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How to deal with a friend who ignores you?
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Posted 1/19/13 , edited 1/19/13
Ignore them back believe me this works lol
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Whack him with a stick!
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karmacide wrote:

Throw a brick through his window with a note tied to it demanding more of his time.


Thats sounds like something that would happen in an anime or a book...... figures.....

Sorry dude, I can't help..... sort of the same situation here.
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Wow dude, that just described 90% of me...Except I go to school, Haha, barely.
I don't know dude...
This Matt dude, he sounds cool, like we have a lot of things in common. ROFL.

I also have one friend I talk to a lot, I have other friends from High School, but only one best friend I can trust with everything, I've known him since 2nd grade elementary. So yeah. I could say he's my only friend.

Welp. I have nothing useful to contribute to this situation, finding myself in these types of situations all the time. With me ignoring my best friend and what not...I should have a solution that you might want. But I have Nothing. Which makes it that much funnier...Idk dude, I have a suggestion though, just do...

Whatever makes you happy.
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Just disown the fucker. I've been cut off or cut off friends plenty of times. I'm a natural loner anyway. Awkward motherfucker, I am.
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I'm with everyone else, just ignore him and find new friends.

Same thing happened to me with a certain friend at school. I wave at him or say hi to him in the halls and he just ignores me and keeps walking everytime. So you know what I did. I completely shut him out from my life. Last time i heard of him, he barely has any friends and I only see him talk to 1 person on FB. Now he's trying to talk to me again, so I ignore him like he did me.

Some people just need know what it feels like the way they treat people and they'll understand. Trust me it always works and feels so good.
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Posted 1/20/13
sometimes when your depressed you kinda shun people with out realizing it, just talk to him and ask him whats going on
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If my friend ignores me.
They ain't really my friend then huh?
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Talk to him about it. Communication is key in any type of relationship. I was in your friends shoes for a while and I was really depressed and over all not interested in hanging out with people most of the time because of it. I really suggest talking to him and finding out what's going on.
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If they are your true friends and you normally talk often, they don't just disown unless something serious has happened in their lives to where they actually cannot respond.

I can't think of a reason every other scenario just means they just don't care.

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I've known my friend Matt for about 8 years. We've been friends since my early childhood. Growing up, we always spent a great deal of time hanging out together, making plans regularly, and just having a normal friendship. Things were never a problem. Fast forward to now.

Matt currently doesn't have a job. He's 19, unemployed, doesn't go to school, and essentially stays home and mooches off his parents. He spends most of his time playing video games and doesn't really have an excuse for anything. So the problem is, over the last year or so, he has started to shun me completely.

Basically, he doesn't respond to my text messages anymore. Doesn't respond to phone calls, and overall completely neglects our friendship. Whenever I ask him to hang out, he essentially ignores my texts, and then a few days later, he messages me saying "want to make plans?" and naturally, I always agree. We meet up, hang out and have a good time, and then we part ways, and he goes back to completely ignoring me all over again. It doesn't make any sense. He doesn't have anything going on his life, so obviously he's not "too busy" to return my messages. I seriously don't know what his problem is. When we're together, we have a great time.

Then when we part ways, the pattern begins all over again. It just doesn't make sense to me. He always has his phone on him. He is always texting when I'm around him. I don't think it's fair that I am always willing to give him the time of day, but when I occasionally want to talk to him or make plans, he just completely shuts me out.

Realistically yes, I can drop him as a friend, but I don't really have any other friends besides him, and I value my friendship with him so it would be difficult to drop him. But if he continues to just neglect our friendship like this and shun me, I wonder if I should bother. I am the only real-life friend he has. He doesn't hang out with anybody else, nor does he know anybody else locally. So for him to even shun his only friend, that just makes things even worse. Any advice?


I hate to tell you this but I had a similar friend although we were only friends for between 1~2 years when he started doing this, eventually he just stopped talking with me and had heard he did with his other friends as well. I don't know what happened to him since we were close friends for a long time.
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I wouldn't care.
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It sounds like your friend doesn't really care about anything right now, yourself included. He's at a low point in his life. No job, no school, nothing to really do with his life but sit at home. It's only natural that he would fall into a state of indifference. Give him time and space. But also be encouraging. Let him know you are there. I know some of the guys are saying you should be a hardass like them and not care about the loss of a friend, but that's unrealistic. Humans needs love. Those people who say otherwise are lying to themselves.

Matt's been your friend for eight years. I'd hate to lose someone like that. He'll come around one of these days.
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DetectiveAlex wrote:

It sounds like your friend doesn't really care about anything right now, yourself included. He's at a low point in his life. No job, no school, nothing to really do with his life but sit at home. It's only natural that he would fall into a state of indifference. Give him time and space. But also be encouraging. Let him know you are there. I know some of the guys are saying you should be a hardass like them and not care about the loss of a friend, but that's unrealistic. Humans needs love. Those people who say otherwise are lying to themselves.

Matt's been your friend for eight years. I'd hate to lose someone like that. He'll come around one of these days.


This is probably the best advice on this thread.
Don't just throw away a friendship when you don't know why he is being so distant.
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Pretty sure there's something going on with him, & maybe, since you guys have known each other a long time, it might be shameful or something to reveal it to you. I think it's pretty obvious something else is taking over his life. You can either confront him about it, or just ignore it.
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Yeah....Find new friends.

Wish you the best.
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