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Guys... Can't stop thinking of Girls?
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Posted 2/2/13

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There is no reason why I shouldn't group everyone as the same. I am not a narcissist, I care about the well-being of every single person. I care about them so much that I carefully coordinate my actions in hoping that I do not upset them in any way possible. If there is any chance at all that the outcome of a conversation will be option c, then I would rather not have the conversation in the first place. Since I can't time travel and undo my actions, I analyze each situation to the fullest extent in order to not make a mistake. I have learned through my past experiences that it is better to assume that a girl will not like me and it is best to just leave them alone.


That's a very sad way to live. If you are always walking on egg shells, what joy would you get from that. Just because you've had a few bad experiences doesn't mean they all will be bad. Living to please everyone will bring no one pleasure. Living to take joy in your own life will bring yourself and others happiness. Maybe not immediately... but come on, what can you offer people if you are always under a rock.
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That's a very sad way to live. If you are always walking on egg shells, what joy would you get from that. Just because you've had a few bad experiences doesn't mean they all will be bad. Living to please everyone will bring no one pleasure. Living to take joy in your own life will bring yourself and others happiness. Maybe not immediately... but come on, what can you offer people if you are always under a rock.


Although I agree, it's not like people can help the empathy they feel for others.
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ireflection wrote:


lordseth23 wrote:


There is no reason why I shouldn't group everyone as the same. I am not a narcissist, I care about the well-being of every single person. I care about them so much that I carefully coordinate my actions in hoping that I do not upset them in any way possible. If there is any chance at all that the outcome of a conversation will be option c, then I would rather not have the conversation in the first place. Since I can't time travel and undo my actions, I analyze each situation to the fullest extent in order to not make a mistake. I have learned through my past experiences that it is better to assume that a girl will not like me and it is best to just leave them alone.


That's a very sad way to live. If you are always walking on egg shells, what joy would you get from that. Just because you've had a few bad experiences doesn't mean they all will be bad. Living to please everyone will bring no one pleasure. Living to take joy in your own life will bring yourself and others happiness. Maybe not immediately... but come on, what can you offer people if you are always under a rock.


I do not care about personal happiness or joy, they mean nothing to me, I would sacrifice anything for the well-being of others. I can tell you right now that staying out of the lives of people brought pleasure to their lives, I personally witnessed this with my own two eyes. There is no reason to believe that my birth wasn't a mistake. Everybody would be better off if I did not try to be their friend.
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Although I agree, it's not like people can help the empathy they feel for others.


I agree, and know. Without empathy people would be cold hearted.



ehhh, but what you know to be truth of your past doesn't mean it will be truth for your future. and i'm sure if you were a mistake, you're parents would not allow you to be born. I don't know you, I don't know what you've been through other than the little bit that you've shared, but I can certainly say with confidence not everything is going to end up with the same results, even if you use the same methods.
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its snowing outside ermhagawd
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I don't spend much time thinking about girls. Every once and a while I'll get a little infatuated with someone and think about them for a while. Or like when I'm sitting in class and a girl will choose to sit right next to me when there's plenty of other seats I'll wonder if they like me or something (Lame, I know). I then awake from my stupor and analyze their personality and realize that the chances of them liking me slim to none. If it did somehow occur though, I realize that I'd have to change most of my current life, dreams of my future, and then dedicate myself to trying to please them. That is something I simply cannot do.

Whether or not I like a girl, it simply won't work. Thinking pleasant thoughts for a little while is okay, then I move on with my life. I might start caring one day, but for now, females (and other humans) are merely background noise.

Besides, dating is a chore that I don't care to do. It is a failure as a system. This "truth" called dating has only existed in it's current form for a century. Other systems were in place before this one (and I don't only speak of the closed "dowry" related systems).


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ireflection wrote:



Why group everyone as the same. Obviously that doesn't always happen or beautiful people would always be with beautiful people. Introverts would never find anyone they could connect with off line. So on and so forth.


There is no reason why I shouldn't group everyone as the same. I am not a narcissist, I care about the well-being of every single person. I care about them so much that I carefully coordinate my actions in hoping that I do not upset them in any way possible. If there is any chance at all that the outcome of a conversation will be option c, then I would rather not have the conversation in the first place. Since I can't time travel and undo my actions, I analyze each situation to the fullest extent in order to not make a mistake. I have learned through my past experiences that it is better to assume that a girl will not like me and it is best to just leave them alone.


There will always be a chance of C, as humans are complicated creatures, even the ones that appear simple. If you wait for a 0% of C, it will never come. Every decision we make have various paths it could take based on variables that we know, and others we don't. Every action is a gamble, some are just safer than others.

Although, I also find it best not to converse with women. The cultural framework in which people are shaped in my geographical location creates people that will never understand or support me. They bore me with their ignorance and arrogance. Even societies outcasts tend to be merely people who deny what they perceive as reality even though they hold it as truth in there subconsciousness. To rebel is pointless if it's merely ignoring the past and living in their glorious "present". But I digress...


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its snowing outside ermhagawd


Your right, it is snowing outside. OMXWGoodness
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it's good that us guys can't stop thinking about girls. as long as there not bad. lol
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Meh i don't really care about women all that much. Most of them are incredibly uninteresting too me so i just do my own thing and find happiness in what i want to do. Eventually i will stumble upon some girl i can actually connect with and then i will pursue it, but even if that day never comes i will be working towards my own happiness and my own goals. I don't need someone else to complete me, they can only add too my happiness.
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Its going to be snowing here soon! - I just had to add that in with all of the weather break posts.

Here's a question for people since we are on the subject of girls and being excited about them - where does one actually find a nice one these days?
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Posted 2/2/13

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Its going to be snowing here soon! - I just had to add that in with all of the weather break posts.

Here's a question for people since we are on the subject of girls and being excited about them - where does one actually find a nice one these days?


Every girl is nice, why would you think they aren't nice? Just because they appear mean does not make them a mean girl, they just need the proper affection.
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Posted 2/2/13

lordseth23 wrote:


JediPrime wrote:

Its going to be snowing here soon! - I just had to add that in with all of the weather break posts.

Here's a question for people since we are on the subject of girls and being excited about them - where does one actually find a nice one these days?


Every girl is nice, why would you think they aren't nice? Just because they appear mean does not make them a mean girl, they just need the proper affection.


That was very philosophical of you, however, there are mean girls in this world. Albeit, it might have been from upbriging, their hurts, pains or rejections, a trigger, or a fascade they have developed in life or a defense mechanism of sort - this applies to guys too as well. There are inherently nice people who chose to try to better themselves in the eyes of others and not be selfish in a negative way.





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Its a shame a lot of guys on here only are interested if the girl is 'hot' What about different qualities?
Posted 2/2/13

JediPrime wrote:


lordseth23 wrote:


JediPrime wrote:

Its going to be snowing here soon! - I just had to add that in with all of the weather break posts.

Here's a question for people since we are on the subject of girls and being excited about them - where does one actually find a nice one these days?


Every girl is nice, why would you think they aren't nice? Just because they appear mean does not make them a mean girl, they just need the proper affection.


That was very philosophical of you, however, there are mean girls in this world. Albeit, it might have been from upbriging, their hurts, pains or rejections, a trigger, or a fascade they have developed in life or a defense mechanism of sort - this applies to guys too as well. There are inherently nice people who chose to try to better themselves in the eyes of others and not be selfish in a negative way.







^ this. I have had the misfortune of meeting some of the 'party girl' category of women and a lot of them are very full of themselves and jackasses. I don't care how attractive a girl is if she's a jerk.

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lordseth23 wrote:


ireflection wrote:


lordseth23 wrote:


There is no reason why I shouldn't group everyone as the same. I am not a narcissist, I care about the well-being of every single person. I care about them so much that I carefully coordinate my actions in hoping that I do not upset them in any way possible. If there is any chance at all that the outcome of a conversation will be option c, then I would rather not have the conversation in the first place. Since I can't time travel and undo my actions, I analyze each situation to the fullest extent in order to not make a mistake. I have learned through my past experiences that it is better to assume that a girl will not like me and it is best to just leave them alone.


That's a very sad way to live. If you are always walking on egg shells, what joy would you get from that. Just because you've had a few bad experiences doesn't mean they all will be bad. Living to please everyone will bring no one pleasure. Living to take joy in your own life will bring yourself and others happiness. Maybe not immediately... but come on, what can you offer people if you are always under a rock.


I do not care about personal happiness or joy, they mean nothing to me, I would sacrifice anything for the well-being of others. I can tell you right now that staying out of the lives of people brought pleasure to their lives, I personally witnessed this with my own two eyes. There is no reason to believe that my birth wasn't a mistake. Everybody would be better off if I did not try to be their friend.


I see you're still going to put yourself down after all this time and you wont budge. I knew you were putting yourself down because you're fixed on the thought that you arent fit to be the friend of any females but now you talk about your birth being a mistake and the whole "Everybody would be better off if I did not try to be their friend." This is not normal and certainly not good. I may be overstepping the line by saying this but if you act like this outside of the CR forums then you'd be best seeing a depression therapist. Depression is a illness and is treatable.
Posted 2/2/13
Uh, just at that age? lol
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