First  Prev  1  2  Next  Last
To tell or not to tell?
47026 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
Offline
Posted 2/3/13
Well, tonight i was in a car wreck and I`m now laid up on the couch in my room bored to tears; so i decided to surf the forums which is a rarity for me. Any who as i perused about i found a few topics about hiding your anime, manga, games, etc.; which made me wonder about other peoples' how should i put this, experiences. In which i mean how friends or girlfriends reacted or treat/treated you about your anime.

Me for example, case and point, I'm your standard college student who barely articulates myself any where near as i could even on a common day to day level with my friends and when i have one my girlfriends, i drink to much; basically my general crowd of people can't even fathom the possibility of even watching anime, I have turned a few however which I'm quite happy about, but i get crap for it all the time. I even had a girlfriend in high school almost break up with me for it which i in turn broke up her for being so judgemental. Even the current girl im talking to me laughs about it all the time, she only thinks its funny so "meh", but yes i feel its better to tell despite people being beyond annoying about it.

I realize that this reads as me being a douche possibly and condescending but that was not my intent in any way simply wondering about other peoples' stories and reactions and if they feel like they should not have told their friends or girlfriends or boyfriends what ever way you wish to put it. So how do ya'll feel about it? (yes i'm from texas)





P.S. I apologise ahead of time if this is too similar to another post or if the exact one is already up and i did not come across it.
26281 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
27 / M / Toledo
Online
Posted 2/3/13
Meh I don't know anyone offline so I can't comment on it. All of the people online I have told about it just don't care or are into it themselves.
21561 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
35 / M / Northern California
Offline
Posted 2/3/13
All but one of the girlfriends I've had were at least receptive to watching anime; the rest had positive reactions, or were already avid watchers. In the case of the one exception, she had some very...odd misconceptions about it, was mostly unwilling to hear reasonable arguments to the contrary, and combined with the other ways in which our personalities differed, the relationship just didn't work out.

My girlfriend loves anime and games, so this relationship doesn't have that issue, thankfully. My line of work revolves around games, so anyone who can't accept/support that would just be wasting their time with me, to put it quite bluntly. Anime is a large part of that too, as there's often something on the TV or computer, either while I'm working, or not actively gaming.

I've pretty much taken an "Accept me as I am, or don't even bother; I'm done with trying to change who I am just to satisfy someone else's morals." policy when it comes to relationships, including friendships. This doesn't apply to things about myself that I want to change, of course. It also doesn't mean I'll seek to be an ass about things, but at least when it comes to certain aspects I hold dear, I'm not dropping them from my life because someone I'm close to fails to understand them. Life's too short for that. I wouldn't want to do that to someone I'm close to...unless the thing I would want them to drop were something truly self destructive...like meth. (Can't say I've ever had to go that route, but it's a fair example.)

I look at it this way: Given the choice, I'd rather enjoy my hobbies alone than try to enjoy them while surrounded by people who may never understand them; much less care enough to be open minded in the first place.
xddbad 
34139 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
22 / M / Austin, TX
Offline
Posted 2/3/13
I don't hide it, All i have are DVD/Blu-Rays nothing else anime related. I also have a respectable job, so people don't generally question it. everyone has the quirky things they like.
7307 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
31 / F
Offline
Posted 2/3/13
I've never felt the need to hide my interests in any relationship... to put it bluntly, if someone does not like the fact that I love anime they can simply walk away. Most of my past boyfriends didn't watch it, but they also didn't see any reason to keep me from doing so. There were even a select few that enjoyed it along with me. My current boyfriend has seen more than I have and is always recommending great new series for me to watch.

For a vast majority of the people who watch anime, it becomes a part of their lives... a part of who they are... why should you ever have to hide something like that? I refuse to change, or hide who I am to suit someone else's tastes, and honestly don't see why anyone should feel like they are being forced to do so.
41933 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
25 / M / Sydney, Australia
Offline
Posted 2/3/13 , edited 2/3/13
Nah, I'm totally shameless when it comes to telling people about my inglorious habits (anime, video games) or sexuality.

But I can relate to your experiences, in high school, when I told people I was gay, I lost literally all my friends and never got invited to any party ever again. People are ashamed to hang around me (I use present tense because I think it still applies today). In college, when I told people I play video games as my hobby, they stopped talking to me.

I've never been the sort of person who cares about keeping friends, but people's negative reaction still hurt me... so I can totally understand those who are unsure about telling people how much they're into anime/video games because a lot of people disapprove of these things.




And... to answer the original question: To tell or not to tell...
"Not tell", which is pretty much contradictory from what I've said above... but when I come to think about it, it doesn't make a difference if people know what you're into or not. It can forever be a secret... which makes it even more enjoyable.
24319 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
17 / M / Tórshavn
Offline
Posted 2/3/13
Well, it's like gaming, it was very "omg nerd" if you played a game, now it's getting more and more popular, this will happen to anime too, I think <.<! People just turn it down right away because they are afraid of the negative popularity it would give them, which I say is BS. -.-
26281 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
27 / M / Toledo
Online
Posted 2/3/13
In my opinion though as far as being unsure about not telling people is concerned is that if you are really that afraid of losing a friend or relationship because the other person or people dislike whatever your interests are that much then it is better in the long run to just be open about it. You may lose people who can't deal with it but eventually you will find people who share your interests and you won't have that unease to deal with anymore making you happier for it. People need to just be proud of who they are and what they like because there will always be someone out there who can relate in some way.
4427 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
19 / M
Offline
Posted 2/3/13
Is that so? I guess it isn't the norm for the type of people you hang around with. Maybe you should start being how you really are and want to be? Just saying.
21372 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
21 / M / Amegakure
Offline
Posted 2/3/13 , edited 2/3/13
I don't enjoy being social with people so I have no need to bring it up. However, if on a rare occasion of casual conversation someone asks me about my hobbies/interests, I make it known that I very much enjoy anime. If they laugh at/criticize me for watching it, I just end the conversation and cut them out of my life immediately.
30 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
29 / F / Iligan City
Offline
Posted 2/3/13
be yourself you dont have to pretend :)
14101 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
F
Offline
Posted 2/3/13
Of course you should tell!!!! be yourself XD don't care about what other people think XD if they have a prob with it screw them XD who are they to judge you xD i don't hide it never have and never will XDXDXDXDXD neither should you don't be ashamed find some1 thats interested in the same things xD
23221 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
21 / F / Your Cookie Jar
Offline
Posted 2/3/13
I don't really have to tell anyone... cause I draw anime all the time so people notice. Almost all my friends love anime as much as me or even more. I swear every time I meet a new person in college.. they love anime. It's like a magnet XD

I have like 2 friends who don't like anime (well one of them likes a couple animes but still says she don't like it... ). They're still my buds though, I love them <3

My boyfriend loves anime too, even if we don't like the same genre :O
24725 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
F / Urban South
Offline
Posted 2/3/13 , edited 2/3/13
What's the point in keeping it a secret? It's not like it's embarrassing at all, not compared to shows like Jersey Shore.
Actually, since I don't know what you watch, I can't say whether or not you should be ashamed of yourself. But if you like to watch embarrassing stuff, then eventually you're going to have to own up to it.
15180 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
100 / Deep in the Nano...
Offline
Posted 2/3/13 , edited 2/3/13

JayVeeDees wrote:

Well, it's like gaming, it was very "omg nerd" if you played a game, now it's getting more and more popular, this will happen to anime too, I think <.<! People just turn it down right away because they are afraid of the negative popularity it would give them, which I say is BS. -.-


This is the exact response that holds the most truth. I've gotten some flack about this stuff back in highschool,
tho most of the friends I have are actually into this,
alot of them are guys but I do have a few close GF's that are into it with me,
but yes it is the image that peopole are most concerned with.


First  Prev  1  2  Next  Last
You must be logged in to post.