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Are all teenage girls this masochistic?
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I've been bumping into a strange phenomenon lately,
a phenomenon which seems to repeat itself in a very consistent and almost regular pattern.

Around the age of 15/16 I kept an eye open for a nice young lady to possibly date and form some sort of intimate relationship with. Over those years I met a few interesting girls that I socialized with a quite a bit. I ended up inviting 3 of them (only two of them knew each other) to do fairly casual, non-imposing things such as coffee or lunch or dinner or sometimes a movie. All of them being single, only one of them took me up on the offer. The rest refused, saying they either weren't interested, or they "had other plans" in that tone of voice that is expected of someone who is in a rush to form some sort of excuse. And that one girl who did accept my offer set me aside and friend-zoned me a few days later, anyways.

As you would imagine I wasn't exactly enthralled about my luck with girls in general. I then came to the conclusion that I was the third wheel of theirs for a lot of things. So I did the easiest I could and cut them all loose. It's not like they cared, I got a small handful of mildly concerned texts and frowns in the hallway but that only lasted a month or so. I was pretty jaded and so I had decided that I'd give myself a nice long break from the opposite sex for the time being and focus all my time and money on only myself and my real friends.

NOW, one year to a year and a half later I've had all of these girls come to me some time within a year. They talk to me and pester me and poke and prod at me (to varying degrees due to each personality). It's like they completely forgot I was the kid they bluntly rejected barely 12 months ago. Even when I treat them like complete and utter trash to get them off my back they don't seem to get the idea. I haven't changed anything other than the way I've been distancing myself from girls for my own good. I look the same, I dress the same, I do the same things as before. What the hell do they want from me this time? Are they all masochists at this age or something? Is it something in the water? Have I started emitting pheromones that attract teenage girls?

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So these girls were your friends? You asked them out? All, but one rejected you, by the sounds of it in a nice way. One went out with you and she decided not to take things any further with you. You got upset, cut them all loose and then you start treating them like trash.

I bet they're making fun of you. I mean if someone was my friend up until the point I turned them down, than I would know they wanted more out of me than just my friendship. To be honest with you, I would say you're the bad guy here. I mean look at what you just wrote.

I feel sorry for these girls and if they are pissing you off. I would say you deserve it.


You're damn right they made fun of me. Gossip spreads like weeds.
I didn't invite them because I wanted them lay with them. I invited them out somewhere else other than school just because I wanted to see them. That was stupid of me because asking a member of the opposite sex to do something outside of a classroom of this age group obviously means you want to to be involved in a romantic relationship and you want them to take the next step, right?

Saying I was interested engaging in an intimate relationship was a bit out of context. I had thought of these girls as friends of mine, and after spending large portions of my time with them at school I thought it was a good idea to hang out together some place we weren't obligated to be. The idea that I might at some point date one was an afterthought.
They were single so I didn't think it would be an issue.

Them being the stock school girl archetypes in regards to spreading gossip, word that I had "asked out" out these girls bit me in the ass.
My name at school was shit-canned by them out of some stupid assumption they made on their own.

It's not like reputation matters to me now, high school is almost done for me and I just want to get out.

But what concerns me is that they think they can just fall back into the arms they stepped on as if I'm obligated to give half a shit.
They can't take any of the blatantly obvious hints that I don't want to share in any type of intercourse with them whatsoever, whether it be verbal or physical.

And now it's gotten to where I simply don't care anymore. I just treat those three however I want.








Give me your thoughts, for the spirit of conversation, of course.

tl;dr: Oh great Crunchyroll forum, thy ultimate purveyor of advice regarding human relations, tell me, are all teenage girls (whether they're conscious of it or not) masochistic?

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Well this is a new spin on the "Why aren't girls into nice guys" genre.
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You learned the secret to getting chicks into you. Don't worship them and don't spend a dime on them. Honestly, most of them respect you for being a dick.

Just bang 'em and leave 'em bro. 17 is all about having fun. Indulge.

Chivalry is dead, and feminism killed it.
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^ what the peaguy said

don't put others on a pedestal and don't expect things to always work out the way you plan

I wouldn't call all of them masochists, don't generalize like that
It could be that the girls you chose to like just happened to act that way, doesn't mean all girls do
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Rito2Ru wrote:

^ what the peaguy said

don't put others on a pedestal and don't expect things to always work out the way you plan

I wouldn't call all of them masochists, don't generalize like that
It could be that the girls you chose to like just happened to act that way, doesn't mean all girls do


Follow the Professor's lead, ya'll:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SzMrUc6e204

Being nice doesn't get you laid. Not with the chicks you wanna bang.
Posted 1/20/13 , edited 1/20/13
Being a masochistic myself.
I don't really look for guys who act kinda cold.
I look for guys who are nice and funny, but can also satisfy me that way.
Honestly, most girls like the bad boys.
But its the nice guys that get freaky.
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Honestly, most girls like the bad boys.


There you go, folks. The Russian above me confirmed what the so called misogynists preach about women.

It's funny when they think the bad boys are father material until it's too late to change their minds after giving birth. Cue poindexter nice guy to take on these single mum skanks and their bastard children.
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I made a program to decode girl's thoughts.



Here's the results:

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Aimyay wrote:

Have I started emitting pheromones that attract teenage girls?



LOLLL, DKM. Okay, well, speaking as a girl: no, not all girls are that masochistic. But I think the others are right; those girls probably missed you giving them all that attention. Also, are you in your last year of hs? Maybe they want you to be their prom date or something. That's the only thing I can think of for them snubbing you and now wanting you back in their life during this time. Some girls can be real users.
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thepeaguy wrote:

Chivalry is dead, and feminism killed it.


I find it comforting to know that I barely have to even acknowledge let alone respect the subject of my own desire in order to get exactly what I want.
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There is some truth to that.

From my experiences at least.

Eff it, I'm bringing back "Smack a Hoe Day."
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Aimyay wrote:

Have I started emitting pheromones that attract teenage girls?

MOST girls can be real users.


Fixed.

Facts to support this. High divorce rate, alimony, child support...

You make yourself a bitch to anyone they'll treat you as such.

I think most males need to wake up with women. Respect is earned, not given. Spending a dime on your gf just to get some poon is the same as prostitution.

Anyway be unreliable, confident, and some broad will kiss your feet.
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That sounds absolutely droll.
I despise the teenagers that surround me. Too bad I am one of those hormone raging freaks. Just kidding.
A lot of my gal friends act like this toward guys... I never understood why. Maybe I'm too young at the moment.
But I've never understood any teenager before, so I don't know how aging would benefit me in understanding it...
I guess since you're older, (within 12 months? I dunno,) and people change, they saw you for an attractive, enticing man and not a boy and thus proceed to pester you.

But, I've seen it all before. From what I've witnessed, some girls who are lost in life at such a young age are indeed masochistic. I am not, in under any circumstances masochistic. It may be because when my father figure abandoned me, another stepped into repair it... What I'm saying is, those girls don't really have a father figure to look up to, so they pester you and crave love from you.

Or maybe not.

Maybe girls are just attention whores.
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When you say you cut them loose, did you make it clear what you were doing and why? It might just be concern if you didn't. Seriously, people like to demonize girls who aren't looking for a romantic relationship with someone, but the truth is they probably did want to be your friend still. Don't treat them like trash, just politely make it clear what's going on, and then ignore them if they keep bothering you. If you really want to know what's caused the change, ask them.

Anyway, no, not all teenage girls are masochists. You can't generalise like that. Shocking as it may seem, females are people too, and there's just as much variety between us as there are other humans.
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renactually wrote:


Aimyay wrote:

Have I started emitting pheromones that attract teenage girls?



LOLLL, DKM. Okay, well, speaking as a girl: no, not all girls are that masochistic. But I think the others are right; those girls probably missed you giving them all that attention. Also, are you in your last year of hs? Maybe they want you to be their prom date or something. That's the only thing I can think of for them snubbing you and now wanting you back in their life during this time. Some girls can be real users.


Yes, I am in my last year of high school. However, if that were the case the joke's on them.

I won't be attending prom.

I will definitely be graduating, I just don't find the whole concept of grad night worth spending hundreds of dollars on.

Regardless to if they are using me or not I wouldn't mind giving them a taste of their own bitter medicine.
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