someone all the time, and you run out of things to say to each other? Do you have communication problems? What are some ways to fix this? What are some good ways to come up with new things to talk about? What do you do when you know each other so well that you are running out of things to talk about?
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I'm just going to type out the questions yo. :3

Have you ever talk with someone all the time, and you run out of things to say to each other? Why yes, practically with everyone I've spoken to except one person who no longer speaks to me.
Do you have communication problems? Slightly. If I feel I have no connection with that person, I'll slowly stop talking to them.
What are some ways to fix this? Try to come up with topics you'd want to talk about with that person.
What are some good ways to come up with new things to talk about? You can try to compare similarities in either games, movies, actors, etc.
What do you do when you know each other so well that you are running out of things to talk about? Improvise. Try introducing something new in your get together with that individual such as participating in a new activity or spew random comments.
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This is good, agree and thanks for the advice
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Doesn't really happen to me in person but maybe a little bit over the phone sometimes. The solution is difficult as sometimes silence is better than saying pointless stuff but it can be awkward. Maybe talk about the things that are going on around you. There are also topics you can always talk about such as plans for this day and the next day or what they did yesterday. One way to help fix it is probably pratice, talk to more people and you'll become better at talking to people.
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Be random.
Change things up.
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Or you could just leave it be and not try to force things? Whatever happened to the art of sitting in a comfortable silence with someone? If you know this person so well that you've run out of things to say, then don't say anything. Something will come up, and bring the conversation back naturally.
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mystic17 wrote:

I'm just going to type out the questions yo. :3

Have you ever talk with someone all the time, and you run out of things to say to each other? Why yes, practically with everyone I've spoken to except one person who no longer speaks to me.
Do you have communication problems? Slightly. If I feel I have no connection with that person, I'll slowly stop talking to them.
What are some ways to fix this? Try to come up with topics you'd want to talk about with that person.
What are some good ways to come up with new things to talk about? You can try to compare similarities in either games, movies, actors, etc.
What do you do when you know each other so well that you are running out of things to talk about? Improvise. Try introducing something new in your get together with that individual such as participating in a new activity or spew random comments.


Stealing this for convenience.

Have you ever talk with someone all the time, and you run out of things to say to each other? Quite a few times yes.

Do you have communication problems? I suppose. Same as Mystic17. If I don't feel there is anything special or interesting about a person I just don't really talk to them.

What are some ways to fix this? I don't really know. I never cared enough. The way I see it some people mesh really well and make very good friends and others will just always be stuck either being mere acquaintances that are called friends to be polite or they will be the ones that don't get spoken to anymore.

What are some good ways to come up with new things to talk about? I don't really know for this one either. I just talk about the current things in my life. A show or movie I watched. What happened in the latest chapter of a book I am reading or even just talking about work. Sometimes discussions arise from those and sometimes not.

What do you do when you know each other so well that you are running out of things to talk about? I stay silent aside from the basic greetings and seemingly mandatory "How are you?" and "What's up?". Something always comes up sooner or later.
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wwe wrote:

Have you ever talk with someone all the time, and you run out of things to say to each other? Do you have communication problems? What are some ways to fix this? What are some good ways to come up with new things to talk about? What do you do when you know each other so well that you are running out of things to talk about?


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Well communication has to go both ways. If you're talking to someone who seriously wants to have a chat, then a simple idea or topic can start the chit chatting. From then on you just play off each other's ideas and what they previously said to acquire new topics to talk about. A short conversation (to me at least) just means the receiver wasn't really interested in anything I was talking about or they just didn't know how to convey their thoughts as fluently.
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When talking with someone else, and that is rarely, and the conversation starts to die down with a lack of things to talk about, I just end the conversation altogether. NOTHING good will come from forcing it and chances are, you'll say something you wish you hadn't.
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For me, I don't have communication problems. I can talk to anyone about anything.

I just... choose not to. I mean, I don't see the point of talking about things I've already talked to another person about.
One time, I was at this bar with a group of people and I noticed they brought up the same topic three times... and it bored me.

Well, there are some things I can talk about over and over, for example religion and science are two of those things. I used to go on this religion forum and argued (in a friendly way) with the people about the contradictions and flaws of religion all the time, I don't do that anymore... I've come to realise no matter how logical I make my argument, people will choose to believe what they want to believe. So now it bores me to speak about religion.

I used to think I had a mild form of autism... because everyone in my family is a talker except me, but I've come to accept that I was born an introvert/lone wolf.
And that I'm just on a different wavelength from common people, I mean I don't consider myself smarter than anyone (if I was smart I'd be in Mensa's society but I'm not), I just don't find normal people's conversation interesting to me.

In high school, people bored me, I thought I would meet someone more on my wavelength in university, but they were just as boring. I tried to go to a gay social club... but I just still didn't fit it. I don't know if there is a person who will be able to intrigue me in a way that will make me love socialising.
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Wow, i am having a harder time formulating an answer. making me do some real soul searching.

Hmm, Here we go again....yes i have communication problems. My "friends" labeled me "The king of small talk". they told me that my conversations were hollow and meaningless. They are right. I admit it. Total strangers know more and understand me than those that i have considered close to me. Even my ex would complain about it to others calling me a social butterfly in public but dead silent at home. I can talk to people at a bus stop or in a train station about my deepest, darkest secrets but the moment i get close to people i shut down.

let me ask you this...are you uncomfortable because you have something you want to say and are not able to express? or is it that you feel that in those moments of silence that something has to be said? That plays into those moments as well.

I think i might be reading too much into the question. i do not know if you are asking for help or just curious. let me apologize if i misunderstood the question.
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I do that sometimes or I lose intrest and don't give a damn. Unless I feel like that person and me connect. I just feel it. If not all well. Im very weird with certian people. They either love me or hate me and I either love them or hate them as well. This is going to sound odd but I always feel like I can feel certain things off people. I won't go into detail, but it sucks. I hope Im not the only one.
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MarshDiamond wrote:

I do that sometimes or I lose intrest and don't give a damn. Unless I feel like that person and me connect. I just feel it. If not all well. Im very weird with certian people. They either love me or hate me and I either love them or hate them as well. This is going to sound odd but I always feel like I can feel certain things off people. I won't go into detail, but it sucks. I hope Im not the only one.


You're not. It's weird when you feel something happening, and even worse to find out that it actually happened when you got back with those people.
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wwe wrote:

Have you ever talk with someone all the time, and you run out of things to say to each other? Do you have communication problems? What are some ways to fix this? What are some good ways to come up with new things to talk about? What do you do when you know each other so well that you are running out of things to talk about?


I like this thread I have this problems sometimes too :)

lets see how many useful ideas i can get
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