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Can friends influence a relationship?
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Posted 1/29/13
I have very few friends and none of them would do anything like that. As for my family they know I'd do what I wanted anyway as I hate being told what to do, I would get pissed off at them if they kept saying stuff about a girl I was with to me. I wouldn't stand for them making her feel uncomfortable, I wouldn't do that to someone they loved and would expect the same. It's all hypothetical as they wouldn't do it anyway.
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19 / M / Ctf_2fort
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Oh yeah. Two words, peer pressure. But of course, that is not always the case.
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38 / M / Charleston, SC
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Posted 1/29/13

wwe wrote:




LOL haha, but what happens if you go down the ladder? it kinda happen with me, I went from gf to friends with benefits can i go back up the ladder again?


The ladder goes up and down unless you hit the "wife" bracket. Then it's a lateral move to the side with "Divorce". However the "Divorce" Bracket would put friend influence as high as girlfriend, i.e. more influence than "wife", while still being higher on the ladder than "girlfriend".

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that's good to know, i'm trying to go back up the ladder and stay up and hopefully if i make it to the wife part, there wont be no divorce part
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They really shouldn't... But they do.
For example, I still see people sending their friends to go ask out someone for them. And I'm in my Sophomore year of highschool.
Time to grow up, suck it up.

I've seen friends influence relationships, both good and bad... But mostly bad, unfortunately.

I've also had a really bad break up because my friend told me she liked my boyfriend. Jesus Christ.
That put a lot of awkwardness into the situation, and I eventually
broke up with him because she would never shut up about him...
And he would continuously feel uncomfortable everytime she was around us,
and say dangerous things like "I should just kill myself..." In front of him.

BITCH. SLAP.
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I'm not sure, I hope I'm the only one who keep my romance away from my friends and family/keep away my bf from them.
I don't like talking relationship-drama with my family and friends, if I were seek advice about my relationships I always talk about it hypothetically (there, I had to say I take measure on their advice). I reason avoiding awkwardness =_= since I'm the type of person who'd die out of awkwardness. ><

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It's mainly how you decide to let it influence you. It can have a grand effect or not.

It's the time you spend between them that tears them apart.

It depends also on how clingy people are.

I'm lucky to have such a open bf.
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Yes, most definitely. Even if you're one of those people that doesn't really care about what others think, and even if your friends don't actively try to influence your relationship, what they think about the relationship or the person has an influence.
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Posted 1/30/13
if they are your "true" friends they wouldn't influence your relationship
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I say they can, and I seen it happen, I wont l let happen to me but i know ppl can influence a relationship. Sometimes for the good but mostly for the bad.
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28 / M / Toledo
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I have no friends to influence my non-existent relationships but if I had both of them at the same time I would say yes friends can. They shouldn't in most cases but there are times when it is better for a friend to step in and try and point things out to you. Like if you are treating the other person poorly and somehow don't realize it or if they are doing something behind your back and you don't know about it. I would say those are some of the only times a friend should get involved. I do think however that the friend shouldn't directly be influencing the relationship and at most should just be allowing you to see it from different perspectives and decide what to do on your own.
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Posted 1/30/13
Friends can influence relationship.
Family can influence relationship.
Her family/friends can influence relationship.
Your work schedule can influence relationship.

Our life isn't isolated, everything can influence everything else.
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Posted 1/30/13
If your girlfriend or boyfriend doesn't like your best friend then relationship is doomed. I've also had girlfriends that were jealous that I like my best friend more than them. So I try to explain "Well yeah he's my best friend I like him better than anyone not just you". Needless to say that never goes over well.
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Yeah it does. A friend's opinion always count and if your boyfriend doesn't like your friend it gets really complicated. But if they really love you, they will try to get along because they know that it would make you happy. If the relationship fails is because they didn't love you enough.
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28 / M / Atlanta
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Posted 1/30/13
You dictate how much someone influences you. It is a choice, as are most things in life.
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