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How to deal with a friend who ignores you?
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Posted 1/20/13
Well considering me and my best friend do this dance every other month, he is probably un happy and too lazy to take some responsibility with their life, its a growing problem as people continue to shun logic & hope, this is something that happens to alot of people. The only suggestion I have " PLEASE " do not abandon this person, it is not time for them to hit rock bottom yet and you need to be there for them, as I am learning with my own situation with my best friend.
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Posted 1/21/13 , edited 1/21/13
slap that mofo! tell him what bothers you and if he doesnt listen, slap him again. then hear him out if he has something to tell you as to why he's doing that. if you're really a man (like what your gender there say so), then handle it like a man and confront him (without the slapping).

on a second thought... maybe he's using that "ignore-my-friend" time for his "girlfriend"...

as a serious advice though, tell him what you feel and ask him why. dont leave him alone, as real friends dont leave each other behind.
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Posted 1/21/13
he probably likes you ? you cant say for sure through u need to talk to him face to face and work things out he might be troubled on something or as ll said he probably likes u , show him who's the boss you cant just possibly be someone who he calls or texts and says wanna make plans and after the day ends he just shuts you off and when u try to make plans with him he ignores u is that abit mean ?
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Posted 1/21/13 , edited 1/21/13
i dont wanna be a douche but ignore him for a couple a weeks and if his not changing then just dump him why would you wanna have deathweight as a friend
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Posted 1/21/13
He may be depressed about his lot in life and simply be wallowing in self pity. I've been laid off a couple times this recession and I never really feel social when that has happened. I may ignore my friends texts and messages for a few days but that''s about it. I'm not excusing his behavior in any way though. Maybe when he gets his shit together he'll be your old friend again, or maybe he's showing his true colors. Either way don't agonize over it. Be yourself and remember that you'll make many many good friends in your lifetime. I had lots of what I considered to be good friends when I was your age and now I don't even know if they're still alive... Do your thing and the rest will fall into place...
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Posted 1/21/13


Seems like your friend hides something, so why don't you try to have a serious chat with him so that you know what his problem is and understand him. . . He must have some kind of problem since he's unemployed and such, you should just talk to him straightly.
Hope this matter will be solved and you guys will be back as you used to be
Posted 5/3/13
Sell him and buy a new friend.
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Posted 5/3/13
Just dump him.
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Posted 5/3/13
So until about a year ago you two were in school together and hung out all the time? If so then this behavior isn't too surprising.

There could be a few reasons why he is doing this. The first is he is under stress and just doesn't want to deal with people right now. I can tell you from experience living at home and not having a job is stressful, especially if his parents are on his case about it all the time and if unemployment is high where you are that could also be adding to his stress. The second is that he has a life outside your friendship and while it may not seem like he would/is busy to you maybe he really is. The third is that people change maybe he just isn't the person you grew up with anymore and he just doesn't feel like you two have a lot in common anymore.

My best advice would be to give him some space and stop texting him all the time. He still contacts you from time to time and that is good, so back off a little and let him set the pace of the friendship (contact him one a month at the most if you don't hear anything for a while). I would also suggest that you get out there and make a few more friends.
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Posted 5/8/13
He's obviously going through some problems, if you care about him that much stick with it (maybe get him some therapy) and somethings bound to give just try not to shun him back and get angry at him for doing what he's doing (that's probably the worst thing you can do). Everyone has problems try and stick with him until he's comfortable to talk about it with you. Or if you're close like THAT forcibly drag his *ss out of the room put a football in his hands and tackle his *ss until he's starts acting right again.
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you're saying you are the only friend he has, yet you're thinking of drop him?? he needs help you know.. at least if you are there when he needs you, it will help.. talk to help him if this problem really is bothering you.. and if he replied negatively, just don't leave him.. he might say to leave him alone and yes, don't force him to speak up. to be alone meaning, he's struggling against himself and just make sure that friend of yours doesn't do anything stupid while he's in that state. unemployed is a depress, if you have any suggestion for him, it will be better to talk to him and see what he says. Talk to him will help you giving ideas to what he's actually thinking of at the moment.

if you want to be more understanding of him, put yourself in his shoes
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Posted 5/8/13
my question is, does he owe you any monies

then we can go from there
Posted 5/12/13

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I've known my friend Matt for about 8 years. We've been friends since my early childhood. Growing up, we always spent a great deal of time hanging out together, making plans regularly, and just having a normal friendship. Things were never a problem. Fast forward to now.

Matt currently doesn't have a job. He's 19, unemployed, doesn't go to school, and essentially stays home and mooches off his parents. He spends most of his time playing video games and doesn't really have an excuse for anything. So the problem is, over the last year or so, he has started to shun me completely.

Basically, he doesn't respond to my text messages anymore. Doesn't respond to phone calls, and overall completely neglects our friendship. Whenever I ask him to hang out, he essentially ignores my texts, and then a few days later, he messages me saying "want to make plans?" and naturally, I always agree. We meet up, hang out and have a good time, and then we part ways, and he goes back to completely ignoring me all over again. It doesn't make any sense. He doesn't have anything going on his life, so obviously he's not "too busy" to return my messages. I seriously don't know what his problem is. When we're together, we have a great time.

Then when we part ways, the pattern begins all over again. It just doesn't make sense to me. He always has his phone on him. He is always texting when I'm around him. I don't think it's fair that I am always willing to give him the time of day, but when I occasionally want to talk to him or make plans, he just completely shuts me out.

Realistically yes, I can drop him as a friend, but I don't really have any other friends besides him, and I value my friendship with him so it would be difficult to drop him. But if he continues to just neglect our friendship like this and shun me, I wonder if I should bother. I am the only real-life friend he has. He doesn't hang out with anybody else, nor does he know anybody else locally. So for him to even shun his only friend, that just makes things even worse. Any advice?


I think you should just confront him and ask him. If he starts getting really awkward and 'off' with you, you should ask him what is his problem with you. If he really was your friend he wouldn`t treat you like that... :/
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Posted 5/26/13
TL;DR they are probably not your friends
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Posted 5/26/13 , edited 5/26/13
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