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Posted 1/16/13

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Have you ever talk with someone all the time, and you run out of things to say to each other? Do you have communication problems? What are some ways to fix this? What are some good ways to come up with new things to talk about? What do you do when you know each other so well that you are running out of things to talk about?


I like this thread I have this problems sometimes too :)

lets see how many useful ideas i can get :D


your lame lines won't get better my dear. :P
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Posted 1/17/13
Yup, I have these kind of problems when I talk to people, I run out of topics to talk to someone with and often it's in a place where I can't just go and leave, and because of that, it get's really awkward xD!
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Posted 1/17/13 , edited 1/17/13

wwe wrote:

Have you ever talk with someone all the time, and you run out of things to say to each other? Do you have communication problems? What are some ways to fix this? What are some good ways to come up with new things to talk about? What do you do when you know each other so well that you are running out of things to talk about?


Why the need to always talk? If you know each other so well, then you both should be comfortable with each other enough to just keep each other's company in silence.
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Posted 1/17/13
The only problem I'm dealing is I'm not good at keeping communication, when it comes to people I know in RL it bores me to communicate with them over the internet and phone whereas for virtual friends I enjoy talking to them over it. Since I already have this bubbly aura and shameless personality, approaching is never a problem. My advantage is I'm good at reading/observing personalities, I mostly do the listening then asks questions they might enjoy answering then the heated conversation goes till they helplessly reveal dirty little secrets they keep then turn it to my advantage to blackmail them (jke. happened anyway) that's why when I ran out of things to talk about I randomly tease them with their dirty secrets or retort to silly conversations. xD

What are some good ways to come up with new things to talk about?

Talk about the new guy in school, the neighwhore, the bus driver, the pervert on the train. Every person that enters your daily life. =D
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Posted 1/17/13 , edited 1/17/13
Consider that silence might be a pleasurable way to spend time with someone. If you've run out of things to talk about with someone, then the chances are good that you've already gone through the standard -- "who are you, what do you like to do, what do you think of *insert random ideological topic here*?" -- type of topics. If you've done that then you probably know a person well enough to not feel awkward just kicking back with them. If you are simply the type of person that needs to have conversation to enjoy your time with friends, then I can't help you -- I'm not really that type of person.

Edit: Just saw this, and I'll have to agree. Well said.

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Why the need to always talk? If you know each other so well, then you both should be comfortable with each other enough to just keep each other's company in silence.

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Posted 1/17/13


your lame lines won't get better my dear. :P


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Posted 1/17/13 , edited 1/17/13

wwe wrote:

Have you ever talk with someone all the time, and you run out of things to say to each other? Do you have communication problems? What are some ways to fix this? What are some good ways to come up with new things to talk about? What do you do when you know each other so well that you are running out of things to talk about?


Yes! Except it's always happened with people I've dated not friends. Maybe it's because I'm always more comfortable around friends and there are never any 'out of bounds' things to talk about? Either way in regards to relationships in running out of things to talk about I have no idea what to say. I'm still trying to figure out why. I guess because it's not the right person for me? But anyways in dealing with this issue with friends, I say just try to do new and spontaneous things. Like new activities you guys have never done before. Such as going on a little road trip together or something I guess?

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Posted 1/17/13
All the time!
I definitely don't run out of things to say when talking with friends, but with new people yes. I once tried talking to some new girl in my class but she responded to every single one of my questions with "yes," "no," or "sometimes." So I only have problems communicating with people who make it hard for me. After that though I usually always find something to say.
Posted 1/17/13
People bring down other people in their heads to make themselves feel better and comfortable.
Posted 1/18/13 , edited 1/18/13

I hate small talk so I'd rather have silence. Shared silence is less awkward, at least for me, than trying to have a conversation when I don't have anything to say.
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Posted 1/18/13
I'm sure all the best advice is already given, So I'll give some probably true but insensitive advice.

One of you or both of you are boring.

OR you aren't open enough.

There... I said it.
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Posted 1/18/13
Yes it does and sometimes when I don't want to assume a person is doing something to be rude I alway brush it off so I don't look crazy accusing but when I wait I always find out Im right.
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Posted 1/19/13
To be silent with a friend and able to understand and acknowledge each other's presence. It's the same as speaking.
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Yeah same with me, when comes to dating, I always run out of things to say, before you know it, we know each other so well that we dont have much left to say, now we just talk about how are day was, weather or anything we are doing. With friends that I know for a long time it seems a lot easier to talk with dont need to say much and it still have a great time, idk why is easier with friends but it just is.
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Posted 1/24/13
Have you tried turning it on and off?
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